Throughout the ages, all married female compatriots must not escape an age-old problem: the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Perhaps only a handful of lucky people can successfully escape the "war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", but most people still cannot be "excluded". There are even many marriages that have fallen into trouble because of mother-in-law’s intervention. What kind of existence is the mother-in-law? How powerful is her ability to destroy a marriage and break up a family?
One day, when you finally escape the clutches of your mother-in-law and regain your freedom, do you feel as if you are relieved of the heavy burden and relaxed? When you finally bid farewell to that tangled family relationship, did you feel happy enough to fly?
It may be an exaggeration to say that. After all, no one wants a divorce. Everyone hopes to have a happy and beautiful marriage. Everyone says that marriage needs to be managed by wisdom. In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs wisdom to manage.
The ultimate "victim" of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the mother-in-law's son. Doesn't the mother-in-law really want her son to be happy? Raising a child is one hundred years old, and he is worried about ninety-nine. If you think about it, there are some rules to follow in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Unless it is really unlucky to meet a arrogant and unreasonable mother-in-law, then there is really no answer.
For example, I used to be. Many years ago, when I was in my twenties, I "married" a boy who thought he loved me very much. Because of my innocence and ignorance, I experienced a painful "marriage" for this. My mother-in-law is a very, very powerful person. Her first daughter-in-law was personally selected by her. The magic is that her son has no objections. When I was still in love with my ex-boyfriend, she disagreed with us. Later, we were still "married", but the mother-in-law did not agree to our registration. After waiting for a year, I finally saw through the choice to leave. The "ex-husband" even told me that the marriage certificate is just a piece of paper and it is not that important. I knew very clearly in my heart that this sentence meant mother-in-law. The only way for a mother-in-law who does not agree with these "three views" is to leave her son. This kind of mother-in-law, she will not value you, nor will she respect you. She just wants to break up your marriage. What else is worthy of nostalgia?
A patriarchal mother-in-law will make you suffer. At this time, if a man as a husband is able to maintain his wife with a firm attitude, he will generally not divorce easily. The war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law caused by this problem will basically not stop, because mother-in-law's thoughts cannot be changed basically. The only solution is to never live with her mother-in-law. Don't count on things like mother-in-law bringing a baby. It's best to keep a distance from your mother-in-law, as far as possible, to avoid conflicts.
An over-saving mother-in-law, I don’t want to see you spend any money on your own. Even if you are very dissatisfied: My old lady spends the money she earns, but not your money, what's wrong? The reality is that the mother-in-law is obstructing her in her eyes, she will have a strange kind of "selfishness", no matter whether you spend the money or not you earned it yourself, she thinks you are spending her son's money. What was wasted was the fruits of her son's labor. The mother-in-law will generally criticize you "prodigal" directly and ruthlessly. At this time, the only way to avoid conflict is not to let her see you buy and buy. You can buy and buy indirectly, for example in the name of your husband. My mother’s criticism of her son is irrelevant, so it’s okay to have a "crooked" mind. Hello, me, everyone.
Someone once said this sentence: In our life, it is not rare to encounter love and sex, but it is rare to encounter understanding. I think this sentence can also be changed to: In marriage, it is not rare to meet a good man and a good husband, but it is rare to meet a good mother-in-law.
"Good" mother-in-law can meet and find nothing. Sansheng was fortunate to encounter it, and it is natural not to encounter it. Whether in marriage or outside of marriage, we don’t need to please anyone. If you meet a mother-in-law who knows what is right and wrong, you just need to keep the attitude of being neither humble nor overbearing, and you won’t be noisy or tired.
