[Education Sharing] The best family education: father is a role model, mother is a mirror

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was recently fanned by a "giant baby" father. The

variety show "All the way to adulthood" is called "Where is the adult version of Dad?", it is a reality show that dads travel with adult children. The

actor Xu Jinjiang is in our minds as the blind golden lion king Xie Xun, the cult leader of the moon worshiping both evil and evil, and the beard of worship.

can be in life, but he is a "giant baby" .

He makes more than 30 calls to his son a day.

ask yourself what to eat? How to watch a movie? What if the internet speed is slow? Even what hat his son wears today, he has to call to ask. Every time

answered the phone, his son answered patiently, never being impatient.

is such a "four-body inactive" father who actually taught a warm boy son Xu Fei!

A few years ago, Xu Fei made an unexpected appearance on a South Korean show. He and a friend ate in a restaurant. The friend fell in love with the waitress dressed up by the restaurant actor Xu Eun-soo at first sight.

However, it was too presumptuous to ask for contact information at the first meeting, so Xu Fei found a child selling flowers nearby, bought the flowers and told the children. After they left, they gave the flowers and a card with the contact information of a friend to the waitress. Being polite and demeaning, and not confessing the "kidnapping" of girls in public is really great!

Why can "giant baby" fathers educate warm men with high EQ?

Observing carefully, you know that Xu Jinjiang looks fierce on the outside, but in fact he is also a very decent person.

In the show, Xu Jinjiang and his son got a deluxe room. Seeing the spaciousness and rich ingredients inside, his first idea was to change the house with Liang Jiahui, who is with his two daughters.

In fact, the father's role in the growth of a child is not to do housework like a mother, but to act as a role model for others in the world.

So what is mother?

mother is a mirror of the family, she maps everyone's posture and family relationships.

Xu Jinjiang's wife, Yin Zhuping, has short capable hair and exudes a girlish feeling all over her body. She heard that she can "steal" soy milk fritters and can be as happy as a child.

Mother’s happiness reflects her husband’s affection and son’s well-being.

Good family education, father is a role model, mother is a mirror.

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friend Xiao Tao recently talked to us anxiously about her mother. Her mother is very temperamental and always gets angry with her husband and wife. When

was young, Xiaotao's mother was not a temperamental person, and she would feel that she was gentle when getting along with her. After

got married, the wife and sister-in-law were not sensible, and the moths continued, which made her suffer a lot in vain.

Later, when I met my sister-in-law, even if it was someone who took an extra clove of garlic, he had to break it down.

Speaking of those trivial matters, he is always so angry that he has soaring blood pressure and blushes with a thick neck.

Xiaotao asked us, how can we help my mother to relieve the knot, so that the old lady don't worry about the messy things.

I told her: "There is no woman, I would like to live as a shrew."

If a woman has a lot of resentment, then there must be a man behind her who does not carry on.

studied it carefully, and it really was.

Dad Xiaotao is a well-known hand shopkeeper, as long as he is comfortable, he doesn't care about anything.

encountered big and small things at home, even if it was a "big event" like debt collection, it was Xiaotao's mother who was a womanly family.

Over time, Xiaotao's mother has become the "Hu Niu" now.

Isn't she the sum of all family relationships?

husband can't shelter her from wind and rain, she can only protect herself; there are more attacks from relatives, she can only become tough.

How can a child who has grown up in this environment know how to be responsible and gentle?

Dad’s bad example will turn into mother’s bad temper.

Mom is not only the "mirror mirror" of family relations, but also the "clothing mirror" of children's growth, giving them an example of "learning".

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Liu Zongyuan wrote a fable "The Moose of Linjiang".

is talking about a man in Linjiang who rescued an elk and when he first carried him homeWhen the family dogs all looked at the elk.

So the owner frightened them to prevent them from hurting the elk, and often took the elk to play with them. Gradually, the dogs lost their intent to kill.

later grew up with the elk, and became good friends with the dog, and they often collided and rolled on the ground.

After many years, the elk left the house and saw the dogs on the side of the road. He thought it was his good friend, so he walked and played with them. The result of

can be imagined, the elk died very miserably, and "the elk did not realize it until death." The story of

was originally written to satirize the feudal conservative forces and their minions, but isn’t this also the influence of parents on their children?

The power of parents to shape their children is far beyond imagination.

children are like the elk. When they are at home, they can only see the words and deeds of their parents, thinking this is the standard answer.

Once they have walked into the outside world, they will find it difficult to adapt to society when they encounter a completely opposite order to their family.

psychologist Li Zixun said: The difficulty of

educating children lies in whether the parents themselves have integrity and whether they are willing to be tolerant and flexible.

Parents fail to be themselves, and it is easy to teach a child badly.

Mom and Dad are both "benchmarks" for children's learning, and their roles are different.

Dad’s influence on children is the child’s emotional intelligence, the child’s attitude towards others, and the child’s strength in the face of setbacks.

Moms spend more time with their children and are more delicate, so moms are more emotionally reflected on their children.

A "bad father" affects a "bad mother" and reflects a "bad child". There are tens of millions of education roads, and teaching by precept and example is a shortcut. The

family is the child's gas station, and the words and deeds of the parents will provide the child with inexhaustible motivation.

It is inevitable that many parents are busy with work and cannot accompany their children often.

But the power they give children invisibly is the power for children to grow. In

"Super Speaker", Chen Ming talked about his confusion as a father at first, how can he become a good father?

He thought of his father, who was a policeman, and he couldn't ask where he went and what work he did.

Dad rarely goes home. He can only learn from the bullet holes, silence and smile on his body that Dad is a great person and that a peaceful life is hard-won.

He kept his father's picture in his wallet and kept it with him.

Whenever he wandered and lost, he would think about what his father would do, and then he could see the direction and feel the power from deep in his heart.

He said: "Parents are the eternal life model of a child. What kind of person do you want your child to be? You should be a person like that first to show him. "

The father must become the child’s belief and become the child’s standard. Pacesetter, this is the inexhaustible driving force for the growth of children.

A responsible father in a family will have a happy mother. In the “mirror” of the family, it is a harmonious scene.

A good family atmosphere is a good education.