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's " Tianlun Journey " is a healing drama released in 2009, with a Douban score of 8.6 and rave reviews. Although it has a happy ending, it is solidly a movie that pokes everyone's tears.
why?
for real!
because that's exactly what each of us is going through now or in the future!
This day was supposed to be a family reunion day, but because all four children were busy with work at the same time, they couldn't go home.
's protagonist, Frank, who lost his wife, is even more lonely at this time. He just wants to see more of his children in his lifetime.
's "Family Journey" map
That's why this family trip across the United States, from New York to Chicago , from Denver to Las Vegas , Frank from happiness to depression, from Proud to disappointment.
From the perspective of an old father, I went from ideal to reality, and then to the youngest son, David, who died young...
At this time, I was in tears and couldn't help it Thinking of my mother, if she also knew my situation, would she be disappointed in me too?
Fortunately, Frank reconciled with the kid.
Sure enough, love and understanding are the main themes of the family.
Frank is the absolute protagonist in the film. He may be our father, or we may be ourselves.
Stills of Tianlun's Journey----Waiting for the eldest son to come home
The questions he asked his children are the same questions we have been asked, or we are experiencing.
"Why do children lie to me? Why do they like to report good news instead of bad news? Why do they look for their mother when their mother is there, and still look for their mother when their father is?"
In this film, the director also hinted at the answer many times.
From the children's point of view, Children feel that the father is too strict and good at preaching, while the mother is understanding and good at listening. Children feel that they have grown up and can solve problems by themselves. The so-called "reporting good news but not bad news" just doesn't want their father to worry.
From the father's point of view, regrets that he didn't have time to spend with his children when he was young. He hopes that the children still need themselves as they were when they were young, and hope that the children can live a better life.
In a family, among the two parents, one always sings the red face, and the other sings the white face . In this combination, there is actually no right or wrong.
Because in a family, only love and understanding are the main themes. Home is not a place to tell right or wrong, home is a place to tell love.
Now that I'm a parent too, watch this movie again, and think a lot more.
Four children with different personalities grew up in the same family education environment, and embarked on different life paths as adults. Is
parental bias? Raise them like this? I'm sure not.
Instead, the parents gave their four children the same love and the same education.
The mother can accept her eldest daughter's career success and her marriage failure; she can also understand the work and free life of the eldest son's band drummer; she is also tolerant of her youngest daughter's unmarried pregnancy and same-sex love; she also understands being a painter life is not easy for the youngest son.
I think that the external environment and family education are important, but the inner character is even more important. The so-called character determines the destiny. I have a deep understanding of this film.
In family education, strict parenting or strict mothering and parenting make up about half of all parent types.
As the audience, what kind of child are you/I? Which type of child would you prefer? What kind of character and life do you want your child to be?
Let's first get to know a father like Frank, what is his personality like? How does he get on with his children? What about the personalities of the four children? I believe you will naturally have your own answer in your heart.
Frank is doing the PVC coating work on the wires (to protect the wires from weather changes). 1000 miles of wire coating can be produced a week without interruption, and the mechanical coating work is repeated without interruption...
The scenery along the journey of the family
The scenery of the journey throughout the film, and between the children The background of the call is almost all pictures of wires and poles. Such a clever design not only reflects the director's delicate characterization, but also reminds the audience that the father's work is hard, helpless, and the value it brings, even more pain.
is the meager salary brought by this tedious and boring job, which allows him to raise four children.
During this period of sadness, I felt it when Frank was on the train when he talked about his work; I felt it in a lot of wire scenes in the film; especially when the doctor told him that because of the nature of your work, pulmonary fibrosis It is even more deeply felt when it has become more and more serious.
It can be seen from this that Frank is a traditional good man who cares for the family; at the same time, he is a strong, stubborn and strict father figure.
's busy work has also created a gap between him and the children, so that his impression of the children is still in his childhood more than ten years ago. As everyone knows, the children have quietly grown up.
(there are many times in the film where the father sees several children for the first time, always happy when they were young) such a delicate design is really nice
but Frank still asks the children to grow up in the way they want. Thus, the spear and the shield came into being!
