Why does everyone say that Xiao Yuanyi is incompetent as a mother, because she did one thing wrong

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When reviewing the details of this drama over and over again, I really want to say that Xiao Yuanyi is a good mother as a mother. Maybe after Shaoshang becomes a mother, she can understand how she hurt her mother and her mother's mood.

Let me be Xiao Yuanyi's mouth for once, and that's the same sentence. It's okay to discuss, but don't open up.

Let's talk about the fact that Shaoshang became a left-behind child in those days, because all the hatred and dissatisfaction after Shaoshang were based on this, because childhood was unhappy.

Xiao Yuanyi gave birth to a pair of twins, and the mother-in-law, at the instigation of the younger sister-in-law, asked to keep the born children, so as to keep the mother-in-law safe.

With Xiao Yuanyi's knowledge and insight, she may not believe in the myth of gods and ghosts, and she may also think of her sister-in-law's malicious intentions, but she can't help but take care of her mother-in-law's feelings. After all, this is the mother of her beloved husband-in-law.

How urgent the situation was at that time, everyone knew that the mother who gave birth to the child would have to rest for a month, and Xiao Yuanyi was going to set off on the war horse after giving birth to the child. Here we have to pay attention, she seems to be going out with her husband, but in fact it is her responsibility. She has a position in the army and has her own escort team, so she has a righteousness here.

A lot of times, she has to give up her family for the sake of justice. She gave up herself and her children, but from another perspective, she also has plans and her own love. Why did

leave a girl instead of a son? Many people think this is patriarchal. Wrong, from the perspective of the Cheng family style, although the eldest mother does not seem to pay attention to girls, in fact, the status of the Cheng family women is high. At the very least, Xiao Yuanyi did not prioritize sons over daughters, and he valued girls more. It can be seen that

invited the master from the Cheng family and asked the boys and girls to read together.

Xiao Yuanyi is not a prophet, they are not going out to be officials, nor are they traveling in the mountains and waters, they are going to war. Why took two sons, just because they are men and can go to the battlefield. I believe that when the eldest mother asked to keep a child, Xiao Yuanyi must also have the idea of ​​leaving the bloodline.

Looking at the accident that Shaoshang encountered on the way out with his second uncle, thinking about the woman who was kidnapped by the enemy for Shaoshang, you can know Xiao Yuanyi's original intention of leaving Shaoshang. The plot of

only allowed us to see a family that came back with a dignified victory and honored the generals, but did not let us see how many people the Cheng Family Army lost in the more than ten years of war between the South and the North, Xiao Yuanyi and his wife and two What kind of thrilling and life-and-death scenes have my brother experienced. Whether

can come back alive after the expedition, whether he can come back alive with all his tails, is the biggest unknown. What Xiao Yuanyi can see is that Shaoshang can stay alive in the mansion and avoid war.

Xiao Yuanyi didn't care about the young merchants either. In the past ten years, they have been sending money and things to their homes, and the rewards they have won are also sent back to Cheng's home. The intention of the extra gifts was that Xiao Yuanyi knew the conduct of his sister-in-law, and just wanted to use the extra gifts in exchange for taking care of his daughter.

It's just that she didn't expect how vicious Ge Shi's heart was, and she treated Shao Shang harshly. I also want to say a few words here, Shaoshang is also a worry-free child since he was a child. There is one kind of child's self-protection is to follow the trend and be obedient, such as Chuck; another kind of child's self-protection is to constantly attack and resist, such as Shaoshang.

is just a kid like Shaoshang, who will suffer a lot and suffer a lot.

has suffered from grievances since childhood and may suffer from war. As a mother, which one should you choose? Perhaps, at the moment Xiaoshang was left behind, the moment Xiao Yuanyi and the others stepped out of Cheng's house, they may not have thought that they would be able to come back alive after more than ten years.

found the influence of the original family on him, not as an excuse for all the unhappiness and hatred in this life, but to make these influences a force to face life.

Don't say, even if you are suffering from war, as long as the family is happy together, it is a war, a cruel war. It is Xiao Yuanyi's instinct as a mother to keep Shao Shang away from all this.

Let's talk about Xiao Yuanyi's return. What she did to Shaoshang aggravated Shaoshang's hatred for her and everyone's doubts. And Xiao Yuanyi also regretted it, and kept apologizing to Shaoshang, saying that he was the firstOnce the mother of a girl, I did it wrong.

But, in my opinion, Xiao Yuanyi is the real mother and daughter when she sees Shao Shang's reaction. Not to mention that the Queen and Shao Shang are like a mother and daughter, that is not a mother's reaction to her daughter, the Queen's reaction to the fifth princess is a mother and daughter.

