In " Mo Yuyunjian ", after Xue Fangfei returns as Jiang Li, it can be said that "three steps are a pit, and five steps are a hurdle."
Stepmother Ji Shuran framed her for poisoning her younger sister. The eldest princess publicly exposed her identity. Zhou Yanbang wanted to taint her. Tai Buling accused her of being evil.
pile after pile, almost approaching the gate of life.
If Xue Fangfei's response was slightly omission, he would die without a burial place.
The miraculous thing is that Xue Fangfei can turn the situation around every time with her "sharp tongue" and make the other party suffer the consequences.
Why has Xue Fangfei become the universally recognized "King of Talkers" who can reverse all adverse situations?
is precisely because she has mastered a very effective speaking template.
As long as we learn this set of language templates, we can gain the upper hand even if the situation is unfavorable.
01 Using each other's spear to attack the other's shield
Xue Fangfei never falls into the "self-evidence trap" every time she faces accusations. Instead, she uses the evidence provided by the other party as a weapon to defeat the other party.
When Taibu Ling and Ji Shuran teamed up to falsely accuse Xue Fangfei of being evil, they used miraculous rituals to make everyone involuntarily believe in the theory of ghosts and gods.
Xue Fangfei did not fight back until the atmosphere was in place, then she took the blood pill and cooperated with the ventriloquist maid to pretend that she was really possessed by a mysterious force.
But this mysterious force is not the evil spirit of Qingcheng Mountain as mentioned by Ji Shuran and Taibu Ling, but Jiang Yue, the eldest wife of the Jiang family who was killed by Ji Shuran.
When Xue Fangfei shouted "Daddy" in Jiang Yue's voice, Jiang Yuanbai was stunned on the spot.
There was shock and regret in his eyes, but no doubt.
Because he has accepted Tai Bu Ling and Ji Shuran's theory of evil spirits.
Xue Fangfei used Jiang Yue's mouth to reveal the truth that Jiang Yue was pushed to death by Ji Shuran, laying the foundation for Ji Shuran's defeat.
Without the foreshadowing of Ji Shuran and Tai Bu Ling, Xue Fangfei directly pretended to be possessed by Jiang Yue, Jiang Yuanbai and others may not believe it.
After all, Jiang Yuanbai scorned the theory of ghosts and gods at first.
It was Tai Bu Ling who was so good at deceiving that he deceived Jiang Yuanbai to death.
When we argue with others, we might as well listen carefully to every word the other person says and see if we can exploit the loopholes.
language has two sides. The same sentence can interpret two completely different conclusions, positive and negative.
When the leader of the Virgin Hall accused Xue Fangfei in the main hall, he said that Xue Fangfei had bribed her with benefits to prove that Xue Fangfei was guilty.
Based on this sentence, Xue Fangfei came to the opposite conclusion-the leader of the Virgin Hall could be bribed with a lot of money, so he framed Xue Fangfei.
It is easier to convince everyone if you use other people's evidence as a weapon than if you work hard to prove it yourself.
02 Cooperating with the Enemy of the Enemy
Xue Fangfei encountered the most dangerous moment when Zhou Yanbang tied her to the suburbs with the intention of tainting her.
At that time, Xue Fangfei’s hands and feet were tied and she was alone.
Xiao Heng, the Duke of Su State, who had a strong backer, did not know that Xue Fangfei was kidnapped and could not save her.
But facing the ferocious Zhou Yanbang, Xue Fangfei did not sit still and wait for death. She first revealed Zhou Yanbang's real enemy, hoping to divert his hatred, and then used the power of the Jiang family and the Ye family to threaten him.
However, Zhou Yanbang didn't have enough money and planned to turn Xue Fangfei into a disabled person who "can't speak or write".
At the critical moment, Xue Fangfei remembered the only person on the scene who could possibly cooperate - Jiang Ruoyao.
"Zhou Yanbang, you treated me like this in front of Ruoyao, aren't you afraid of breaking her heart?"
Zhou Yanbang thought that Xue Fangfei hurt Chen Jiang Ruoyao's feelings for him and was using Jiang Ruoyao to threaten him.
