When the elderly talk about sex, they say that love is disrespectful to the old, despised by others, and even labeled as an "old beast".
's long-repressed emotions forced them to express and vent. Because of this,
has the movie " old beast ".
is a good movie that won four awards at the 54th Taiwan Golden Horse Awards in one fell swoop, .
"Old Beast" mentions something quite daring - the sexual desires of the elderly.
And this kind of thing is contrary to Chinese ethics, and it is difficult for Chinese people to accept it. The old man in
"Old Beast" has been taking care of his paralyzed wife for six or seven years. His children's indifference, and his long-suppressed emotions forced him to burst out of primitive animal nature and find a lover to release his desire for nowhere to be placed. .
In addition to lust itself, this desire is more of a confrontation with life.
Life is twilight, vitality is gradually fading, lonely helplessness always strikes the soul, and the fear of aging is better than death.
Marquez wrote in "Memoirs of a Bitter Prostitute" that "sex is the comfort one gives to oneself when one cannot get love".
Behind the physical desire is loneliness and the desire for love.
has a second season of the documentary "Talking to Strangers", revealing the truth about the sexual desires of the elderly.
"You don't know how lonely a person is, the lights are on all night, all the lights are on, and I often sleep with the TV on, it's not scary, it's not annoying to be alone, it's like this every day, I wake up at four or five o'clock, The TV is on and off..."
lives alone, it is no different from dead, there is no place to talk at all.
In the empty house, year after year, the only thing left in life is the suffocation caused by loneliness, which makes people panic, and even makes people feel hopeless.
They have to find someone to prove that their life is alive.
The bathroom is a place full of eroticism with ambiguous lighting.
received Lao Yang is a dwarf girl, they are regarded as disabled, few people treat them as normal people.
This also seems to imply that it is not normal for older people to have sex.
Lao Yang's little lover, Lily, is a girl in the bathroom.
He hooked the girl with his hands, with a complacent air, obviously very confident in his own charm.
The bed scene is not a brushstroke, he made Lily put on a bright red woolen coat, and he smiled for the first time. In the
video, Lao Yang laughed twice. The second time was when showed his little grandson a camel. Why is
laughing?
Maybe, at that moment, he found the value of existence. On the
screen, the screen is full of barrage of "old animals" and "disrespectful for the old".
The "sex" of the elderly is just so ridiculous and shameful.
Actually, eroticism is about emotions, not age.
Watanabe Junichi once said:
"A person can fall in love no matter what age group he is. Love is the shining point in one's life. Of course, young people can also fall in love, but middle-aged people and old people no matter where they go. All ages can fall in love, and this kind of love is also very beautiful."
has entered old age, but they still have emotions and desires in their hearts, and these are often ignored intentionally or unintentionally. A survey report by
shows that 95% of the elderly between the ages of 65 and 80 still have sexual impulses.
The desire of the elderly for women is not just sexual desire, but the envy of life.
In the past decade, the proportion of older Chinese men infected with AIDS has been increasing.
Why is the number of elderly AIDS patients increasing?
Because the current elderly population is mostly widowed, divorced, lack of marital sex, etc., and has more leisure time, and at the same time is burdened with social prejudice against the sexual needs of the elderly, The physiological needs have not been met for a long time.
The prejudice and misunderstanding of the society make them constantly suppress their own needs, or seek stimulation and satisfaction through visiting prostitutes or extramarital sex, and mainly chooses cheap and hidden dark prostitutes , the ratio of multiple sex partners is high , more susceptible to disease.
They became the neglected group.
's seemingly crazy behavior is the ultimate loneliness and pain
Lao Yang is called an old beast because what he does is not "personnel".
He is a rich-blooded class in the era of wealth turbulence, and his life is difficult after bankruptcy.
The children locked him in the house to take care of his paralyzed wife, and in anger, he picked up the axe and chopped the lock.
glanced at his wife lying on the sofa and went out directly.
He went to the bank, and the ATM showed that the balance in the card was only 75 yuan.
's eyes are full of sadness, anger and helplessness about life.
He asked the child why he didn't make a payment, and the other party hung up the phone without any explanation.
When he was young, Lao Yang, as a group of people who just got rich, is not a person who can save money, nor is he a person who stops after earning a little money.
He helped his eldest son to marry a daughter-in-law and his third daughter to buy a house, which is his pride as a father.
's former son and son-in-law were supported by Lao Yang both financially and in terms of connections.
's wife was paralyzed for seven years, and Lao Yang was always taking care of him.
But now, because of bankruptcy, he has become a burden to the children.
He rode a dilapidated electric car, lingering at gambling tables, pubs, and bathing centers, relying on his children to help, and even taking care of his lover, Lao Yang.
The conflict that had been brewing for a long time did not break out until his wife became seriously ill due to an accident and Lao Yang misappropriated his wife's money for medical treatment.
Actually, Lao Yang took the money to pay back his friends' money. He was penniless, but he just wanted to keep his last dignity in front of his friends.
They ignored Lao Yang's needs, grievances, and depression, thinking that Lao Yang should be locked in the house, take care of his wife, and then slowly die like an old dog.
So, Lao Yang was angry.
He went to the bathroom for a massage, looked for a lover, didn't answer his children's phone calls, and roamed outside all night to vent himself.
Behind his seemingly crazy and absurd "beast" behavior, he is protesting against a miserable life.
The children couldn't bear Lao Yang's behavior, so they forcibly tied him up, locked him in the cellar, and the children walked away.
Lao Yang, who broke free from the rope, called the police angrily and took his son to court. He still refused to withdraw the case and locked his son.
mediated the end, and Lao Yang and his children blamed each other.
The son couldn't bear it anymore, pointed to Lao Yang's nose and asked: "Are you worthy of being my dad?"
At the end of the film, Lao Yang returned home. He looked at his wife who was lying on the bed and couldn't move. For the first time, he showed his emotions. He said:
" You are the most important person to me. We have grown from young to Now, I have experienced everything and have a good life. The doctor said that we should go back to support. I think we should not suffer. The children have grown up, and I am almost at the end of my life. You go first, and I will come later. . "
and then heHe took sleeping pills for his wife and himself respectively, lying on the sofa, quietly waiting for death.
Why don't the Chinese dare to talk about the sex and pain of the elderly.
The state of the elderly in the minds of Chinese people: take care of children, don't spend money indiscriminately, be kind, have no temper, and don't cause trouble.
Everyone is accustomed to regard this group as the elderly, not men or women, the gender characteristics are blurred, they are just a group of elderly people, a group of elderly people who only need to be clear-headed and light-hearted.
But they forget that the elderly also have the right to pursue their own happiness.
Wilde once said such a profound sentence:
"The tragedy of old age is not that a person is old, but that he is still young." In
"Return to Paradise", when Ms. Kyoko's daughter found out that her mother was with the young physical therapist, she instinctively denied it and said to herself: What a shame .
is sex, it's never a shameful word, it's an innate behavior that accompanies human beings. People will gradually age with age, and will lose the will and ability to reproduce, but the physiological needs belonging to animals will still remain. Older people are people too, they have normal needs and also have sexual desires. One should not lose the basic rights of being a human being just because the body gets old.
The great philosopher Montaigne said:
The best thing an old man can get is the kindness and love of his family, and command and awe are no longer his weapons.
What the elderly need most, but also the most easily overlooked by young people. They don't want to talk about it because they don't want to admit that the pain of
old people may have something to do with them.
Don't run away, don't play stupid.
The problem of the elderly requires you to face up to it, whether it is lust or other problems.
No matter how many days are left.
they all deserve to be taken seriously.