Obviously, from the children's point of view:
The father's high expectations have brought invisible pressure to the children, but children with different personalities suffer from different degrees of pressure and choose different ways to deal with it.
, as the youngest son of David, has the deepest experience.
's younger son's character is the kind of obedient, sensible, and affectionate filial piety. He was an excellent child in the eyes of other parents, with an extraordinary talent for painting, and as an adult, he also became a painter. At the same time, his character is introverted, melancholy, vulnerable, and idealist with high self-esteem.
In Frank's memories, David loved painting as a child, painting on walls, and when he grew up, he wanted to be a freelance painter.
Stills of Tian Lun's Journey-----The younger son David was a child
and his father sternly corrected his son's dream: to be a painter, a painter can change the world.
The father, regardless of his son's interests and aspirations, imprisoned his son's dream. He arbitrarily believed that children had to listen to him when they were young.
Indeed, the son is still a child.
David had to obey his father: I'll try.
It can be seen from his early paintings that he saw his father's efforts for him, and at the same time is grateful for his father's strict education;
He really wants to be his father's pride, and he wants to be perfect in everything, so as to live up to his father's expectations. his expectations.
As you can imagine, his father brought him a lot of pressure! And he chose to undertake it himself and rarely communicated with his father.
David is also an idealist, not flattering or following the crowd. His paintings are very individual, but they are not popular in the market, they cannot be sold, and their life is poorhardship.
And the death of his mother became the last straw that broke him. His mother was his emotional outlet and the only one who listened to his heart.
After the death of his mother, his spiritual support also collapsed, and there is nowhere to release the pressure. In a depressed state, he became addicted to drugs, which led to the death of a drug overdose in a foreign country.
Stills of Tian Lun's Journey ----- When the youngest son David became an adult,
asked his father for a dream, and the father only saw the vicissitudes and melancholy on the face of his youngest son when he became an adult. When he was about to leave, he was still comforting his father, "It's not your fault, Dad." It can be seen that he is a man who resists everything by himself.
In the end, his young life came to an abrupt end, it was a pity, a sigh, and a pity.
he is a painter, a talent, better than most of us;
he can have other better choices, he can have a better life;
he can communicate better with his father or siblings, can have More channels to vent his emotions;
he chose to use drugs to anesthetize himself and escape from reality. Such behavior is a bit cowardly, and one slip will lead to the death of life, and his psychological endurance is still a bit poor.
Facing the same pressure from his father, the eldest son Robert is more open-minded and open-minded.
Robert's personality is a cheerful, outgoing impatient. He is content with the status quo, content with the present life. He is very clear about his position, knows what he wants, likes to earn money while traveling, and lives a happy life.
stills of a trip to the family ---- youngest son Robert
However, the father felt disappointed when his eldest son, the conductor he expected, played the drums in obscurity in the orchestra, although he vigorously denied it in his words. But I could see that he was just disappointed.
He wanted his son to continue his studies, but the eldest son refused in person.
He wanted his son to quit smoking, but the eldest son refuted his father's smoking more when he used to work.
But when his father affirmed him a little bit about his drumming work, he was very satisfied, and suddenly he felt distressed about the hardships of his father's long journey, and he failed to fulfill his son's obligations.
The most accomplished child is the eldest daughter, Amy.
Amy's character belongs to a person who is very assertive and has strong leadership ability; she is a new-age woman with economic independence and spiritual independence, and an elite in the advertising industry; Among the four siblings, she was also the eldest sister who had the idea.
Stills of Tianlun's Journey-----the eldest daughter Amy
From the perspective of the eldest daughter:
She has a good career, and her marriage is unfortunate, so she will divorce and find another good man instead of crying.
She believes that she is also capable of handling children's education and marital problems. I don't want my father to worry about all this.
But in the eyes of fathers, children are always children and need to rely on themselves.
Even if the child grows up, even if it does not bring substantial help sometimes, the father just likes the feeling of being needed.
's younger daughter's personality is also open-minded, beautiful and generous; her personality is more free and easy; she cares about her family and her own feelings.
Tian Lun's Journey Stills-----The youngest daughter Rosie
is a waiter in a bar, but she hides it from her father and falsely claims that she is engaged in dance performance. But it is undeniable that she has responsibility and responsibility. Although she gave birth to a child out of wedlock, she also bravely assumed the responsibility of being a mother.
