"Some girls are the happiest. They are petted by their fathers when they are young, petted by their husbands when they are young, and petted by their children when they are old." There are indeed such people. For example, the old drama bone Wu Yanshu is so happy , to live as a woman most yearns for.
But some people are spoiled by their sons, but it makes people feel very uncomfortable, even a little "weird", such as Dong Jie . Since
's divorce, Dong Jie has been living alone with her son. On a show, the way she and her son get along made the audience say "something's wrong". So, what's going on?
In a variety show, Dong Jie appeared with her seven-year-old son Dingding, mainly recording the daily life of the mother and son.
The program was normal at the beginning. Dong Jie is a responsible mother. Although she is very busy with her work, she has a good understanding of the child's life and study. In addition, Dong Jie's parents help take care of her, and she loves her little grandson very much. , Although there is no father in Dingding's life, the family seems to be very happy.
However, in an outing event, Dong Jie and Dingding get along alone, but many viewers find it strange. Dong Jie first brought Dingding to a shopping mall to try on some clothes, and kept asking Dingding if it looked good.
Dingding is still a child, at the age of playful and active, not interested in clothes. Therefore, he was perfunctory with his mother, and his eyes kept looking elsewhere, hoping to leave as soon as possible.
The average mother can understand, after all, she is a child, not to mention that he can't tell whether the clothes are good or not, so he can't give any useful advice. But Dong Jie was not like this. She was very disappointed, and she was always half coquettish and half angry at Dingding. She was very dissatisfied that Dingding was not paying attention to her.
Many viewers said: "This is not a son, it is a boyfriend." Although this is a bit exaggerated, Dong Jie's reaction really reflects her over-reliance on children. If
says that this is not a problem, then the scene in the restaurant surprised many viewers.
Dong Jie was unhappy because Dingding never cared about herself. Dingding didn't act like an ordinary child and fool her mother. Sitting in front of Dong Jie, he held Dong Jie's face and kissed him, while saying, "Little baby, Daddy loves you."
It can be said that the child said this unintentionally, maybe where he heard it; but Dong Jie I didn't correct my son, but it seemed to be very useful, and I felt much better. From the
comprehensive program, Dong Jie relies too much on Dingding. She is sometimes a stern mother who blames her son for not studying well; sometimes she is a parent who is overly fond of her son.
Sometimes she is like a girlfriend or even a daughter, hoping to get more attention and love from her son. This kind of mother-son relationship seems a little sick.
Later, in the photo they took, there was also a photo of Dong Jie in a wedding dress, a suit on top, and two people kissing each other on the lips.
Even Dong Jie himself said: "When I took a wedding photo with my son, I felt like a little girl who fell in love. When Dingding has a girlfriend and wants to get married, I will take out this group of photos. , who is more beautiful than one." This kind of maternal love is too distorted and too suffocating.
watched the show, and many viewers said: "Dong Jie is too short of love, how can she talk to her son like this." "If you lack love, you must distinguish who it is, otherwise it will affect the child's growth." "This way The son will have an Oedipal complex, so let’s stop.” “Parents with strong desire to control are really scary. I hope Dong Jie can correct it and not hurt the child without knowing it.”
In addition, since the divorce, Dong Jie's attitude towards Dingding's father is also very extreme. After
divorced, she never let her son Dingding meet his father, Pan Yueming can only give her son on Weibo every yearThe child sent birthday wishes to express his thoughts on the child. Dingding was afraid that his mother would be angry, and he never said that he missed his father, but he often secretly used his mother's mobile phone to search for his father's information.
In the child's growth, the father is very important, but Dong Jie does not let the child see the father, which is very unfavorable for his growth.
Everyone's behavior is related to their experience, and Dong Jie is no exception. She has left home since she was a child. She studies and works hard outside alone. She feels insecure and lacks love in her heart. Later, she divorced and needs a A shoulder you can lean on.
In the absence of a suitable boyfriend, she may unconsciously see her son as someone to rely on.
However, after all, this kind of education is inappropriate. Dong Jie should let her meet her father at most, play more with the children, and enjoy her childhood.
And Dong Jie's inner fragility and loneliness should also be cured by scientific means. Of course, this may be the comfortable way of getting along between Dong Jie and his son, because netizens are too sensitive. What do you think of it?
