loneliness is another self that lives in our hearts. It is not terrible. The key lies in how we face such a self. Solitude is a required course in our lives, just as we hate all required courses, we also hate loneliness, but it is inevitable, let alone try to escape.
Loneliness is everywhere. We are afraid of loneliness because we haven't figured out how to get along with ourselves. Excellent people prefer to enjoy time alone and make contact with themselves, because they will know their inner self.
Wang Han is a person who knows how to get along with himself, but his way is more special. Qian Feng discovered that he was deleted by Wang Han. When asked why, he said that he even deleted Chen Kun and Fan Bingbing. It turned out that Wang Han would delete his WeChat friends regularly.
originally thought that the entertainment industry likes to call friends and friends, but there are people like Wang Han who are always sober. He knows how to set aside time to get along with himself and give himself independent space to enjoy being alone.
"This kind of life is very, very easy. All the time is yours. It's a mess."
In a modern city where the pace of life is getting faster and faster, our market will feel more pressure, and sometimes the pressure comes from work, sometimes Coming to my own family or even to my own pressure, so at this time, I especially need to calm down to give myself space and time to think. Outside of work, maybe we can choose to be alone instead of going out, maybe we can find another in solitude.
The current situation of young people today is very contradictory. Everyone likes to be alone and calls for their own private space, but at the same time these people are afraid of being alone.
There used to be a table called the "International Loneliness Scale" on the Internet. The first level is the lightest one, which is a person visiting the supermarket, and the highest level, the twelfth level, is a person performing surgery. If a person has time to make such a grade form to prove that everyone is lonely, why not have time to eliminate his loneliness?
If going to the supermarket and watching a movie alone is considered lonely, then I believe that all people are lonely patients, and loneliness is everywhere. In fact, the loneliness scale reflects the way you get along with yourself. Some people think that one's movies are lonely, but some people enjoy one's movies.
The best we can do is to constantly unlock this level without feeling alone.
We don’t need to refuse the appearance of loneliness. When this feeling appears, it actually means that we have free time. We must know how to be friends with loneliness.
Chen Xuedong’s life experience is very clear to everyone. He has been missing the love of his parents since he was a child. At a very young age, he already understood the feeling of loneliness and saw himself alone. When he grows up, he will recommend melatonin and weightless quilts to friends, because he always has insomnia, so he knows more about this. When the friend left, he returned to his own life alone, turned off the light, and in the dark night, eating and watching TV alone, fully reflected the feeling of loneliness. It is because of years of loneliness that knows how to find himself in this lonely crevice and let himself enjoy this loneliness. Now his heart has gradually become stronger. Although he still has no way to forgive his parents, At least he dared to mention it.
36-year-old Wu Xin is still living alone, but she has been enjoying this house. She can soak her feet in the exhausted night, or she can puzzle into the night when she is insomnia, no one bothers her, and she doesn't want to get out of this solitude. Although in the eyes of others, this kind of life is too lonely, but for Wu Xin she enjoys it.
I have always been the one who keeps the grave, and this world is the grave I see. ——Wang Jianguo
Talented people usually like to be alone. We like to be alone, but we always think that we need to be alone because we are alone. In fact, it is not. It is precisely because we are not alone that we can choose the usage of time. Therefore, we usually draw a circle for ourselves in our hearts. The people in the circle are our best people, but we maintain a polite attitude to those outside the circle, and we will not influence each other, and we have never thought about starting from this. Go out in circles.
In fact, being alone is not scary, the scary thing is that you think you are alone.
spends enough time at work, and apart from work time, we have to have so-called gatherings and social interactions, leaving very little time alone. However, we need to give ourselves space and time to think about ourselves, think about life, think about dreams, or even let go of ourselves. We need to have a dialogue with ourselves from time to time.
So how do we effectively talk to ourselves?
(1) Face your loneliness correctly. Recharge yourself when you are off work or on vacation. Maybe you are not lonely, but you have nothing to do. Live and learn. Knowledge can be used to fill the inner void, and we can learn what we are interested in. In the process of learning, we will obviously feel fun. Reading a book is like reading yourself. When you are full of poems and books, how can you be afraid of not having enough temperament.
(2) Move the focus to yourself. Sometimes we will feel busy because of some things or other people's things, but please move the focus from others to yourself when necessary, because at this moment, you need to be concerned most. Don't care too much about what others think of yourself. Only in this way can you find your own pleasure in being alone.
(3) Do some exercises that are good for physical and mental health. We can read in the study, and of course we can exercise appropriately. Riding is a good way. When we are alone, we are the same, without pretending to be strong and calm, the living environment has seriously "corroded" ourselves, and only then can we see ourselves clearly. take a break when you are tired, and continue on the road when you have a rest. It's that simple.
A person who exercises regularly will become healthier, and a person who reads late at night every day will be more knowledgeable.
What you do when you are alone will make a big difference to your future. If doesn't have time alone, what you are usually like will be in the future.
Being alone will bring changes and surprises to our daily lives. Let us experience the world in another way. In fact, there are still many places in this world that we have not set foot in, and there are many wonderful things waiting for us to discover, and if life is noisy In this environment, we will never be able to focus on ourselves and explore another possibility.
