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After marriage, most women are referred to as "XX's mother" and "XX's wife", but few people say that she is herself.
In this environment, people will gradually forget their identity and devote themselves to being a good wife and a good mother, but in fact, women also long for an independent personality.
Recently, Taiwanese artist He Yuwen issued a divorce statement on the Internet, stating that he and her husband Shao Tiancheng, a small chemical company, have ended their eight-year marriage. However, due to the epidemic, the two sides have not separated yet, and the children still don't know the truth.
Actually, many people are surprised by her sudden announcement of divorce, just like her sudden marriage. Let me introduce He Yuwen first, there may be many people who don't know it well. He Yuwen, formerly known as He Yuwen, is a well-known host and actor in Taiwan Province, and an old guest of "Kangxi is Coming".
looks very pretty. When he debuted as a member of an idol group, he made a few records, but the response was average. After that, he also acted in several plays, but most of them were supporting roles, such as Luo Zhixiang's version of "Xin Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai", " Ultimate Three Kingdoms " and so on.
In fact, when she was young, she really liked to play, and there was a lot of lace news. At that time, she also advertised that she was "non-marriage". However, only half a year after meeting Shao Tiancheng, the two got married quickly. After getting married, she also shifted her focus of life to the family, opened her own yoga studio, and rarely appeared on the screen again.
A down-and-out member of the women’s team, plus countless lace news, in the downturn of his career, I met a rich second-generation dressed as an athlete, full of heart and soul to pursue myself, be nice to myself, and look good, so he naturally married .
How much Shao Tiancheng loved He Yuwen at that time, he would shout "He Yuwen I love you" on the street, and would often prepare various small surprises for her. He gave it all the romance he could think of anyway, and He Yuwen was originally a romantic lover, and soon accepted Shao Tiancheng. At that time,
appeared to the outside world as a pair of couples, Tiancheng , just like the love in a fairy tale, how could the divorce be suddenly announced and come to such a situation? In the final analysis,
is because the two people consumed each other's love at the wedding. They have different goals. How can they go on without love.
He Yuwen said, "What I need is a lover, a confidant, and what he wants is a wife and a mother."
sounds a bit hypocritical, but it is the most important reason that crushes their marriage. The contradiction between the two occurred in the first two years. At that time, some major events occurred in He Yuwen's family. His father died suddenly and his mother was critically ill. He Yuwen Faced with a double whammy, one person really wants comfort and company.
and all the husband can do is help her take the child and let her go out to heal by herself.
But what He Yuwen wants is the company and comfort of her husband. He just wants to have a chat with him, but his husband can’t give it. He even said, "I want to work and take care of the children. Do I have to take care of you?" Raise more "third daughter".
When a woman needs to rely on her heart, a person she thinks can rely on gives such an indifferent attitude. He Yuwen comforted herself at first, perhaps because she was too sensitive.
Of course, they also tried to save this marriage, did marriage counseling, and worked hard for each other for 8 months, but they ended up without work.
The two officially talked about divorce. It started at the beginning of 2019 and only officially divorced at the beginning of this year. Later, they signed the divorce. They both went hand in hand. They tried to mediate, and they were calm after separation. They should be considered as a template for breaking up.
In fact, when the two divorced, He Yuwen re-examined the marriage, and finally said, "He is a perfect father and a qualified husband, but he is not the lover I want."
In fact, many people think that in marriage, this kind of thing is very common, and it will pass after forbearance, but who is the sacrifice in the end? In the end, it's He Yuwen! She didn't want to bear it anymore, she wanted to find herself.
If you know the details of this marriage, some people will not say that. Shao Tiancheng is actually a man with a strong desire for control. He will have to ask questions about any news reports about He Yuwen. Not only that, he is extremely possessive and likes all kinds of sovereignty oaths. When
is in love, it will be considered crazy in love, but it is very stressful if it is too late after marriage.
In addition, the two also have many contradictions in parenting. After giving birth, He Yuwen's body is out of shape and will be teased by her husband; when she is depressed after childbirth, her husband will be called neurotic; just because he has two daughters in a row, he is often given birth to three children.
After the child was born, the husband's focus gradually shifted to the child, and he cared very much about the child, but he was just a "mouthed father."
has requirements for the child's diet. When He Yuwen is doing it, he will dislike He Yuwen's bad job, and even said that the pineapple buns in the supermarket are more sterile and sanitary than the ones she makes.
Not only that, he also asked He Yuwen to be at home 24 hours a day, not to have his own time to go out, but to do housework and take care of the children at home, which is scary to control.
There are many other little things in life. Disappointment accumulates slowly. When a person gains only disappointment in your relationship and accumulates disappointment, in fact, you are not far from separating .
just want to say that nowadays, in the new era, women also have the right to be themselves, not to live by someone else! What do you think?