In fact, Xue Fangfei deliberately led him to reveal his true opinion of Jiang Ruoyao in order to arouse Jiang Ruoyao's hatred for Zhou Yanbang and turn Jiang Ruoyao into her ally.
"If she were not Jiang Yuanbai's daughter, would I be engaged to her?"
Zhou Yanbang's true face made Jiang Ruoyao give up completely. She picked up a brick and threw it at Zhou Yanbang hard.
Rather than saying that she is saving Xue Fangfei, it is better to say that she is venting her hatred.
As the old saying goes, "The enemy of my enemy is my friend."
Many times, we don't need to treat the enemies of our enemies as friends, we just need to temporarily form alliances with them.
When the mother-in-law always enters the young couple's bedroom without knocking, the daughter-in-law complains to her husband about her mother-in-law, and it is difficult for her husband to understand her.
If the daughter-in-law makes him realize that his interests have been harmed from the perspective of her husband, do you think he will still get along with her?
A person's position can change at any time, as long as we poke enough pain at his interests.
03 Refuse to be mentally exhausted
Many people will instinctively feel fear when faced with conflict situations such as quarrels and confrontations.
Once he hears the unpleasant things said by others, he starts to take it seriously, and then stage a tearful Qiong Yao drama.
"I'm not! I didn't! Why did you say that to me! I'm so wronged..."
Many times, the other party has not produced any strong evidence, and only uses a few obscene words to break down our psychological defenses.
But Xue Fangfei has never been afraid of criticism and abuse from others. No matter how furious others are, she still remains calm.
Jiang Ruoyao suddenly had a rash after the hairdressing ceremony. Ji Shuran framed Xue Fangfei, saying that she deliberately used earrings filled with sandalwood to harm Jiang Ruoyao.
The maids all agreed, and even Jiang Yuanbai looked at Xue Fangfei with doubtful eyes.
But Xue Fangfei was not angry at all. Instead, she calmly asked to be alone with Jiang Ruoyao and persuaded her step by step to retract her confession.
The antique satin of the Ye family was rumored to "wear someone to death", and Ye Jiaer was made red-faced by the people's questioning.
When Xue Fangfei saw this, she did not immediately think about whether there was really a problem with the Ye family, but instead threw the question back.
"I would like to ask everyone, there is something wrong with the Ye family's antique satin. Who did you listen to?"
With just these words, the opponent's momentum instantly diminished, and the offensive and defensive momentum was reversed.
Xue Fangfei's "I am not wrong" mental state is especially suitable for reference by people who are prone to internal friction.
If you can blame others for things, try not to blame yourself. Rather than being mentally drained, it is better to fight back directly.
In "The Story of a Rose", Liu Yifei plays Huang Yimei, who is also a master at resisting internal friction.
When he learned that she was getting a divorce, her husband Fang Xiewen flew into a rage and said viciously, "Shut up!"
He also said harshly that he would never let Huang Yimei see her child again.
The daughter who has spent more than 1,000 days and nights raising herself is Huang Yimei's weakness.
Fang Xiewen's move was precisely to make Huang Yimei collapse emotionally and throw herself into chaos.
But Huang Yimei was not fooled. She did not follow Fang Xiewen's idea and imagine that she would not be able to see her child's heartbreak. Instead, she calmly stated that she must get a divorce.
Even if Fang Xiewen disagrees, Huang Yimei will sue until the divorce is successful.
Huang Yimei's calmness made Fang Xiewen even more panicked, and finally had to compromise.
Looking back on Xue Fangfei's road to revenge, she can turn danger into disaster again and again, and this set of speaking skills is indispensable.
Although we may not always fall into danger like Xue Fangfei in life.
But when getting along with others, friction will inevitably occur, and conflicts such as quarrels and confrontations will occur.
At this time, we can use Xue Fangfei's speaking skills to respond calmly, form alliances, use other people's words as a counterattack weapon, and let others know that our is "not easy to mess with" .
We don’t cause trouble, but we are definitely not afraid of it!
