01 Anger should be avoided, not blocked
An Lingrong Father An Bihuai was imprisoned for corruption. In order to save his father, An Lingrong tried to conceive even though he knew that he was not suitable for pregnancy. In the end, the emperor had no choice but to not punish An Bihuai because Lingrong was four months pregnant.
Although the emperor let go of An Lingrong's father, he is still brooding about Anbihuai's corruption. There is a "bad anger" in his chest, and he needs a vent. This can be said that An Lingrong was named "" Concubine Oriole " the most important reason. Therefore, when Zhen Huan proposed to make Anling Rong "Concubine Oriole", anyone with a discerning eye could see the derogatory meaning, but the emperor did not object to it. , but pretended to be confused, and agreed with the flow.
understand this truth, we will know why everyone says "there is no winner in a quarrel between husband and wife", because a husband and wife quarrel, even if they win the truth, they will lose their love. It's love, not reason.
02 It is stupid to have no self-knowledge It is the late Chunyuan queen . As far as the emperor of Anling Rong is concerned, she is probably a concubine who is obedient and can sing. Therefore, not only did the eunuchs who wrote the characters from the Ministry of Internal Affairs receive no reward, but they also suffered a slap in the face.
and An Lingrong's ignorant behavior also shows that she is not smart enough. It can be seen from the emperor's previous attitude towards Qi Fei that he has no patience for "stupidity".
Lao Tzu once said, "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear", An Lingrong's move can be said to neither understand the "emperor" nor see himself clearly.
Recognize the positioning of others in the hearts of others, so that you will not be carried away when you are proud; understand your value to others, and you will not be too ambitious and forget to do your duty well.
03Sometimes it's not that you get weaker, but your enemy gets stronger Opinion, if she opposes concubine, it is tantamount to forcing the emperor to choose between "she" and "empress", so even if the emperor obeys her opinion and does not concubine, he will be dissatisfied with her in his heart.
She first considered from the emperor's point of view, suggesting that "the six palaces be sealed", which would also be "beneficial to the previous dynasty"; then she misled the emperor, making the emperor think that she was deliberately proposing to seal An Lingrong as "Oriole" because she was "jealous". Concubine", after returning from Lingyun Temple, Zhen Huan's treatment of the emperor was not as tender as before, but a little more dignified and distant. The feeling of " Huan Huan jealous" made the always conceited emperor very useful.
Doing what you haven't done is called growth, doing what you don't want to do is called change.
After Zhen Huan returned to the palace from Ling Yunfeng, she has completed "growth and change". She is no longer the Huan'er who "only talked about feelings" with the emperor. She has let go of her fantasy of love and faded away the layer of stupidity. Xixi's warm smile turned into a person who could use "feelings" as a means, and became a more terrifying opponent.
04If there is no one to support you, you must learn to support yourself.
An Lingrong has no family background, no family to support her, offending her in the previous dynasty is no problem, and it will not affect the emperor's great cause; In front of the emperor, Ling Rong has always been well-behaved and sensible, and has never lost her temper, so the emperor will feel that it doesn't matter to bully her, she will not be noisy or noisy, and she will still behave like a bird.
However, being kind without an edge is dangerous, and once someone thinks that bullying you is a cost-free thing, you will become the one who is always being bullied.
This is why some people are bullied the more they are nice to others. If no one will support you, you must learn to support yourself, express your dissatisfaction when others violate your rights, and let others know your boundaries and bottom lines.
