"White Moonlight": Is Yang Yan, Zhang Yi, or Zhang Xin the poorest person in the show? neither

　　 "White Moonlight" just came to an end shortly, aside from its bad ending, there are some points worth discussing.

　　 The strong woman Zhang Yi was cheated, and Zhang Xin was ruined by Yang Yan, the young man, his wife was separated, and both family and career failed.

　　 Who is the poorest person? Is it Zhang Yi, Zhang Xin, or Yang Yan who suffered domestic violence and derailed his ex-husband?

　　 In my opinion, none of them, the poorest person in the whole show is not them, but Yang Yan's son Wang Lu.

　　 A twelve-year-old boy could have enjoyed his childhood carefree, and could play and study innocently and happily, regardless of the troubles of life.

　　 But life has not been as smooth as ever. Yang Yan suffered domestic violence from her husband and was also seen by Wang Lu. Wang Lu was only six years old that year, and she had taken her mother to the hospital like an adult.

　　 Wang Lu lacked the love of his father in childhood. He was still a child and needed to be taken care of. However, as time passed, he gradually played the role of a man in his life, caring about comforting his mother from time to time.

　　 are precocious.

　　 Yang Yan's love for her son is a bit abnormal. She wanted to make up for the lack of Wang Lu's father's love, so she cheated.

　　 She came to Zhang Xin not because of his wealth, courage, and love, but only because of Zhang Xin's good father's personality.

　　 She thought that as long as Zhang Xin was snatched from Zhang Yi's hand, she could achieve her goal and give Wang Lu a complete home and fatherly love.

　　 completely ignored, what she was thinking, was it what Wang Lu really wanted?

　　 Wang Lu thinks is that her mother can always find the happiness that truly belongs to her, a person who is truly good to her and who truly loves her.

　　 It is not difficult to understand why Wang Lu reacted surprisingly when he met Zhang Xin. He blamed his mother for deceiving him, unable to accept the reality blow, and ran away.

　　 Yang Yan asked him what he was running.

　　 Wang Lu cried and answered: He is not a good man at all, he can't give you happiness at all.

　　 Yeah, what a good man Zhang Xin, a man with a wife and children, who would cheat, what a good man. If he can betray his marriage and his wife, wouldn't he betray Yang Yan? Same thing.

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　　 The child's world is actually very simple. He doesn't think so complicated. In his cognition, it is the same as what he sees. He thinks that Zhang Xin will leave his wives and daughters, and he will leave them one day.

　　 Wang Lu really thinks about is always a person who treats his mother nicely from the bottom of his heart, not a man with family children.

　　 Even if Yang Yan finds a single or divorced man, it is better than finding a man who betrays the family. At least, it hurts and blows more.

　　 Everyone, including Yang Yan, treats him as a child. When Zhang Yi is chatting with him, he will treat him as a buddy as an adult. Their relationship is equal.

　　This shows that Wang Lu desires to be noticed and valued, because he values ​​his inner world, not his achievements.

　　 It’s a pity that Yang Yan never realized this and never treated Wang Lu as an independent person. Unknowingly, he changed from a family victim to a perpetrator, exercising emotional control over his son.

　　 Emotional control does not hurt people very small, and you will not be able to find it even as an adult. Until a certain day, you will wake up instantly. It turns out that it has penetrated into the bone marrow.

　　 high-scoring Japanese drama "Home on the Ramp", the hostess Kimi Shazah is experiencing child-rearing troubles. Husband Yoichiro not only does not help, but also derogates, denies, accuses his wife, and even personally attacks her, saying that she is mentally abnormal.

　　Yōichiro got home, he called to Risako. Once she asked her to fetch the beer, and then asked if dinner was ready, he watched TV comfortably, as if only the people at work were tired, and he would just take the kids at home. Not tired.

　　 Risako became a part-time juror, she couldn't take care of work and parenting. The pressure was huge. Yangichiro not only did not give her encouragement and support, but attacked her: "Don't force it if you can't do it.”

　　 Risako was under tremendous psychological pressure, and gradually she overlapped herself with Mizuho Ando, ​​the murderer's mother who killed her eight-month-old daughter. She vaguely felt that she was Mizuho Ando, ​​what she was enduring, and the pressure she had endured. Mizuho also endured the pain and suffering. When she couldn't bear it, she lost her energy and couldn't concentrate, so she neglected to protect her daughter and let her fall into the bathtub and drowned.

　　 Risako realized that there was a mental problem, and wanted to divorce Yoichiro. He packed his luggage and checked into the hotel. His mother came to visit her. Not only did not comfort her, but told Risako that I knew you would get a divorce on this day, and everything was up to you. If you didn't listen to your mother, you had to come to Tokyo to go to university, and you had to marry Yoichiro. The big houses in the district can't be bought, and he can't give you happiness at all.

　　's mother asked Li Shao to go back to her hometown with her and live a normal life.

　　 In an instant, Risako finally realized that she was emotionally controlled by her mother since she was a child. Every aspect of her life must be carried out in accordance with her mother's arrangements. Otherwise, if there is a problem, she will take the blame and refuse to listen to the consequences. .

　　 Why do I become cowardly, inferior, dare not express, dare not resist the character, all this is because the mother grew up, the result of control, denial, and derogation.

　　 At the finale of "Home on the Ramp", Risako finally had a showdown with her mother, telling her that she was an adult and she didn't need to intervene in her own life anymore, she needed an independent personality.

　　 Since then, Risako has lived a happy and confident married life.

　　Emotional control has a profound impact on a person. Some people live a lifetime without trying to understand why they have this kind of personality, why they become mom boys and dutiful boys, all because of their mother's long-term control.

　　 "White Moonlight" Yang Yan also changed from a victim to an emotional abuser. She forced her son to learn tennis, whether he liked it or not, as long as she wanted, the son had to accept it.

　　 She thinks that her son needs a stepdad and needs to make up for his father’s love, so she tries to break up other people’s families and seize other people’s husbands and fathers, regardless of whether the son really needs them or whether they can accept this man.

　　 Wang Lu’s childhood was shrouded in shadows and filled with trauma. He couldn't accept and couldn't imagine that his mother turned out to be a junior who broke up other people's families. What a shame and deceit.

　　 Wang Lu is just a 12-year-old boy, but he is suffering from the pain and pressure he should not have at his age. He is the poorest person in the show.