Author: small magistrate
"take medicine, then how long can the good?"
after learning he was suffering from depression, men should ask such a question to the doctor.
I think this is also the voice of many depression patients: Can be solved by taking medicine?
"Husband Has Depression" is a film adapted from a comic of the same name. It focuses on how to deal with depression, which is widespread in society but the general public lacks awareness.
The male protagonist, played by Masato Sakai, is an employee working in an Internet software company, but he has to face many complaints about the products provided by the company instead of a string of codes that run according to instructions. .
Obviously this is not a pleasant job. What he was exposed to was a steady stream of complaints from customers in addition to the pressure of his boss.
In such a high-pressure working environment, Tatsuki not only has psychological problems, but also falls into physical pain.
Anorexia, fatigue, back pain, and behavioral disorders , all of which have seriously affected the male protagonist’s work and life.
On the other hand, when the hostess learns that her husband has depression, she, like most people who don't understand this disease, first does Google (Baidu).
found through searching that from a pathological point of view, depression is caused by the inability of "information" to be transmitted smoothly due to the decrease of serotonin, the conductive substance between nerve cells, but only knowing these professional terms cannot solve the problem.
Through further review of relevant information, the heroine Haruko Takazaki learned that there are three main ways to treat depression:
1, drug therapy: use drugs to reduce symptoms
2, psychotherapy: improve mental symptoms
3, environmental adjustment method: adjustment causes disease The surrounding environment and interpersonal relationship
and the best way is to let her husband get out of his suffocating work environment and go home to recuperate.
Haruko even threatened to divorce in order to get her husband to resign and go home to recuperate. After experiencing some psychological struggle, Gan Nan finally chose to follow his wife Haruko’s suggestion and submitted his resignation to the company.
But if you want to recover from depression, it is not enough. After
resigned and went home, the mental state of the dry man has indeed been improved to a certain extent, and he is even extremely excited.
But when he returned to the clinic, the doctor's reminder made him fall into a downturn again.
"Depression is like a pendulum. The time goes up and down, and it will slowly get better in a spiral shape." Dr.
unfortunately said about the development of the male protagonist's condition. The depression did not disappear from the male protagonist. There is a "tug-of-war" between the "two sides" in the field.
And the horror of this "tug-of-war" is that when you think you are about to win, what comes may be a silent collapse.
In the movie, the lens also recorded the story of another patient with depression.
Toshio was an old customer of the barber shop run by Haruko’s mother. He used to work in Tokyo, but he chose to go home due to depression. When
returned home, he also seemed to be relieved. From the outside world, his mental state is no different from normal people, and he can even make some jokes with Haruko's mother.
But just when everyone thought Jun Fu could live a normal life, he ended his life by suicide.
"It's horrible to be half sick."
For a depressed patient, when he is determined to change his depressed state, he is also half healed.
However, behind this change is also a prerequisite, that is, whether patients have cultivated a courage to accept failuregas.
dry men also ushered in such a turning point.
From insomnia to drowsiness, and then to normal work and rest, the dry man finally achieved something on his way to overcome depression.
When Haruko asked her husband to think about something happy, Gannan said that he wanted to cook and eat what he liked.
This shows that he has begun to change his attitude towards life and wants to use some actions to meet his needs.
failed this time. His cooking was quite bad, and this frustration made him fall into a trough again, and this may make all his previous efforts fall short.
However, Gan Nan found a new way to save himself.
Haruko did not expect that the goddamn and a turtle met.
And this is actually a very interesting segment, even Haruko said: "A tortoise raises a tortoise, this is nothing."
Instead of confronting the world, it is better to be a tortoise strategically.
It can be said that under the repeated torment of depression, the dry man is very likely to go to extremes in frustration, and at that time Junfu went on the road of no return. But Qian Nan chose a path that looked disgraceful but quite effective-escape.
Just like the tortoise retracts its torso into the tortoise shell to protect himself, Gannan hides himself from reality. Under Haruko's protection, he can continue to live.
"If it is painful, then don't work hard."
This is a very controversial value concept. I think many people will ask: Is it because there is pain and not to work hard? Is it because there are difficulties that can't be overcome?
Indeed, social competition promotes social progress, and these competitions will inevitably bring pain and difficulties to individuals. For you and me involved in it, moving forward is like living in this world. .
competition has brought many achievements and auras to society and individuals, but these glories are not shared by all.
In fact, there will always be only a small group of people who can truly claim fame, and most people work hard, while the other part is struggling.
This may be a theme implied by this movie, that is, "working hard" is not the only choice in life, and "not working hard" can also become a new way of living.
After experiencing the struggle and compromise with depression, Gan Nan seems to have found a new balance. He learns to survive by "escape".
But as mentioned above, the "tortoise" therapy is only strategic. Even a tortoise must learn to forage from its shell if it wants to survive.
Unemployment of dry men has led to a sharp drop in family income, and unemployment insurance payments cannot sustain their current lives.
In this case, Haruko is determined to take on the important task of supporting the entire family. With the help of a publication editor, she found a job creating illustrations for books, which created new stimulation for the dry man.
When Gannan saw Haruko working hard, but he could not contribute to the family, he felt that he was a burden to this family and even the world.
For this world, "I" is redundant.
Countless depressed patients are stuck on this problem and cannot get out. Only those who are deeply involved know how difficult it is to take that step.
is lucky, he took that step with Haruko's company.
Awareness and recognition.
This is Haruko's "prescription" for many depression patients.
In Japan, until the end of the 1990s, the word depression was rarely heard outside the Japanese psychiatric circle. Some people even claimed that the Japanese were not depressed at all, and Prozac almost gave up the Japanese market.
In this cultural atmosphere, depression seems to be an unspeakable thing. If you don't go to the hospital, no one will think you have depression.
And this will be a huge cognitive impairment, which is not only the patient, but also the patient’s sidePeople.
Although Haruko found out what depression was through the search, she did not want to admit this fact to the outside world.
is the same as Gan Nan, for depression, she also hides in a tortoise shell, trying to avoid this reality, but when she decides to "not work hard", things turn for the better.
It was because of her "not working hard" that she accepted the fact that her husband was suffering from depression.
She also took her own step. She started working and began to experience the pressure her husband was facing. She also picked up her dream again.
Encouraged by Haruko, Gan Nan also gradually accepted the reality of suffering from depression and faced the pain directly. To defeat depression, we must start with "cognitive" depression and end with "recognition" of ourselves.
And Haruko is the first to recognize his value. Most of
take hard work for granted, but few people will say to you: turns out that your work is so tiring, it's really hard.
When Haruko and Gannan squeezed onto the morning train together, she realized that her husband rushed to the work place so hard on weekdays.
Her approval from the very beginning made the goddamn up the courage to fight depression.
And when a person with depression begins to recognize others and recognize himself, he has found a way to get rid of depression.
At the marriage classmate meeting, Gannan recognized all his wife Haruko had done for her suffering from depression.
In the process of approving his wife, he also found his own value. In order to support his wife's dreams, he contributed to the process of fighting depression, using it as the material for his wife's creation and setting up a special planning company for his wife.
and the comics written based on his experience have also helped more people to overcome depression, a disease called "inspiration."
After Haruko accompanies her husband out of the predicament, she understands what is the real depression.
Before that, she would never have thought that she would help her husband solve the question "What does it mean to live?"
"Because there is no broken, I will be here today."
The meaning of life lies in the life itself. Similarly, the meaning of each life lies in life itself. If you don't have enough wisdom to recognize all the value of your existence, please remember to recognize yourself who is thinking about this issue.
Reference:
"How Japan Began to Believe in Depression"
