went on a blind date, the matchmaker smiled and said that the boy’s biggest advantage is honesty: “Don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t play cards, then get married and wait for happiness.”
Girl’s parents usually have a good impression when they hear him or see him
In their minds, boys' honesty is filial piety to their parents, taking care of their families down-to-earth, and not loving to play - I think this means that my daughter will not suffer after marriage. This is the ideal standard for a son-in-law
a girl listens, since her parents approve of her, she must be ten years old
And, I'm really at ease with honest men
So with the help of a matchmaker, with the approval of their parents It is understandable that every parent wants their children to be happy
but is a girl married to an honest man really happy
Let us follow the camera to the home of Zhang Qin and Tang Dahai
Zhang Qin quarreled with his mother-in-law. The mother-in-law put her arms around her waist and shouted to Zhang Qin: "I think you did it on purpose. I am very kind to help you take care of your children. You are picking bones in the egg and picking me on purpose. This family wants you without me, and I don't have you!" "Zhang Qin is dumb and eats coptis. I can't put into words how painful it is, my mother in law is literally helping her with the grandkids, but I have to pay her on time every month, which is considered a hard cost of childcare. The quarrel started when my mother-in-law bought a lot of snacks for her grandson to play mahjong when he didn't have time to cook. The grandson stayed at home all afternoon watching TV and eating spicy strips. Probably because there is no adult supervision around. Eating too many spicy strips hurt my stomach, and I rolled on the ground in pain
At night, Zhang Qin found it when he came home. He quickly sent it to the hospital, and his condition improved after the infusion
Zhang Qin loved his son, and quarreled with his mother-in-law
The husband next to him seemed deaf and blind. He babbled so often that he dared not say a word, let alone persuade him to fight. Every time she is like a lone warrior defending her rights and her young son in this home
my husband is always an outsider no matter how much she fights with her mother in law
sometimes you hide away and can't see
Zhang Qin is even more angry that the mother-in-law would slam the door after a quarrel and add fuel to the fire of the neighbors, saying that she abused her
Zhang Qin has become a well-known evil daughter-in-law since she was a child
Zhang Qin is also a child of the family's parents. How can there be such grievances before marriage
Zhang Qin couldn't help sighing and crying when she thought that her husband was completely an ornament in the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, unable to protect herself at all. He is very different from the ideal married life
Her best friend comforted her and said:
Your Tang Dahai really can’t speak, but he is honest, he won’t socialize outside all day, and he won’t come back Family.
Zhang Qin thought about it. His husband is honest, if he borrows a hundred courage, he won't cheat
Tang Dahai has some boring habits. What happened to his life? Usually very little entertainment. Even if Zhang Qin met with friends, Tang Dahai felt stupid and didn't participate in it
Zhang Qin had a hundred and twenty hearts for Tang Dahai. Usually he is too lazy to check his phone
When Tang Dahai came home from get off work that day, Zhang Qin found a movie ticket in his pocket
Zhang Qin was surprised that Tang Dahai was slow and didn’t go to the movies together when he was in love
But the suspicion was only for a moment. After all, such an honest man, let alone go to the movies with other women, he can hardly even see other women on the street
However, she was slapped by reality
Tang Dahai not only cheated, but also I have been with Xiaosan for more than a year
Zhang Qin blamed himself for being too relieved of Tang Dahai and never doubted
Looking back on the marriage of more than ten years, Zhang Qin chose to marry Tang Dahai because he valued his honesty
Zhang Qin worked hard to repay The mortgage is because Tang Dahai is honest and can't make much money
The reason why he and his mother-in-law are getting more and more conflicted is because he is honest and can't reconcile with her mother-in-law. But Zhang Qin's marriage with such an honest man was finally hovering on the verge of divorce
Even at this time, someone still suggested: "Tang Dahai is an honest man. This time, he will definitely be confused and make mistakes, so forgive him."
