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"If I have something, you must take good care of your two daughters. If you want to get married again, it’s okay to find a woman who treats them well."
I didn’t expect that, this The words actually came from the mouth of "Niang Niang" Cai Shaofen. In the impression of
, Cai Shaofen and her husband Zhang Jin have been perfect couples who love and appreciate each other since they got married. How could she say such "realistic" words.
Someone immediately said to Cai Shaofen in a surprised tone, "How come! He loves you so much."
"Be realistic." Cai Shaofen immediately said these four characters powerfully.
Think about Cai Shaofen’s endless praise of Zhang Jin and help to his career in the 13 years of marriage, think about her giving birth to three children for Zhang Jin when she was an elderly woman, and think about this public support for her husband’s remarriage. Could not help but overwhelmed.
has given so much, how can he be willing to marry her husband again...
Cai Shaofen's words are really distressing.
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talked about this with my friend Cici, and her actions once again made me feel deeply moved.
Cici said that she once asked her husband if she would be willing to sell the house to treat her if she had a serious illness.
Her husband is a straight man, and immediately replied, "If you really get a serious illness, even if you bankrupt your family, you will be cured."
Cici was very pleased and told me, "My husband is willing to treat me like this, and he will have no regrets when he is dead. If he wants to marry, he will marry."
"Besides, I love my husband and don't want him to spend the rest of his life alone."
I was stunned. As a friend of Cici's, I know that it has not been easy for her over the years: I met Yu Hanwei with her husband, and went to work after confinement. In order to save money for her family, she bought a car and house several years after marriage.
"Are you really willing to give your hard-working things to other women?"
"Not reconciled at first," Cici said, "What's the use of not being reconciled, can manage it in this life? I’m pretty good. I can’t control what other people want and do. Why bother in vain? If you have that time, it’s better to drink tea and watch movies."
"Don’t worry, I can’t bear to die." Cici smiled, "I want to live a hundred years old in good health, and have a full house of children and grandchildren." At the end of
, she told me again and again, don't try to control others. If a person treats you sincerely, you don't need to control it at all; if a person is polite, how can you control him.
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suddenly thought of the tragic life of a woman in her hometown.
I don’t know her last name or first name, and it’s impossible to know her detailed information in the second half of my life.
I only know that she was talking about the age at which she was married, and after the marriage of three aunts and six wives, she married into a family of three brothers. Her husband is the eldest of the brothers.
In a family with three sons that is not wealthy, one can imagine how much mind and determination it takes to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, husband and wife, and husband and wife.
Fortunately, her husband is very nice, filial, caring, and hardworking. Marrying such a man could have spent the rest of his life without any worries.
However, this woman is too small, or not kind enough. She did not allow her husband to help the brothers, nor did she allow him to honor the elderly. But this man is a very good brother and son. He is determined to help the brothers and respect his parents.
Over time, the relationship between husband and wife deteriorated to the extreme. To make matters worse, this woman was severely depressedDepression, a bruise and swollen face even from the birth of his daughter.
In order to protect the two children and to make the family live a peaceful life, the man filed for divorce ten years after marriage.
Last year, the man was introduced to a woman who was several years younger than him. The two quickly talked about marriage, and the new house had already been bought for one or two million.
pityed his ex-wife. A few years ago, her parents passed away one after another. She was crazy, and it was difficult to go out to find a job. She lived a hard life under the fence of her brother-in-law's house. When she was awake, she called her two daughters. As soon as the daughter heard her voice, she shuddered and hung up the phone.
What she did not expect was that the relationship between the two daughters and the stepmother was quite good, with a beaming sense of sight. The tears left by
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today are all the water in her mind. If she had been a little broad-minded, how could she have fallen to this point.
The ownership of the new house and the love of the two children should belong to her.
Some people may say, "When you are married, you just have to live your own life, and you are not obliged to take care of your brothers." "The elderly should take turns to take care of them when they are sick. The elderly need money should also be shared equally with their three sons. Why should her husband pick up on one shoulder." Putting
on ordinary men, perhaps due to the pressure of his wife, he compromised early.
is just that this man is too benevolent, too brotherly, too filial to his parents, he can't bear to see that his brother can't marry a daughter-in-law, and he can't bear to see that his parents suffer and suffer uncontrollably. Therefore, no matter how hard and tired he is, he must do his best to help his brother and parents.
At this time, he wanted his wife to give him some family warmth, he was too tired and tired, the body was tired, the heart was even more tired.
In fact, he just gave out a part of the money to help his brother and parents, and the bulk of the money was still spent on his wife and children. It is a pity that my wife is too careless. She, a woman who "the wind blows in but the cow can't pull it out", firmly does not allow her husband to take a penny from her husband's house.
"For those who are blessed to go, those who love to return love to return."
When divorced, no one spoke for her.
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People in middle age, the more sober, the happier.
Cai Shaofen's marriage can become a clear stream in the entertainment industry, and it is inseparable from her sober mind. She knows what she wants, knows how to advance and retreat, and know how to choose. People have to love and cherish.
Cici can be happy from naked marriage to the present, can not do without open-minded, clear mind. She was not fascinated by secular utilitarianism and unwarranted speculation, she did not forget her original intention, and firmly kept a happy marriage. The woman in
's hometown, because of her small size and inability to see through, she froze a good hand.
In the second half of life, be more generous and generous, think about yourself in the middle of the night, and think of others in the second half of the night. It is always blessed to be rewarded.
Author: Jiang Yanni, write at least 3000 words a day, and read 2 books every week. Work hard in the workplace during the day, and read books with the baby at night (the baby is two years old, especially likes to read picture books, and likes to supervise his mother's reading). Light up life with words, every day is a good day.
