Liu Yifei’s new drama "The Story of Rose" , has everyone watched it? When
first came out, I watched 10 episodes in a row. I plunged into the beauty of the fairy sister in and couldn't extricate myself in . How could someone play a female college student at the age of 37? There is no sense of violation at all!
But what I want to say is that the reason why this drama is so popular is not all due to Liu Yifei’s looks.
Like the popular TV series "The First Half of My Life", the original author of "The Story of Rose" is also the famous Yi Shu. In her writing, "Rose" is a lady who has never been in class for a day, and her beauty is so beautiful that it confuses all living beings. A large group of men were surrounding her, and she was indulging in these affairs.
But the core of the TV series version of "The Story of a Rose" is completely different. Although it retains the "extremely beautiful" setting of the heroine Huang Yimei, even though she is so beautiful, smart, confident and sunny, and has a good family background With a high degree of education and all the necessary "configurations", I still have to struggle in pursuing myself.
"The Story of Rose" is to visualize the difficulty of women pursuing themselves for everyone to see. In this "female growth" story spanning 20 years, she has been addicted, compromised, hysterical, and experienced After going through the fiery pain caused by love and marriage, he was finally reborn and became a brand new self.
No pain or time can take away her fighting spirit. She is like a rose from beginning to end, pure, innocent and vivid.
What we are watching is Huang Yimei’s story, but it reflects our own life every moment.
There is a sentence in the book "The Color Purple" that I like very much: "Without the man in your eyes, you can see everything." Similarly, only by putting aside those love entanglements can we see the true nature of Huang Yimei. Only with shining qualities can we see the clear context of her growth.
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When Huang Yimei first appeared, she was 22 years old and had just graduated. She had an open and enthusiastic personality and was filled with youthful atmosphere.
Both parents are professors at Tsinghua University, and her brother is a young and promising architect. The harmonious and loving family atmosphere gave Huang Yimei the confidence to be free and easy.
She knows that she is beautiful, but she will not be superior, use beauty as a weapon, nor will she deliberately cover up her own light. The whole person's state is very relaxed and self-consistent. A girl like
is destined to be surrounded by the eyes of suitors.
The boys who rushed downstairs to give her flowers came one after another; the phone at home never stopped from morning to night...
Her mother was very dissatisfied with her, accusing her of running out all day long and not being with the boys. Indistinctly mixed together.
Huang Yimei felt aggrieved and argued that those were just ordinary friends and she had no clear understanding of them.
The mother didn't believe it, and told her earnestly: Girls should love themselves.
Huang Yimei said unconvinced: Why should require girls to love themselves? Why doesn't anyone let men love themselves? They are like flies circling around people all day long and cannot be driven away.
This conversation foreshadows Huang Yimei's character traits throughout the play -
She does not want to be disciplined, does not want to be a "good girl" in the traditional sense, does not accept any form of pua, and pursues equality between men and women. An incident that happened after
made this characteristic of Huang Yimei even more obvious.
's brother Huang Zhenhua introduced Huang Yimei to his unit and asked his friend Zhou Shihui to take her for an internship.
Huang Zhenhua originally thought that Zhou Shihui was honest and steady and was about to get married, so there would be no trouble. As everyone knows, the madness of honest people is the most deadly.
Zhou Shihui fell in love at the first sight of Huang Yimei.
He fell into his own fantasy and misinterpreted Huang Yimei's politeness as being interested in her, so he regretted the marriage on the spot at the Civil Affairs Bureau, causing an uproar. When
's eldest brother Huang Zhenhua heard about it, he angrily came to Huang Yimei to question him.
Huang Yimei bit her ice cream and said innocently: What does it have to do with me?
Huang Zhenhua asked her, knowing that Zhou Shihui had a fiancée, why didn't she keep her distance from him?
Huang Yimei asked: You should ask him. He obviously has a fiancée, why did he provoke me?
