still remember that when I was just chasing "The Legend of Zhen Huan" ten years ago, I always felt that there was some kind of contradiction in several characters. The most typical example of
is Cao Qinmo . She clearly said, "I don't dare to use this thing that betrayed the old master." But she turned her back on the old master, and joined Zhen Huan to engage in Huafei , thus lead to murder.
However, after adding some life experience, I have a new understanding of the contradictions in these characters, which are not so much the personality contradictions of a particular character, but the strange circle of 's human nature .
Today, let's sort out the 3 typical strange circles of human nature that I saw in the play.
01
The first one is related to Anling Rong .
After the emperor ordered the retrial of An Bihuai's case, Meizhuang wrote a letter to his father to ask his father to take more care of An Bihuai. An Lingrong's reaction was very disdainful: Who wouldn't do favors that go with the flow?
She demands such high standards from others, but how does she do it?
When Zhen Huan was at the low point of her miscarriage, she avoided it and ignored it. When Zhen Huan leaned on the plum garden to regain her favor, she was the first to rush up to send her favors: "My concubine prays for the emperor and sister day and night, I hope the emperor Reconciling with my sister is as good as ever, and there is no more rift, and now it really got what I wanted."
An Lingrong dislikes "the human relationship that moves the boat along the water", but that's what he does.
In reality, there are such people. For example, some people say "I'm not a fussy person" and "I hate people who care about them the most", but in fact they are very fussy people, and they like it at every turn Snap hats on others and say that others care about others.
Shen Meizhuang Is writing a letter to An Lingrong a good thing for An Lingrong?
Objectively, no. I have analyzed before that Meizhuang really wanted to help An Lingrong, so he went to ask the emperor for the first time, but was persuaded by Su Peisheng's pros and cons.
Later, the emperor decided to re-examine An Bihuai, and she wrote a letter to the family immediately. This is not a human favor, but a real favor. Because no matter how much they helped her, they really did their best to help, but they didn't do anything beyond their ability to help her.
There is a term in psychology called "total closed self", that is, a person is obsessed with himself and cannot see the real other. Once others do not meet or treat him according to his expectations, he will measure each other according to his own cognition.
Because An Lingrong is the kind of person who likes to be perfunctory, so when others don't fully meet her requirements, no matter what others do, she can't see it, doesn't appreciate it, and will categorically assume that others are also perfunctory. Be kind.
This is very similar to selfishness, but it is essentially a kind of absolute ignorance of others, that is, her world will always have only her own needs and embarrassment, and she cannot see or care about the needs and embarrassment of others. The second one is related to Cao Qinmo.
saw Li Concubine use Kang Luhai who betrayed the old master Zhen Huan, Cao Qinmo said: "Sister is really kind, this thing that betrayed the old master, if it was me, it would be Dian Duan dare not dareuse. ”
And she herself has betrayed the old master. She did not say anything about the old master, and repeatedly said that she wanted to kill the old master Hua Fei, so the queen mother and the emperor thought she was ungrateful, so they let Cao Qinmo’s personal maid secretly poison her to kill her
Cao Qinmo is a smart person anyway, from her own point of view, why didn't she realize that the emperor would be like her "betraying the old master's things and never dare to use them"? I don't understand the secondary factors, the core reason is that Cao Qinmo's pattern of chasing interests is too low.
For herself, she dare not use people who betray her old master because she is afraid that those people will harm her interests; she herself People who are willing to be treacherous are because she has more interests to gain.
people are naturally profit-seeking.
To put it bluntly, it is difficult for many people to stick to their principles and bottom lines in the face of the temptation of interests. Especially In the workplace, I can see it clearly: it is not that a person will not betray, but the bargaining chip of betrayal is not large enough, or the time to betray has not yet come.
Furthermore, there is another layer of human nature in it. , just like the movie "Smell the Scent and Know a Woman" has such a line:
" Now that I am at the crossroads of my life, I always know which way is right, without exception, I know it all, but I never Walk. Any idea why? Because it's so fucking hard.
And Charlie, he too has come to a crossroads. He has chosen the right path, the right path, full of principles, the path to individuality, let him continue his journey. "
Many times, people know where the right path is, but subconsciously they like to take the easy path. As long as she betrays Concubine Hua, Cao Qinmo can get so many benefits, and she will naturally eat the essence and know the flavor, and she can't control it.
03
The third one is related to Zhen Huan. Before
entered the palace, Fang Ruo mentioned that Concubine Hua had a beautiful appearance during the induction training for Zhen Huan, so she loved the six palaces. How long does it take for Israel to treat others? "
Zhen Huan at this time is proud, confident, and even a little high-minded. She thinks that a woman's charm lies in her richness, her appearance is perishable, and it is not reliable.
However, Zhen Huan has experienced small After the low period of childbirth, the first thing she did when she regained her favor was to dress up carefully and use her looks to attract the emperor: "Obviously, I hate Israel for serving others, but now, I can only attract him with looks. "
Zhen Huan's words reveal his disappointment with the emperor, but more of it is self-guilt, or a kind of disdain and helplessness for self, just like the phrase "I'm sorry, after all, I'm still Live as the person you hate the most.”
But in fact, this kind of guilt is unnecessary. Sometimes, people are pushed forward by life, and we have no choice but to make the best decision at the moment, like Cui Jinxi When she heard Zhen Huan's sigh, she immediately reminded her that Concubine Hua was about to regain her favor.Very disadvantageous.
The famous psychotherapist Mr. Hellinger once said: "Guilty is the price that must be paid for growth."
Only when a person is willing to undertake the guilt caused by breaking through the inherent cognition and transform it into cognitive awakening Make breakthroughs, re-see the world as it really is, and live out your own unique way. Only then can you truly grow into an adult and create your own destiny consciously.
No one is static, growth itself is a process of constantly improving the external cognition and internal self. We must keep an open mind and be more tolerant of ourselves. Life is fluid, and we should not solidify our own cognition and judgment.
In fact, these vicious circles of human nature are not impossible to break through. As long as you maintain the good habit of self-awareness and review, and learn to get out of the game properly, you can see yourself and others relatively rationally and objectively.
It's not easy, but it's better to be aware than to just immerse yourself in it.