Frank discovers the concealment and deception of his sons and daughters in the details of their lives.
Father no longer wants to stay at his children's house for a few more days, this time, he offered to,I'm tired, I want to go home, I'll leave tomorrow.
Although the medicine I carry with me is gone, I don't think this is the main reason.
Stills of Tianlun's Journey----The real reason for Frank's journey
is that his father was really tired and disappointed. The children's lies knocked him down again and again, and he felt that he was not needed.
Even though, half of the reasons for the situation today are the father's own reasons.
But so what? It's also because of love! The so-called: deep love, responsibility cut!
And the children just feel that the father is too strict, and he will only be criticized by preaching.
, like the eldest son Robert, loves and fears his father; he really wants to spend more time with his father, but he is afraid of being alone with him, and even the hug between father and son becomes unnatural.
And mothers are more willing to listen, so children are more willing to talk to their mothers.
Therefore, in a family, what is needed more is love and understanding.
So the director designed such a scene to resolve the contradiction:
Tianlun's journey stills----Frank's dream
Frank fell into a coma due to a sudden illness and fell into a dream, back ten years ago, his children were still children sitting around Around, there was an in-depth exchange and communication between the family members.
is very well designed here, which not only avoids the embarrassing picture of arguing between the adult children and their fathers, but also allows the sensitive topics of the family to be spoken through the children's mouth, which does not feel so bloody. Director
also seems to imply that parents should communicate with their children sincerely and effectively from an early age, so that the family relationship will be more harmonious when they grow up.
This is the love between family members. It is the love that is most incessant and unreasonable. It is a love that needs understanding and tolerance.
In the process of watching the movie, there is one place that made me cry the most:
Tian Lun's journey stills----only the love of his wife can calm his complicated emotions I calmed down, so I went to the public phone booth to dial the landline at home, an unanswered landline... Until the recording of his wife's phone message rang, Frank calmed down, and I burst into tears. ......
once again interprets the deep love between parents and how important love is in a family!
Following in the footsteps of their fathers, we can easily see that the children lied to their fathers, but the four children love their fathers and mothers the same. In this regard, their family education is successful.
In the process of watching the movie, there is one thing that surprised me the most: After
was discharged from the hospital, his father received a letter from the New York landlord. The letter was written by my father: David, can I go home for Christmas? Inscription is love your dad.
To be honest, during the viewing process, I kept wondering, what the hell did this lovely old man write in the letter?
I guessed that a page full of letter paper was full of my father's thoughts and my current situation, but the truth was that there was only one sentence.
Oh! NO! I'm too self-righteous, I brought in my subjective emotions, maybe I'm expecting my parents to miss and care about me.
However, after careful scrutiny, this is also in line with Frank's character, not good at words, simple and domineering.
also attached a Christmas photo of a family of five without the father. This shocked me, Director, you are so good!
Stills of Tianlun's Journey----Christmas photos in the absence of father
The director presents these subtleties subtly, so I found that whether it is in the movie or in reality, the way we grow up in life is always strikingly similar .
early yearsBecause my father is very busy with work, he is so busy that he has no time to go home for the holidays.
I come home once a year, with the stubble all over my face, I can't always recognize my father coming back, so I hid behind my mother's legs and stood blankly, staring quietly in the dim light. Dare to approach, do not let him hug. Until my father brought out the candy...
because of the hardships of life, because of our family's livelihood on his shoulders, he had to.
When I was a child, my father had limited time to spend with me, so I was naturally strict with myself. I hoped that I would be successful in my studies and career, and my future life would not be as busy and busy as my father.
Time flies and my father is old. As an adult, I can't go home for reunion due to work or various reasons. This life is somewhat ironic.
If time can be reversed, I hope that parents in the world can ask less of their children. Children can go their own way. As long as they are happy, parents should be content.
If parents could understand a truth earlier, that is, "Most children are ordinary people when they grow up, and they all live ordinary people's lives", then the children will definitely have less pressure to grow up, and maybe they will not be like David. The same, living so tired.
I am Manman, thank you for reading, personal opinion, for reference only!
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