Huang Zhenhua impatiently asked Huang Yimei not to go to the internship. If he tried to persuade Zhou Shihui again, maybe he could change his mind.
Huang Yimei didn't understand why Zhou Shihui's fiancée was still obliged to forgive him when he did such a thing?
She said something that hit the nail on the head.
"Men just treat their feelings like clothes, and throw them away when they get old. Women also treat their feelings like clothes. Three years of new life, three years of old age, and another three years of mending, right?"
This farce has a happy ending—— Huang Yimei sternly rejected Zhou Shihui, causing him to give up completely. His fiancée Guan Zhizhi also broke off with him.
When they moved out of their new house, Guan Zhizhi took one last look at Zhou Shihui and said, "It is better to waste seven years to get to know someone clearly than to waste a lifetime."
It was only after talking with Huang Yimei that Guan Zhizhi saw her own heart clearly. , bravely made the decision to leave.
Huang Yimei is like a little sun. Her intelligence and transparency can always easily infect people around her and pass on her energy.
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The second characteristic of Huang Yimei is that no matter what kind of difficulties she faces, she chooses to take the initiative instead of passively waiting in place.
When she went for an interview for the first time, she accidentally got ink on the collar of her shirt. When she was doing it in the bathroom, she looked up and saw a lady wearing a silk scarf walking in. She immediately had an idea.
She asked the other party generously if he could lend her the silk scarf.
People who are afraid of society find it difficult to refuse social cows. The other party was stunned for a moment, then took off the silk scarf and handed it to her.
During the interview, Huang Yimei discovered that the woman was one of the interviewers and her future boss-Su Gengsheng.
Su Gengsheng asked her a question: Why did you choose to wear such a silk scarf?
Huang Yimei pondered for a moment and gave a perfect answer:
"This scarf should be a niche brand in Northern Europe. The design uses bright geometric figures, which should be based on Malevich's design style. The designer's aesthetics is very important, because it determines the positioning and price of a product. The aesthetics of consumers is also very important, because everyone determines the temperament of this society to a greater or lesser extent.”
一. His remarks not only highlighted his professional level, but also praised Su Gengsheng's taste without revealing anything.
When Su Gengsheng reported to his boss Jiang Xueqiong, he praised Huang Yimei very much.
"Being good-looking is just a bonus for her. She has excellent artistic taste and responsiveness."
After officially joining the company, Huang Yimei heard that Jiang Xueqiong had encountered a problem - she had always wanted to date someone. Mr. Teng, but could not find the opportunity.
This was not within the scope of Huang Yimei's responsibilities, but she felt that as the assistant to the general manager, she had the obligation to solve problems for her boss, and there must be a solution to all problems.
She used her powerful search ability to find information that Mr. Teng was going to attend a cocktail party, but the cocktail party was of high standard and she couldn't get in without an invitation letter. What to do with
? Huang Yimei thought of a clever way.
She contacted the hotel staff and said that her company needed to book an exhibition hall and needed to check the venue in advance. She successfully walked through the staff passage to the banquet hall where Mr. Teng was.
Then, she made a "big transformation" in the bathroom on the pretext of going to the bathroom and appeared in different clothes.
In this way, she successfully sneaked into the reception and facilitated a meeting between the boss and Mr. Teng.
can actively think of ways to make the impossible possible. What boss wouldn’t love such a professional?
Therefore, even though she was still a newcomer, Huang Yimei quickly gained the appreciation of her boss and cheated her way through the workplace.
3
Compared with the career path, Huang Yimei’s love path has many twists and turns. A woman, no matter how beautiful or sober she is, can never escape the pain of love.
Huang Yimei met Zhuang Guodong, an elite returnee from overseas, and they fell in love with each other at first sight. The handsome man and the beautiful woman were like a pair of strangers.
But on practical issues, they have too many inconsistencies, which give rise to endless contradictions.
