's recent hit drama "The Disappearing Child" has finally come to light, and Yuan Wu's corpse has finally been exposed, and he has also paid the due price and was sentenced to one year and ten months.
can't help but make people feel regretful, seeing a scholar so useless.
Wei Chen, starring Yuan Wu, is a "child from someone else's family". He has excellent grades since childhood. With 645 points in the college entrance examination and full marks in mathematics, he was admitted to a famous university. After that, my life was smooth sailing, with a stable job, a happy family and a lovely daughter.
But this "heaven's favored man" was finally reduced to being unable to buy a bag of enoki mushrooms.
Since the death of his mother in a car accident, Yuan Wu's life has been like a roller coaster, from the top to the bottom.
It turns out that my mother loves Yuan Wu very much and does everything. Yuan Wu never had to make a choice, because his mother had arranged three meals a day, food, clothing, housing and transportation.
Before he went to college, his mother cut him off from all social interactions, making friends was a waste of time, and learning well was king.
never got along with the outside world, which caused Yuan Wu to have social phobia and could not integrate into the group after going to college. My mother instructed one by one how to have a good relationship with classmates and get close to the teacher.
's mother covered the sky with one hand, and infiltrated Yuan Wu's life pervasively. Even the blind date to find a wife is also arranged by her. She took Yuan Wu to rehearse in advance, and instructed Yuan Wu word by word how to answer the woman's question during the blind date.
Everything develops like a mother's control. Yuan Wu gets married and has children, and his life is full of happiness.
came unexpectedly, the mother died, Yuan Wu's sky fell.
Without the help of his mother, Yuan Wu couldn't arrange his life. He was overwhelmed every day, and in confusion, he fell into gambling, lost all his money, lost his job, and didn't know how to repent.
's wife left him with her daughter, leaving only Yuan Wu and his father to depend on each other for life, relying on his father's pension to survive, and the meals were not oily. One day, my father wanted to eat enoki mushrooms, but Yuan Wu came back empty-handed.
It turned out that Yuan Wu passed by a stall selling cotton shoes, 10 yuan for two pairs, thinking that his father lacked a pair of cotton shoes, Yuan Wu handed over 5 yuan, the boss said: "10 yuan for two pairs, 7 yuan for a pair."
Yuan Wu took out With the last 1 yuan, I bought a pair of cotton slippers at a bargain price of 6 yuan.
had no money to buy enoki mushrooms, so Yuan Wu could only lie to his father and sold out.
Yuan Wu's filial and wasteful state is both pathetic and deplorable. He obviously had a great future, but he personally ruined everything.
Yuan Wu's tragedy is the victim of the failure of 's family education.
The doting of parents is self-righteous love.
Children who grew up under the overprotection and arrangement of their parents have not experienced wind and rain, can't carry on their shoulders and can't carry them on their shoulders. When they encounter setbacks, they can't bear it and just want to escape.
One, raising a child, hurting three generations
raising a child, ruining not only the child's own life. From parents to children, it is inevitable that they will suffer.
In order to save Yuan Wu, his father sold his house to pay off his gambling debts. After a lot of years, he left his hometown and brought Yuan Wu to a new city to let him start over.
However, Yuan Wu couldn't stand up again.
He can't even talk to people normally. He has to practice many times before communicating with people, but he still stutters.
In his new job, Yuan Wu failed to pass the probationary period, but he lied to his father and pretended to go to work every day in suits and leather shoes, but he was actually going to the chess and card room.
After his father died after drinking, Yuan Wu wanted to build his father in the hollow wall of the bathroom and hide the body just to continue to receive his father's pension.
Yuan Wu's life is full of endless tragedies.
The wife and daughter are forced to leave, how can a father who cannot support himself support his child's life? The child has lost a complete family, a good starting point, and a promising future.
Yuan Wu's waste of firewood has to be paid for by three generations.
read a story, once, Taiwan's richest man Guo Taiming was in Yellowstone Park in the United States. He saw the sign saying that feeding pigeons was prohibited. He felt strange and asked the administrator why feeding was prohibited.
administrator said: "The previous winter, there was a heavy snowfallAfter that, the pigeons all died. Because he was used to human feeding, he lost his ability to forage, and as a result, he could not survive the days when there were extremely few tourists. "No matter who
is, he will only eat and wait to die, and he will not survive the cold winter and hardships.