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to see what Shaoshang did from Xiao Yuanyi's three-dimensional cognition perspective. She has no way of agreeing with her daughter's , and she is a mother. Seeing the child's behavior, the first It is instinctive to be worried. This is something that can only be experienced after becoming a parent. Many behaviors of

Shao-shang can be praised as smart and smart as others, but mother can't.

Xiao Yuanyi knows that their ability to protect their daughters is limited. Once they get married, according to what Shaoshang is doing now, they will either become another Ge family, or they will become the target of public criticism of her husband's family. In Xiao Yuanyi's eyes,

could not see a happy future for her daughter.

grabbing the desk, I won't discuss it here, Xiao Yuanyi is not facing the question of who the desk is for, she wants to maintain the relationship between the Cheng family, but also to figure out the whole thing, so that everyone, including those with ulterior motives. People have nothing to say.

finally talked about Xiao Yuanyi's proposal to Ling Budo.

Many people only see Xiao Yuanyi's process of belittling the young businessman in public, but they don't see her intention to protect the young businessman with all her strength. Here you can compare how Wen Xiujun treated his daughter Wang Ji, and interested friends can go to

and marry Ling Budo? Xiao Yuanyi had never thought about it at all. She didn't even want her daughter to marry from an aristocratic family. Could she let her daughter enter the royal family? But in the face of the emperor's proposal, apart from belittling her daughter as unworthy, she had no other way to reject the marriage.

can make up for it, Xiao Yuanyi directly agreed to this marriage, is it abnormal? Everyone said that Ling Budo was cold-faced and cold-hearted. She even married her daughter enthusiastically. Isn't that really what Yuan Shanjian said? , Inflamed parents?

What if Xiao Yuanyi did wrong? That is, she was bent on rejecting this marriage, and forgot about Shaoshang's feelings. However, at the time, she thought it was a fire pit-like marriage, and naturally felt that her daughter's feelings could be put aside for now.

must know that she is a woman who has been on the battlefield countless times. At that moment, life and death and emotions, which is more important? Of course life and death matter.

Xiao Yuanyi knew that once they agreed to this marriage, they would be powerless to do anything about their daughter in Ling Mansion in the future. Moreover, she also considered the issue of the back house, the Ling family was too complicated.

It can be seen from here that Xiao Yuanyi has planned a lot for her daughter, but the young businessman can't understand it.

However, Shaoshang agreed to this marriage, especially when Xiao Yuanyi saw Ling Budo's sincerity towards Shaoshang, she let go of a lot of worries and fears.

Xiao Yuanyi was a little stricter with Shaoshang when he first came back, but when Shaoshang started talking about marriage, Xiao Yuanyi had done a pretty good job as a mother.

Young merchant wants to be with Lou Yao, Xiao Yuanyi is against it, but he doesn't object to being arbitrary, so he still takes Young merchant to Lou's house. She has been reminding Shaoshang to see the weakness of this marriage, but her actions have been supporting Shaoshang and even making various remedies.

Shao Shang agreed to Ling Budo's proposal, Xiao Yuanyi was against it, but when she was confused, he gave her the best advice.

No matter what Shaoshang does, I see a mother who always stands behind her daughter to give her the best. Together with her, she cleaned up the mother and daughter of the Lou family's big house, faced Princess Ruyang's censure together with her, and even brought the whole family to help her rescue Ling Budo.

didn't think that Shao Shang entered the palace and learned anything from the queen. On the contrary, Xiao Yuanyi's enlightenment to Shao Shang was amazing.

She said that if you don't know Ling Budo's family, you agree to this marriage; she said, since you agree to this marriage, you should talk to them well, and you feel uncomfortable after agreeing, such entanglement is not a gentleman What she did; she also said, if you really regret not wanting this marriage, you will give up all the glory and wealth of the Cheng family., the whole family returned home is also to support the daughter's divorce.

, ​​what's wrong with such a mother? Everything you do can't be exchanged for Shaoshang's forgiveness. This is the greatest difficulty.

Xiao Yuanyi is a woman who lives more transparently in the play and is not sloppy. If you say that her mother is incompetent, it can only be said that she has done one thing wrong to Shaoshang, that is, caring is messy, which is very similar to Ling Budo.

has always felt that the reconciliation between children and parents is not because of one thing, but after the children become parents, they will naturally reconcile.

So, why did Xiao Yuanyi shout that I was wrong after entering the Changqiu Palace without looking back? I want to say, you are right.

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