Zhuang Guodong applied for an offer from a French company, but did not tell Huang Yimei immediately. When she accidentally found out, she was shocked and asked why Zhuang Guodong kept it from her.
Zhuang Guodong was on a business trip at the time, and he didn't want to pay attention to her noise, so he simply turned off his cell phone and subjected her to cold violence.
Like all girls who fall in love and have a bucket of cold water poured on them, Huang Yimei collapsed.
With tears in her eyes, she called Zhuang Guodong over and over again, but all she got were cold prompts. She paranoidly called all the hotels in Guangzhou, looking for Zhuang Guodong all over the world.
In the end, she was hysterical and smashed Zhuang Guodong's home to pieces, and she didn't stop until the neighbor downstairs called the police.
Although in the end, the two reconciled. But this incident has become a rift in their relationship that can never be healed.
From then on, Huang Yimei's feelings for Zhuang Guodong were no longer so passionate. She knew that too strong feelings would hurt herself.
She stared at a painting she drew on the wall and said lightly: Time is precious, love it enough first and then talk about it. What if I no longer love you before you leave?
I like the composition of this picture very much. Huang Yimei’s eyes are sharp and clear, occupying the absolute dominant position, and the man behind her is completely reduced to a background.
From the beginning, she did not think that she was a passive party in the relationship. After a brief period of confusion, she regained control.
She still treats relationships wholeheartedly, but she will no longer lose herself in relationships.
After Zhuang Guodong went to France, Huang Yimei devoted her energy to work and successfully planned an exhibition, which won a lot of praise.
The differences between the two in their life plans also made her finally wake up.
Zhuang Guodong said excitedly that he would apply for permanent residence in France, and then the two of them could live in France.
She found it incredible. Why was it his turn to arrange her life? What kind of work can she do after going abroad, and what will happen to her family back home? Why should she revolve around him for the rest of her life?
Later, Huang Yimei saw a sculpture and suddenly realized her relationship with Zhuang Guodong.
Just like the two people in the sculpture, they are walking in two opposite directions. They once thought they were close to each other, but in fact they just passed each other and drifted away.
After understanding this, Huang Yimei calmly sent a text message to Zhuang Guodong to break up.
In the house where she once lived with Zhuang Guodong, she silently removed all traces of herself.
Then he walked into the rain, letting the rain wash away his face, and said goodbye to Zhuang Guodong in his heart.
This is Huang Yimei's first love, with a vigorous beginning, an earth-shattering process, and a quiet ending.
is a disaster and a gift for Huang Yimei.
She lost a part of herself and gained a new part of herself.
This is the third quality I like about "Rose". She loves others and herself even more, and she never forgets her own growth in a fully immersed relationship.
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After the first love plot of "moths flying into the flame" ended, many netizens impatiently wrote negative reviews. They simply said that they were not independent at all when they were talking about love under the guise of a "big heroine". Self-improvement.
I think this kind of evaluation is biased.
Who said men and women must be absolutely opposite species? Who says independent women have to lock away their love? Who said falling in love is something that should not be done on the stage?
Love is neither shameful nor despicable. It is not a scourge.
Everyone, at every age and stage, has the freedom to explore love.
Love and marriage are both a practice. In this process, we can see more clearly the relationship between ourselves, others, and the world, and then become a better version of ourselves.
Love and independence have never been an either/or relationship. It is too extreme and violates the original intention of feminism.
True feminism is not about not getting married, not having children, and not falling in love, but about understanding and respecting everyone's choices.
Only when a woman has overcome the difficult mountain of love can she live the life she truly wants and free up her energy to become a better version of herself.
Finally, let me end with one of my favorite lines from "The Story of a Rose".
"From now on, the world is in front of me, pointing to wherever I want to go. I am completely and absolutely in charge of me."
I hope that we can all be firm and fearless, free and easy, with both the courage to give our sincerity and the courage to do so. The confidence to take charge of your own life.
