The day before yesterday, after a debate with his son over a mouthful of steamed buns and , I always felt that there was something wrong with my son's rebuttal, but what was wrong in detail? Always confused! So I wrote down the discussion process, and published a small article "Embarrassed by the Son's Refutation-The Family Debate on "Do not do to others what you do not want to do"" to ask everyone for support.
After all the great gods enthusiastically dialed and inspired, during the running this morning, I suddenly seemed to have some clues. I would like to report to you, please criticize and correct me!
In the example given by my son the day before yesterday, such as the pink schoolbags, braised pork, and things I don’t want to do, things I don’t want to happen to myself, etc., these things are not good or bad, right or wrong. To a certain extent, the general public is willing to accept. Although some people don't like it, it is only determined by personal preferences, interests and needs. It is just that they don't like it, at least they will not be disgusted and sneer at! So what you don't want, whether it is an item, an event, or an idea, but others might want it, of course you can give it to others!
When Confucius said this sentence, he implied the background conditions: the things, things, opinions, theories, ideas, and practices that "do not want" here should refer to the common people and the social value orientation. Content that is considered unrecognized, wrong, negative, shameful, and shameless, although the degree of rejection and hatred varies, but they are all below the average line and belong to the negative category! Such "do not do to others", of course, "do not do to others"!
However, the ancient classical Chinese is concise and concise, sometimes not so thorough, so we can only judge from the background of the words of Kong Sheng, and the values he has always advocated. Of course, the content of "what you don't want" is negative. The thing, and it has become a convention, even if this sentence has been circulating for more than 2,500 years, there is no ambiguity, which shows the greatness of this super famous saying!
So when we adults read this sentence, we understand it imperceptibly, simple and clear, without objection, just practice it! However, the children do not have this kind of cultural influence. They only understand it from the literal meaning, change the background and premise, raise questions, and inadvertently throw the adults into the ditch! And leaving no traces, it will make adults confused for a while! I obviously feel that something is wrong, I just can't tell!
But there are some feelings through this incident: First, the child's inner world is bright and simple, and he does not have a deep understanding of negative and dark things. Without a clear concept, he did not think in that direction at all, so he proposed other directions; The second is that even if the child raises a question, it will not affect the child's understanding and recognition of the main meaning of this sentence (referring to oneself and others). It can be seen that this eternal teaching can make the child get close to it for unknown reasons! This not only highlights the greatness of this sentence, but also reflects the existence of the "conscience" that everyone is born with. That is why Wang Yangming later "to conscience"; third, whether it is right or wrong, Whether the child is mature or not, the child's questioning spirit should be encouraged and reserved! This does not give us the opportunity to think and discuss in depth!
Finally, thank you again for your guidance and inspiration! At the same time, one more thing, running in the morning is really good, it can make the brain lively, and suddenly I figure out what I don't understand! Haha...
