Recently, Zeng Huaqian basked in the sunshine of his birth, mocking himself as " Oolong Wang ", 57 years old is recorded as 58 years old.
Although she is old, her face is still like a girl, occasionally oolong, making fans shout "cute".
But another "big oolong" in her life has made fans sigh and regret, that is the three-point three-combination between her and Tony Leung .
They have been entangled for many years and caused a sensation in the entire entertainment circle.
Tony Leung held hands with Carina Lau , and Zeng Huaqian also married another woman.
Two people who love each other so much, why didn't they get married in the end?
They meet by fate, but they are three-pointed and three-in-one
Zeng Huaqian and Tony Leung are like "birds and fish", from completely different worlds.
Zeng Huaqian came from a wealthy family, her parents and two older brothers were doctors. Although her family is very busy, she loves her unconditionally. She acts as much as she wants, and as a doctor as she wants.
And Tony Leung was born in a poor family. His father was addicted to gambling and lost all his family savings. His mother supported a family alone, and was often worried about supporting the family. In order to help her mother share the pressure, Tony Leung began to work as a handyman when he was a teenager.
Two people who couldn't fight, actually did the same thing: accompany a friend to sign up for a TVB training class.
In the end, friends were not selected, they were selected, entered TVB one after the other, and fell in love at first sight at a banquet.
TVB originally strictly prohibited artists from falling in love, but only "showed mercy" to them. After the romance was exposed, fans and audiences loved the pair.
The melancholy and handsome Tony Leung and the charming and charming Zeng Huaqian are just like the "handsome men and beautiful women" in the painting.
However, different growth environments and character backgrounds make a seemingly beautiful relationship full of hardships.
Tony Leung has to work hard to support his family. Where did Zeng Huaqian know? She grew up with a golden spoon in her mouth, and she cares more about being able to get along with the people she loves day and night than work. In the days when
did not meet, Liang Chaowei was always filming, and Zeng Huaqian was waiting for the call.
The artist Carina Lau said one thing: "She (Zeng Huaqian) is very good and always waits by the phone. There was no mobile phone at that time, and the other party said when it was time to wait until when." Don't keep your heart tied to him.
At this time, Carina Lau is in love. She is bright, has a different style from Zeng Huaqian, and is more open-minded about her feelings.
Zeng Huaqian, who can be immersed in love, does not understand: Why do I have to endure the pain of separation?
Tony Leung also doesn't understand: Why does she only want to fall in love all day?
Soon, the two got into trouble. After the first breakup, TVB deliberately matched the two and asked them to shoot the same drama.
As they get along day and night, the two really rekindled their old love and quarreled again. After quarreling with Tony Leung, Zeng Huaqian often dragged Carina Lau to vomit bitterness, and Tony Leung also wanted to get out of this relationship and start contacting new people of the opposite sex.
They broke up for the second time. They couldn't stand the enthusiasm of fans for "kicking CP", and TVB brought them together again.
But the experience brought by this recombination was terrible: Zeng Huaqian showed an amazing desire for control, and Tony Leung could only avoid her when he was in a daze.
fell in love with each other and hurt each other. Even Carina Lau, who acted as a "peacemaker", gradually realized that these two people really have different personalities and are not suitable to be together.
At this time, Carina Lau also ended her last relationship. Compared with Zeng Huaqian's stubbornness, her attitude was more decisive and straightforward. After
broke up for the third time, Tony Leung had a good impression of Carina Lau in a shooting. Zeng Huaqian, who still hasn't gotten out of this relationship, ended it all in a violent way. She drove to Tony Leung's house, smashed the glass of his house, and threw a sentence to the media: "I dumped him!" The back figure shows the final outcome of this relationship.
Love and marriage are "moon" and "sun"
You may have discovered that some people are only suitable for love, while others can enter into marriage.
is like Tony Leung and Tseng Huaqian, who are three-pointed and three-in-one, but still haven't come together; while Tony Leung and Carina Lau, after falling in love for 20 years, got married and have a harmonious relationship so far.
is also an intimate relationship, why is the result so different after changing the individual?
Because of the essence of love, it is to try to leave the best side to each other.
There is a " moon halo phenomenon" in psychology: men and women shrouded in the moon halo, indulge in the good side of each other, but they will over-enlarge this side, unable to see the real each other.
