Recently, Minyi’s mother watched a variety show called "The Man Doing Housework". Yuan Hong in it is really too popular!
can take the baby alone without wives to worry about, and can also do housework alone without wives. The most important thing about
is that when there are conflicts between the wife and mother, they can also help out.
What an excellent husband looks like, probably like Yuan Hong!
A good family state is that two people are working hard
I believe that every mother who has given birth has a deep understanding.
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When the child cries, the mother has to get up to coax the child. Few mornings can wake up naturally.
If the child happens to be crying while eating, the mother has to put down her rice bowl to coax the child, and it is often after the whole family has finished eating that she will go to the table.
's husband watched the game, day and night, and when he asked for help, he seemed to be equipped with a shielding device, and he couldn't hear him at all.
often turns into a husband and wife complaining to each other.
And what kind of family state is it like? Just look at Yuan Hong and Zhang Xinyi.
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From the beginning of their marriage, Yuan Hong and Zhang Xinyi seemed to have gone forever on the road of "spreading dog food". Whether it is marriage, childbirth or marriage, the two have always been very affectionate. After this time on the show, many viewers are very envious.
even the two hosts in the show called out:
-"Really!"
At 6 o'clock in the morning, Zhang Xinyi has not yet got up, and Yuan Hong has already started to get up to skillfully prepare breakfast for his wife.
heard the child crying, and was afraid that Zhang Xinyi would wake up, so he immediately put down the things in his hand and turned to coax the child.
waited for Zhang Xinyi to get up, Yuan Hong did not put the child in Zhang Xinyi's hands, but let Zhang Xinyi eat first, and sit aside to feed the child. After Zhang Xinyi finished eating, he started to eat, and after eating, he took the initiative to clean up the restaurant and wash the dishes.
finally sat down and watched the game he likes. Zhang Xinyi just said that his neck is uncomfortable. Yuan Hong immediately went over to give her a massage, showing no signs of impatientness.
don’t have to compare with other guests in the show. Just thinking about the father of Minyi who is always lying on the sofa after get off work, I feel like I’m instantly transformed into "lemon essence".
Zhang Xinyi, who had been pregnant after giving birth, had been breastfeeding, had no sleep to sleep, and was unable to lose weight. She was also subject to public discussions about her figure, whether for a female celebrity or a mother, for She paid a lot for her family and children.
and a good family status can’t just be the effort of one person, but the effort of both husband and wife.
Yuan Hong is using his own efforts to share the burden of life with Zhang Xinyi.
Husband’s best position is next to his wife
In the show, after giving birth, Zhang Xinyi first mentioned at home that he hoped that the child could be weaned gradually when the child was 6-8 months old. Yuan Hong said he certainly agreed.
Zhang Xinyi’s mother-in-law asked:
-"Do you want to go out to work, or do you think that human milk and formula milk are the same?"
Zhang Xinyi tentatively replied that she thinks she should be able to come back in a few months Already working.
Yuan Hong immediately helped his wife round the scene and said:
-"After 6 months of breastmilk, there is no nutrition. I can't eat it if I have milk."
, especially Zhang Xinyi, said that the two would take turns to work. When staying at home to take care of children.
Zhang Xinyi's mother-in-law watchShow that the mother should take more responsibility for the child, and I don't want Yuan Hong to affect his work.
and Yuan Hong expressed his support in time and expressed his support for his wife, saying that many couples in the circle follow this kind of parenting mode, and even "bring harsh words" saying:
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- "Look at all the families, the husband works outside If the wife is at home alone, the family will lose balance. In the end, it will basically end up with one divorce.” Of course, Yuan Hong said that he was not choking his mother, but to show his position from the side. A more euphemistic way stood beside Zhang Xinyi.
When there is a conflict between the wife and mother-in-law, the position of the husband is particularly important.
The husband of a friend of mine is a very good man. He has a successful career and knows that he loves his wife. The young couple have a happy life until after the friend is pregnant and giving birth. Because he is busy with work and taking care of the children, he will be the mother-in-law. Took it.
Originally only met a few people during the New Year. After getting along day and night, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are on the verge of breaking out. Coupled with the different parenting concepts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the two people basically have a quarrel every few days.
Whenever a friend has a conflict with her mother-in-law, the husband either hides or stands on his mother’s side and says to his wife:
-"She is my mother no matter how wrong she is, so you can't let her point her?"
It seems like a doctor-patient conflict. The husband is the patient, the mother-in-law is the patient’s family, and the wife is the doctor. Of course, both the mother-in-law and wife hope that their husband will get better and better, but the family's distrust of the doctor pushes the doctor farther and farther, and there is no patient enough doctor to treat the patient properly.
But in the final analysis, the patient's family must hand the patient into the hands of the doctor, and it is never the mother-in-law but the daughter-in-law who can walk with his son for a lifetime.
Faced with the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men who do nothing are the best killers of marriage.
Husband is the best lubricant for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
In fact, conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family responsibilities are inevitable in every family, and husbands often become the key to a family’s emotional development at this time.
Some people say that the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that the husband bears the anger from both sides in the middle, but for a reliable and responsible man, he should take the initiative to resolve and reconcile the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law instead of letting his wife face the fire of the family alone.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not terrible. The key lies in the attitude of the husband in the face of the conflict between wife and mother-in-law.
If the wife is dissatisfied with her mother, and the husband does not want to resolve the conflict, she will come up with "That's my mother after all, you can't bear it". How long can such a married life depend on "forbearance"?
If the mother-in-law keeps picking the daughter-in-law, the husband would rather hide in the room than come out for fear that the war will spread to him. After such a long time, even the good-tempered daughter-in-law will not be able to bear it.
Our family will also have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Every time at this time, Minyi’s father will come forward to mediate in time. If the mother-in-law is angry, he will coax her and I will speak for me when I am angry.
His attitude towards the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very smooth. He never distinguishes who is right and who is wrong, but strives to find a balance between me and mother-in-law.
The famous Argentine writer Florence Isaacs said: "Obligation is the basis of a happy and long-lasting marriage." For men, as a bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is also a task to resolve conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. obligation.
How does
husband do when there is a conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
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