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A few days ago, "Article 39 years old status" was on the hot search.
Since his divorce from Ma Yili, Wen Zhang has been very low-key these years. He has withdrawn from the film and television industry and is obsessed with starring in dramas. This time he was also on the hot search because of a photo of a certain drama he starred in. His hair was white, he was slightly fatter, and he no longer looked the same as before. The status of the article caused netizens to sigh: is only 39 years old, is he already so old?
The article is not really that old. After all, it is a photo of a character in a drama, and his hair was deliberately whitened. I also found some clips of him acting in dramas on the Internet, and his acting skills are still so good; but I still feel a pity when I see him. If it hadn't been for that incident, he would still be a top actor, and maybe he would still be with Ma Yili At the same time, they were still a happy family of four.
In many cases, people really cannot make mistakes. Once they make a principled mistake, they can never go back.
After divorcing Ma Yili, Wen Zhang's living conditions did not improve significantly, but went downhill.
In fact, Ma Yili is eight years older than Wen Zhang, but her condition is still so radiant.
Ma Yili is 47 years old. She also walked the red carpet of the "Starlight Awards" on the evening of December 17. She wore a tube top dress and people couldn't help but sigh: Isn't this Charlene? After so many years, everyone has aged, but why is she still the same as before, still so beautiful.
Moreover, Wong Kar-wai's first TV series "Flowers", co-written by Ma Yili, Hu Ge and Tang Yan, is about to be broadcast. I can already boldly speculate that Ma Yili will become popular again. After a comeback in "The First Half of My Life", Ma Yili has been successful in every step after her divorce.
Comparing Ma Yili and the article, don’t they all say that women age quickly? Are you afraid of age? But it's the complete opposite for both of them. We often say that redness nourishes people, and sure enough, having a successful career is the best medical beauty treatment. Once a person's career goes downhill, his appearance will also go downhill.
Ma Yili's condition is getting better and better after the divorce. The article becomes more and more haggard after the divorce, which makes people sigh: In fact, in many cases, men are more afraid of divorce than women. Men are still afraid of divorce at the age of 40. A flower? Not necessarily.
Women should have their own career at any time, be independent and not rely on others. No matter when, whether you are married or not, you can live an open, beautiful and free life.
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From a traditional point of view: women are naturally more afraid of divorce than men.
We have all heard similar words more or less: What should you do if you are a woman divorced? Who wants you? A divorced woman is worthless and has no value. Men, if you are divorced, you will still find a girl in her twenties. As for women, who wants you? If no one wants you, wouldn’t it be too miserable?
Is this really the case?
In the past, some people thought this way, mainly because most women at that time did not have the ability to support themselves. To be more precise, they also had the ability to support themselves. However, the world looks down on divorced women. It is generally believed that women must be dependent on men. Life, once a man is gone, life will inevitably be difficult after divorce.
When marriages are not going well, there will often be people who think they have been through it before and say, "Listen to my advice, men are like this, just bear with it."
So, in our parents’ generation, even if the marriage is not going well, the woman has to bear everything on her own, supporting the family and taking care of the children. The husband does not take care of the children or the family, but those women do not dare to divorce. I am afraid of divorce and feel that I will survive one day. Maybe he will survive, but it's really pitiful that all his good years were wasted in an unhappy marriage.
At the end of the day, what did you get?
Fortunately, today is not a traditional society, and marriage is not that important to women. When women no longer regard marriage as the only way to settle down and live a life, men are more afraid of divorce than women in middle age. Is it okay for a woman to get divorced? Anyway, she had to live by herself. She was already married and she didn't have such a strong subjective desire to remarry. On the contrary, as a man, once a woman is gone, if she doesn't remarry, her life will be quite miserable.
After the divorce, Ma Yili lived a very comfortable life. Whether it was life, career or psychology, her overall state was much better than the article. On the contrary, I feel that Ma Yili lives younger after the divorce. So what if I'm eight years older? The 47-year-old Ma Yili is really much younger than the 39-year-old Wen Zhang.
Whether a person has a good attitude will affect his overall living condition. Ma Yili has a very good attitude. After the divorce, she also arranged her life well. On the contrary, her articles are too inferior.
article One mistake made me lose the woman who loved me wholeheartedly. Ma Yili was once very kind to Wen Wenduo. After marrying him, she took a back seat, gave birth to two daughters, and supported his career wholeheartedly. He became popular but also lost his temper. Then he cheated on Ma Yili and completely destroyed his marriage and family.
When I dreamed back at midnight, I don’t know whether the article regretted it: He used to be so popular. He would get rich if he listened to his wife, but he betrayed his family if he didn’t listen to his wife, and his career was ruined almost overnight. Falling from heaven, nothing is left.
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I have always admired Ma Yili, she is so smart.
She is very rational and sober, and what is most important to herself. When she was young, she ignored the rumors and married Zhang Wen. What happened when she was eight years older? As long as I loved him, I could marry him. Then she was betrayed, which was the lowest point in her life. But what could she fight for at that time? She had just given birth to her second child and was still breastfeeding, so she could only endure it. She can only wait for an opportunity to get divorced after her career has improved, so that she can write the script of "Divorce Heroine" for herself.
Ma Yili has succeeded. At the age of 47, she does not have the sense of crisis of a middle-aged actress, and she can still cooperate with famous directors like Wong Kar-Wai. As for Wen Wen, he used up all his good luck in his early years. He was too dazzling when he was young, but now he is so lonely.
Emotional writer Lu Lu once wrote this sentence:
"Women are emotional animals, but men are natural egoists. They understand better than anyone else how difficult it is to find someone who is sincere and lives a down-to-earth life. ! Men are more afraid of divorce than women. This is just a secret that has not been revealed."
This sentence is correct, and it fits the article quite well.
Article He will never be able to regain his former career, and he will never find a woman as good as Ma Yili. His life has been going downhill from the moment his cheating on Yao Di was revealed.
Whatever the cause, there are consequences. If the article had not been derailed, it would definitely not be the desolate decadence it is today.
We will find: In fact, men need marriage more than women.
There is a very clear example around me: a man cheated on his wife in his early years. After his first wife learned that the woman he cheated on was two years younger than his own daughter, she couldn't bear it and got divorced. After the divorce, he was living alone with his daughter. How could the first wife never think that a man would do such a shameless thing? She is two years younger than her own daughter, how could she do this? How to face your daughter. After so many years, they have no contact with each other anymore. Can they live a good life after marrying a lovely wife? Not necessarily. He gave birth to a young son at a young age, and he was not busy running around for life, but at this time, he could not make much money. He was not as high-spirited as before, and he was still disliked by others.
People still need to have a minimum bottom line. Whether their future is good or bad depends on whether their behavior is appropriate.
People still have to learn to cherish it. If they have a good wife and work hard, no matter how beautiful they are now, they will come back in the future. There will always be a day.
So, don’t ask again: What should I do if a man cheats? Don’t be afraid of divorce anymore?
You can have your own way. In today's society, divorced women can live very well on their own.
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