is only thirty in the finale of , the Douban score plummeted from 8.3 to 7.4, and was accused of "unfinished". The biggest reason why
was criticized for "unfinished" was the unsatisfactory ending. Gu Jia was perfect, giving everything to her family, her husband, and her children. As a result, her marriage was broken and the company went bankrupt and debts. The third party left unscathed and retired. Wang Manni was the first rat between her hometown and the big city. At both ends, he finally became the manager of a luxury store by relying on the big man from the sky, but finally decided to study abroad with the 100,000 yuan saved for a few years; after Zhong Xiaoqin's divorce, he was baptized by a little milk dog and relied on writing talent overnight. Fu finally decided to remarry with his ex-husband and bought a real estate for his mother-in-law with the royalties from the book. Before watching the show,
thought that they would see how the three protagonists could use their own efforts to get out of the predicament in life, but found that they either did not get out of the predicament in life at all, or were still on the road of constant toss and exploration, or achieved a counterattack in life through luck. There is not much reference for ordinary people's lives.
sulked, holding back in his heart. This may also be the reason why the reputation of TV dramas has been declining after the finale.
But if you look at it from a realistic perspective, I don't think there is much problem with this ending.
In real life, if the third party destroys the family, the loss may indeed be relatively small. Most of the people who suffer the most damage are the original partners.
, as beautiful and capable as Wang Manni, has received the attention and favor of some high-quality men, which is reasonable. Whether you want to admit it or not, the gift of a beautiful woman by fate is that there are many men vying to pave the way for her. Of course, they will also encounter more temptations and are more likely to fall into the gentle trap of men. Many beauties can't resist the temptation, and the final outcome is even worse than that of ordinary women. At least a mirage affair is arranged in the play, revealing some bloody reality.
Zhong Xiaoqin, who is as clever as a print, has "airborne" writing talent after divorce, and became rich overnight, which is the most bizarre plot in the play. But thinking about it conversely, this may not be impossible.
For example, Yang Chaoyue said: "God doesn't necessarily love smart people. One out of 10,000 will spoil stupid children. Don't give up being mediocre and stupid!"
In this era, ordinary people have more opportunities to counterattack. many. We are inclined to think that it is the reality if the powerful people are down. But the counterattack of ordinary people is also a kind of reality.
The protagonists in this play have tossed for a long time in the ups and downs of life. At the end, not only is their situation no better than at the beginning, but they fall into the old pit, even worse. So what is the meaning of these tossing?
is an inner change. Whether any work of
has its own third dimension, the most important thing is to see whether the characters grow in the story, the changes before and after the characters are the breath of vitality, and the abundance of self-fulfillment is the reason that attracts us to stop.
z2829zLet me talk about Gu Jia first. The ending of
Gu Jia is particularly unacceptable. A good family was disturbed by a junior, and the family was destroyed. The screenwriter of
was forced to stop and explain: Lin Youyou lost all dignity and left. As Gu Jia said, this relationship will become the background of her life that will never be revealed.
This has also been criticized by netizens, who think that the irony is like "you lose only a leg, and Ruping loses love!"
, but if you think about it, it may not be the case.
Gu Jia is a sober person, just like a person solved by the equation of Mr. Kazuo Inamori, the result of life and work = way of thinking x enthusiasm x ability. Gu Jia's energy in the play is very powerful, even if she becomes a housewife, she still has a firm grasp of the overall situation.
is a very mature woman, her growth can only come from a tearing life situation.
Her first growth is to see through the unreliability of shortcuts.
At the beginning, she still had illusions and awe in this circle. In order to break into the circle of rich wives,
lowered his posture and spent a lot of money to buy Hermes and worked hard to integrate. She did get some benefits from it, from sending her son to aristocratic school to getting a big order of several million without any effort. However, the success is also Xiao He, and the defeat is also Xiao He. Because of relying too much on shortcuts, she took over a tea factory that was on the verge of bankruptcy and fell into one of the biggest somersaults.
