Author|rose Editor|Xiao Xiao
Before the New Year, I wanted to buy a new dress before going home and spend a beautiful year, so I made an appointment with the little sister to go shopping the night before returning home. There is a clothing store in
that we often go to, because the shopping experience is very good. I was inadvertently inspired by the chat with the proprietress. Maybe the "bad girls" are more enjoyable in society and have a happier life.
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There is a clothing store here. I and a few little sisters like it very much. This store is newly opened recently. The style is very good and the quality is good. The boss is fat, and there is a cute 3-year-old daughter with her. Every time I buy clothes, I have to listen to the boss’s wife complaining about her daughter’s “too bad”, and I’m upset that I have to be invited to my parents every few times.
In order to comfort the proprietress, I calmly told her, “Girls should be a little bit bad, and they should not be messy, so we won’t suffer. You don’t have to worry about your daughter being bullied in the future.” The lady boss frowned. Said helplessly, "It was she who bullied others and beat other little boys today." I was ecstatic in my heart, this little girl can definitely walk sideways in the future.
has reached the bargaining link again. "Let’s start." I stared at the boss’s wife meaningfully, who patted her thigh, "Little Nizi, you are going to bargain with me again. I am most afraid of you coming to me!" The younger sister blinked her big cute eyes and said, "Senior sister is up to you." I smiled calmly, "I won't bargain one by one for three pieces of clothes. I'm too tired today. Let's take a 20% discount and we will buy them. , Okay?" The lady boss
said, "I really want to kick you out!" The little junior girl was obviously frightened, her eyes were full of incredible, and I instantly turned into a small grievance, "How can you treat this way? What about the customers?" The proprietress covered her face with her hands, "Well, don't forget to come to my store for the Spring Festival after the new year."
There is such a "fierce" mother, how can a daughter be bullied? It's good for her not to bully others. Before going out, I said to the proprietress, "I won again today, haha." Just for the proprietress's attitude, I will come often.
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tell everyone a "good girl" story.
A good friend of mine, Jiamei, had a long time as a "good girl" under the education of his parents. To sum it up, he has achieved that most people like themselves, but they do not like themselves. This feeling of
is not easy to describe. I would describe it in a cross-border way, just like the host Zhu Dan's "humble love". People around you all recognize you, but they don't think you are important.
Once Jiamei, in order to be a "good girl" that her parents like, she took the initiative to do housework, and she always washed her own clothes. On the other hand, my sister always used study as an excuse instead of doing housework. Instead, my mother took the initiative to find her. Clothes washing.
Although Jiamei is praised by her parents for being sensible and diligent, she longs for her mother in her heart and can take the initiative to care about her like her sister.
Jiamei talked about a very literate boyfriend during college. She never got angry with her boyfriend, and never asked her boyfriend for gifts.
Every weekend, Camry will buy two bags of fruit, one for herself and the other for her boyfriend, but her boyfriend proposes to break up on Camry’s birthday, and after Camry has been depressed for a period of time, he actively seeks reconciliation.
There is an older sister who has long been unable to watch the calculations of her boyfriend, she found an excuse to take her to the playground for a walk, and shared a little story about her being broken and scumbed.
Jiamei instantly understood her boyfriend's mind. It turned out that it was not that she was not good enough, but that he didn't want to give love at all, let alone a little money?
Camry learned from the pain, but still decided to reconcile with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend had a guilty conscience. For a while, Jiamei steadily accepted her, but this girl did not give her boyfriend fruit every weekend as before.
After a while, Camry broke up with her boyfriend, no matter how her boyfriend stayed, she was unmoved.
Jiamei finally said a word, completely blocking her boyfriend's retention.
is probably: I really love you so I am willing to treat you well, but now I feel that I am not enoughLove yourself, how can you expect others to love me? I was so good to you at the beginning, you were not moved, and even for that little money, regardless of my feelings, proposed to break up on my birthday. Sure enough, "good girls" were not cherished, so go to TM's "good girls" !
Since then, Camry has completely released herself, facing the girl who always let her own breakfast, Camry deliberately returned empty-handed, "In the future, you can buy your own breakfast. It's too much time for me, and the money from last time. If you didn't give it to me, you should give it back to me this time." The sisters in the dormitory suddenly showed respect for Jiamei. After working at
, Jiamei once cleaned up the clerks who were "satisfactory". Since then, no one in the office has been a demon. Facing the difficulties of the leadership, Jiamei is neither humble nor overbearing. Let the leader who tried to replace her take a high look.
We often complain about the unhappiness we encounter at work. Jiamei said calmly, "I'm okay, I feel that when I work, everyone has one thing to say, it's very easy to get along with, and I rarely intrigue. "
Camry, who has turned into a "bad girl", is still single, but it is strange that no one in her unit urges her to marry, and her family respects her opinions. The leaders at the dinner table are afraid to persuade her to drink. She is always so sober, but she often Substitute water for wine, in short, live freely and freely.
Jiamei always said that she doesn't care what others think of her, and that the most important thing is to have a good time.
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Now more and more parents are feeling that they have taught their daughters too well, and they don’t know if they suffer. What should I do in society in the future?
Where is the future for the "good girl"?
2020 has come, do the girls continue to wrong themselves? Maybe you can try the following, try to be a girl who is not so good and not so bully.
1. Learn to love yourself and feel more secure.
"Good girls" have a fear of love in their hearts. They worry that the love around them will disappear, but they are more lack of love.
"One Hundred Years of Solitude" has long interpreted the truth of the world: only loneliness is eternal. It’s not that the more you give, the more you give in, you can be loved and avoid loneliness, even those who are deeply loved are lonely, because there is no real empathy in this world.
But you are the only one who will not betray yourself. If you ask for no results from outside, it is better to ask inside, because you know that there must be a response to everything this time, and no one will be willing to let yourself down. When you can give yourself enough love, you can understand that the sense of security is given to yourself, and others can't afford it.
2. Build self-confidence and respect yourself.
You are the sacrifice of dignity. You dare not express your true thoughts, because you are afraid that others will be unhappy because of this. At this time, you will blame yourself: I am too cruel, and doing so is not good for him, forget it. Right.
When you choose to sacrifice your own feelings time and time again, your mental energy is drawn away. Psychologically, people who do not consider self-expression have low self-esteem. Such people will not be taken seriously. There is a saying in
, " you can kill me, but you can never defeat me ". What
emphasizes here is the power of a person’s soul. Our daily grace and grace comes from our abundant spiritual power, and this power is based on love and respect, so you need to respect yourself and Tell others that you must be respected.
3. Abduction from morality, bravely say "no".
"Good girls" are easy to be kidnapped by morals. "Bad girls" have always resisted the shackles. They will return all their words to each other as they are, and they will never let others play with each other at will, and always stick to themselves.
"Are you willing to make me unhappy?" It's an adult, and you are responsible for your unhappiness. Of course I am "willing".
"If you do this, everyone will think you..." In order to control your will, you are required to do what he thinks. Anyone who attempts to control you by using public opinion will fight back and tell him that you are not easy to provoke.
"Why don't you get married, thenYou can't get married without getting married! "Am I going to marry you? Generally, people who are unhappy are very keen to get you married. After all, you can't get out of the fire pit. It is better to pull a few more cushions. People who really want you to be happy never Will advise you like this, they will usually tell you, "Don't marry because of age, let alone live your life because of age."
In 2020, I hope you can be beautiful and live what you look forward to the most. Come on," Bad girl"!
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