When Tony Leung and Zeng Huaqian fell in love, they were both attracted by the good side of each other, and they longed for the halo, feeling that the other party was as beautiful as the surface.
has been with each other for a long time, and it is unbearable to see the bad side of each other. There is no marriage constraint, naturally it is divided according to what is said.
But marriage is different. Psychology professor Jordan Peterson proposed: The essence of marriage is to be willing to tie yourself to another person, not to run away when something happens.
Marriage is like the sun shining on the earth, shining on both families and showing each other's shortcomings, and then learn to fulfill each other.
In the interaction between Tony Leung and Carina Lau, we can clearly see this function of marriage.
Leslie Cheung commented on Tony Leung: "The character is very strange and difficult to contact."
He doesn't care about family affairs, and all trivial matters after marriage are left to Carina Lau; he has a sensitive personality and goes to London to feed pigeons when he is in a bad mood; introverted social fear, not at all I like to deal with Carina Lau's friends.
such an "eccentric" person, Carina Lau tries to be tolerant.
She did the housework and decoration, and let her husband move in comfortably with a bag;
maintained Liang Chaowei and did not speak ill of him in front of the media;
gave him personal space, and the reporter asked her "what if Tony Leung chooses Maggie Cheung ", she said open-mindedly "Awei is a handsome boy, I support whoever he falls in love with."
Carina Lau is like Tony Leung's "caregiver", sees that his wife brings good effects to him, and slowly, Tony Leung has also changed.
He became Carina Lau's "guardian". Even though was busy filming outside, he hurried back late at night on his wife's birthday and flew back after her birthday;
Carina Lau was kidnapped by the underworld and took nude photos. depression. Tony Leung said to her: "This circle is so complicated, let's just leave. Wherever you want to go, I will accompany you." I am as strong as a mountain."
One to take care of, one to protect. They are like two planets, illuminating each other's lives and working together to build a healthy marriage.
To choose marriage is to choose a long practice. Different understandings of this point made Tony Leung go to the left and Zeng Huaqian to the right.
When Tony Leung was too depressed because of his entry into the play, Carina Lau always brought him back to the real world; when Carina Lau needed him, he always stood up as soon as possible.
The more they complete each other, the more stable their marriage is;
And after Zeng Huaqian and Tony Leung broke up, they still fell in love with their temperament. ;
After another 3 years, she and businessman Lin Zhaoji got married. After the marriage, rumors of "disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" and "too strong desire for control" continued to spread. Lin Zhaoji also complained to the media.
"You have to report wherever you go, and there is no freedom at all. Even if she is a little more considerate of me?"
After the sixth year of marriage, the marriage is coming to an end.
went round and round on the road of love, Zeng Huaqian is still unable to become the sun shining on each other, her understanding of feelings is still in the stage of love.
So many years ago, she sighed lately: she was too young and ignorant at that time, and her way of dealing with feelings was immature.
What is a "mature" way of dealing with relationships? Just like the old saying: marriage is like a stool.
has the ability to manage marriage, in fact, has the ability to "fix things". No matter what happens, communicate together to find a solution.
If you have different personalities, then try to get in touch; if the three views are inconsistent, then try to take a step back.
As the psychologist Fromm said: In addition to giving each other, true love includes certain basic elements, such as caring, responsibility, respect and understanding.
got married because of this, just like raising a pot of plants, enjoying the green, but also paying attention to it. Only by creating a suitable environment for each other to grow can both branches flourish.
So, if you're in a relationship, you might as well ask yourself three questions:
Do I have a lot of fantasies about this relationship?
Can I calmly accept the worst of each other?
Can I expose my truest side to each other?
Don't say the answer, just take it to heart. If you're in a marriage, ask yourself three questions:
Will my actions "wither" the other person?
Can I take care of each other properly?
Does the way the other person takes care of me really suits me?
Everyone walks the fork in love and marriage in a different way. The answers vary, and the process is worlds apart.
Some people have gone through vicissitudes of life before they see through reality and fantasy, and they are not their favorite, but the most suitable person; I understand a truth: in this life, it is not uncommon to encounter sex and love. It is rare to encounter understanding.
No matter what kind of process we go through, we must have our own answer. This answer points to the ultimate issue in life: Is love or marriage what I want?
Fortunately, it doesn't matter if there is no answer for the time being, because people have the property of growth.
The process of exploring inward with questions will make us more and more sober, until one day we are completely transparent, and we will naturally have happiness.
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