By the way, she also saw through the hypocrisy and weakness of the rich wives circle:
"Everyone lives under the name of your husbandLive, live within the radius of the value of the husband, gather together to show off and compare, the more glamorous, the sadder. "
said chicly when he left the field: "My name is Gu Jia, there will be no deadline!" "Isn’t it a relief after seeing through the hypocrisy of the “wife circle”.
's second growth is to get rid of the shackles of the family. In the marriage of
with Xu Huanshan, she has been cutting her feet to fit her.
Anything Everyone can see that she is more suitable to be the helm of the company than Xu Huanshan, and even Xu Huanshan may think the same way, but because of her native family, she is only willing to hide behind Xu Huanshan for satisfaction. Her desire for a perfect “family”. If it weren’t for various changes,
might still be struggling to maintain the “perfect” illusion of a marriage between two people. Many people think that Gu Jia didn’t give her when facing a junior What kind of punishment, instead of sending her a plane ticket home, this is too "unsatisfactory."
However, due to Gu Jia's personality, she can only react like this.
faces a person whose strength is far worse than hers. Girls, retaliate wildly to vent their hatred, this method is not advanced. Through a derailment, through the treatment of the derailment, we can see the essence behind the derailment: the two people are actually not suitable, and Xu Huanshan is not worthy of him, then calm down Solve the problem, throw away the feelings that are not suitable for you, and take on your own responsibilities. Such a woman is enough to make people awe.
is not the overflowing of the Virgin, but a woman who really needs to live to this state. It can be regarded as a clear life.
Psychology, in the face of constant shearing and chaotic relationships, there is a "control dichotomy", that is, when there are problems in the relationship, you only control what you can control Without struggling with what you can’t control, you can “draw from the bottom.” In the face of chaotic relationships, the real courage is not to punish the wrongdoer, but to quickly find a way to distinguish responsibilities, do what you should do, and accept yourself. What can’t be changed, give up what you should give up.
sounds simple, but it can be done with great wisdom. Just like the famous prayer of the theologian Reinhold Niebuhr:
my God, please give me I am calm, to accept everything that I cannot change; give me the courage to change everything I can change; and give me the wisdom to distinguish the difference between the two."
"Thirty and standing", can a person stand? Living, not only depends on whether you are elegant or not, but more importantly, the way you deal with things and the ability to respond. This is also an enlarged display of a person’s way of thinking. Even if there is no accumulation at the material level of "being", at the spiritual level of "nothing", Gu Jia is full of abundance and tenacity.
Although I am not satisfied with Gu Jiatai's too "perfect" persona in the play, it virtually increases the burden on middle-aged women. But I agree with her attitude to deal with problems, and the courage to take on and give up.
is as powerful as Gu Jia. Once you have awareness and reflection on yourself, everything in the future will not be the
that binds her. In fact, I still agree with the screenwriter’s words: "Lin Youyou lost all dignity and left, like Gu Jia said that this relationship will become the background color of her life that will never be able to tell her."
This is not the same as "What you lose is only a leg, Ruping loses love", compared to Gu Jia's loss of feelings and material , Dignity is indeed a more important aspect. Because it is also directly related to a person's spirit.
Gu Jia's relationship is inherently problematic, and Lin Youyou is just a fuse; and the business field is inherently turbulent, and Gu Jia herself has been deceived and suffered a big loss.
These are inherent problems, and Lin Youyou's arrival only caused this beautiful soap bubble to break early.
and Lin Youyou's failure in love is a heavy blow in her life and a stain that cannot be washed away. These will enter her subconscious, and then affect her life.
is like the seaweed in the "snail dwelling", although she has a rich material guarantee in the end, she will never be able to return to a normal life.
Life is not always a full moon and flowers. At those important moments when you need to make important choices, when you need spiritual nourishment, most of it comes from subconscious reactions.
those microThe difference between winning and losing is not based on who has the big house and who has more property. Sometimes it needs more confidence and courage from the heart.
So did Gu Jia really lose? Or not necessarily, she won by surpassing herself.
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