's doting on his child day after day is like boiling a frog in warm water, making him lose his livelihood in the honey-like life. Ability, can not survive.
Second, the parent's parenting style determines the direction of a child's life
A child's future is to soar in the sky or live a lifetime, which is closely related to family education.
The British documentary "Rich Brother Poor Brother" is about a pair of relatives Brothers, we lived together and ate and lived together since childhood. The environment and resources were the same. When we grew up, the life of my brother and my younger brother turned out to be very different. Undetermined, humble and low-level people living by doing odd jobs.
The "culprit" that caused the difference between them is their parents.
It turned out that the parents were very doting on the younger brother, but they were very strict with the elder brother.
The elder brother is 8 years old From time to time, I have a lot of work to do, walking the dog, repairing the lawn, delivering newspapers in the morning, and working in the supermarket at night. My brother, on the other hand, is idle every day, destroying public property, selling small yellow books, smoking, and making trouble everywhere.
brother He has been independent since he was a child, and has mastered the skills of making a living. At the age of 21, he earned the first pot of gold in his life. Since then, his wealth has rolled into the rich class. Raised a giant baby. I am very ambitious, and I do not work for a long time. I can only sell some coolies. When people reach middle age, how can they be home and can only "wander" around. The weather vane of the fate of the two brothers has been quietly fixed as early as childhood. .
How parents love their children, the children will grow up in a way that adapts to this kind of love.
When the child picks up the mop, you feel sorry for him, just study, over time, he will become the one you mop the floor without lifting your feet People.
When a child wants to let go of his parents' hands and walk independently, you feel sorry for him, and if you keep holding on to your hands, he will never be able to learn. If he falls, he has to get up on his own.
A normally developing child is eager to Independent, and many parents underestimate their children.
A 3-year-old boy in the United States pushes a shopping cart taller than others to buy ingredients in the supermarket. He wants to cook dinner for his mother. Pick flowers, decorate the dining table , set the tableware, bake bread in the oven, cook lasagna in the microwave. It weakens children. They are often braver and more capable than you think. However, many children do not have the opportunity to try.
Three, the more Pampering, the more you understand cruelty
best-selling author Liu Yong is a father who loves his children very much. It is because of his pet that he is especially "ruthless" towards children.
He knows very well that teaching children to stand in the society is the real good for children.
He played with his daughter and never let her, because he hoped that she could accept setbacks; he let his daughter go to high school in Stevenson, which is far away in Manhattan, because he hoped she could be independent; when his daughter was admitted to Harvard, he let her go to high school. She chose her own department because she hoped that she could decide her own future.
Even though his daughter was born in a family with good conditions, Liu Yong still warned his daughter:
"Son, this world is full of competition. You must not treat luck as a habit just because you are lucky, because luck does not always stay with us. You You must tell yourself at any time: Today I can be a "Princess Pea", and tomorrow I can sleep in the woodshed."
Independence is a talisman for children to walk in society. To cultivate children's independence from an early age, you might as well start from these three points.
1, hold back, don't intervene
Some parents see their children's building blocks fall down, so they help them up. Seeing the child wrestling , he immediately picked up the child. Seeing that the child couldn't open the lid, he reached out and opened it.
As things go on like this, children will get used to waiting for their parents to help, no matter how small difficulties they encounter.
Montessori said: "Never disturb a child unless you are invited by him." Several times, he has the ability to resolve. When he can't finish, ask you for help, and it's not too late to help.
2, let go, let the kids try
Parents release their hands, don't do it all.
When my son goes to kindergarten, the teacher will assign homework, and he can beat his grandparents' backs, clean up the house, take out the garbage, etc. Diligent and capable children can wash dishes, chop vegetables, and often see pictures shared by parents in class groups.
let the child realize that he does his own things from a young age, that he is a member of the family and should contribute to his ability.
encourages children to do housework, and if you are willing to use children, you will have great achievements in the future.
3, cruel, let children face
Freud said: "The main driving force for growth comes from separation from parents."
Although parents are reluctant, they also have to face the fact that when children are older, they naturally want to fly.
When the child wants to climb high and look far and live independently, the parents bite their teeth, resolutely, and respect the child's decision.
In each challenge, children will find confidence and become stronger.
's parenting in the early years was all for the purpose of quitting gracefully in the future.
leave the stage to the children, and parents to be the watchmen behind the scenes.
put a pair of powerful wings on the child, and from now on, Tian Gao will let him fly!