Everyone is trying to persuade girls to marry an honest man. They even think that marryingAn honest man is for the ticket to a happy marriage, but is it? In fact, honest people are more emotionally dangerous.
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"Honest people" are not honest. Most people's definition of an honest man is based on the impression that he's not good at talking, looks simple and honest, has a mild temper
but that's just the face of a boy
honest men are scarier than straight men
because of the label of honesty, honesty For example, you subconsciously think that honest men always come home on time, honest men always do housework silently, and are always busy in the kitchen. Honest men don't like to socialize and don't like to focus on family. Honest men pay wages and leave a little to live on
this is a good man not an honest man
at the beginning of dating an honest man many will find that honest men seem to be more patient
don't even if you get mad quarrel. You are gentle and not prone to conflict, but this is just a sugar coating seen by outsiders. It looks honest and speechless. It can lower a girl's vigilance and arouse a girl's affection for her
After getting along for a long time, the true face of some honest men will gradually surface
Honest men are really nice to those around them, but only to those around them The person
once the girl is his family, the people he vents on are those closest to him
also, outwardly silent, but cheating is more violent than others
honest man cheating, psychologically, is psychologically compensated
For example, there is a big difference between a real wife and his imagined wife
To avoid regrets in this life, the reluctant heart of a man is always looking for
If you meet someone better, you will immediately want There is a strange relationship with him
If honest men are suppressed by their wives for a long time, this idea will be stronger
For Zhang Qin's husband Tang Dahai, his mother-in-law is strong and his wife is strong. He can't say a word to the whole family
He doesn't have dissatisfaction on the surface, but he yearns for some power, someone wants to see his strengths and value
Once someone loves him, he doesn't hesitate to try something new
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Honest Men can't communicate
Honest men either don't talk or talk to death
In the eyes of neighbors, honest men are too poor
Although his daughter-in-law always loses his temper with him, he never said a word to her
Although his daughter-in-law often stays out late and doesn’t come home, Honest Man not only didn’t lose his temper, but also quietly cooked a bowl of hot noodles...
Everyone said his daughter-in-law was very sexy. Men are so honest and bully him
Men are so honest and dissatisfied
In their eyes there is nothing wrong with honest men but the truth is as the neighbors see
the reason for his wife's tantrum is that no matter what he What kind of conflicts are encountered in life, honest men would rather keep silent than communicate
This is like hitting a soft cotton ball with an angry fist, leaving nowhere for the wives to vent their anger
If there is no communication in the marriage for a long time, The initial contradictions will accumulate over time and become more and more
Tokano Keio once said in his "White Night Walk" that there are two things in the world that cannot be directly observed, one is the sun and the other is the human heart
Even if People who love each other no longer communicate, suspicion also sows seeds in the hearts of both parties
In addition to being speechless in conflicts between husband and wife, honest men always play a silent role
In the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law In the movie, we will also adhere to the consistent silent style
Zhang Qin argues with her mother-in-law for the health of her son. Her mother-in-law was wronged and yelled that she would give nothing in return. She loses her temper with herself - the two closest women fight violently. As a husband, Tang Dahai should stand between the two and persuade each other to avoid escalation of conflicts. However, he is an honest man. He didn't know how to face this situation. He doesn't know how to mediate the conflict between mother and daughter, so he can only be careless.
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Honest men are more satisfied with the status quo
Honest men are not only bad at words in life, but also do their best at work and are satisfied with the status quo
When girls are actively working, honest men will complete the tasks assigned by the leader step by step. It’s time to get off work and fish
When girls sign up for classes to learn new skills, honest men play mobile phones
When girls care about news and business opportunities, honest men indulge in the game world
Honesty becomes a shield for men not to pursue progress, and it is also the shield between them and them Girls gossiping, stumbling block to mutual progress - girls should never marry a man who looks honest - the appearance of honesty is only a temporary hallucinogen. When he actually stepped into the marriage hall, he was not as forgiving as he initially showed
