Wu Danru-the best-selling queen of Taiwan's literary world for many years, and also a well-known show host in Taiwan. Compared with many celebrities spinning around at work, Wu Danru is like a clear stream on the celebrity list: she will go to Yangming Mountain to see the scenery, go to Japan during the cherry blossom season to see the colorful fall, and she can also take time to write codewords every day. How did she do it?
Her secrets are actually hidden in the book "Time Management Happiness". In this book, from the perspective of time management, Wu Danru talks about not only the use of time, but also the interactions between people, what people want and what they get, dreams and reality, etc. The problem.
Her writing style is very simple. Compared with the exquisite and graceful brushwork of writers such as Xi Murong and Zhang Ailing, Wu Danru's writing is full of pragmatism. does not teach you how to think, how to live, and how to realize yourself as a modern woman.
Although God gives everyone the same time every day, these 24 hours have different effects in the hands of different people.
Generally speaking, there are two types. One has a clear purpose, planning every minute, and act immediately; the other is muddled, doing whatever one wants, or planning carefully, but It is a giant of thought and a dwarf of action. The result of
is that at the end of the day, the first type of person basically completed the things that should be done that day, while the second type of person can only go after the day and feel annoyed. Yes, the different choices also led to two completely different moods: the former completed the task and ended the day with a sense of accomplishment; the latter was full of self-blame and even affected the next schedule.
In this world, all successful people are masters of time management. Because every kind of success is inseparable from long-term operation. Time management is like taking care of a garden. Those who are good at managing will reap the fragrance of the garden, while those who are lazy have only the garden full of waste.
only read half of the book, this book brought me too much reflection. From a research perspective, review your past life trajectory and the results of each decision.
/ 01 / When the first pressure is not there, the second pressure will be transformed into the first pressure. The spinning top can't stop. I have become more obese but have no time to lose weight, my skin is tanned, and small fine lines are slowly crawling to the corners of my eyes, feeling that I am overdrawing my life. Lack of interaction with friends and family, no time to read, the spiritual world is barren. The only solution I can think of is to change to a relatively easy job, stop my body that is walking too fast, and wait for my soul. Perhaps it is too early to discuss whether this wayward departure is good or bad. However, I want to emphasize that this is not the right way to deal with stress. Although the job at
seemed so terrible to me, there were still so many people who persisted for a lifetime, which shows that it still has many attractive places. Besides, it seems to me that there are people who are too busy to work, they can go to graduate school after work, and even get to know a lifelong partner because of work. What I want to emphasize is that a certain job may not really suit you, but the most important reason for leaving should be something you want to pursue more, not the so-called stress. Thinking about it from another angle, those hurdles that I feel can’t pass can actually be overcome.
Face the pressure directly, because when the first pressure is gone, the second pressure starts to replace it. If you face pressure and choose to avoid and complain about something instead of looking for a solution to the pressure, you will always feel Alexander.
For example, I previously attributed my gains in recent years to being too busy at work and not having time to exercise. Now that I have a relatively easy job and enough time to exercise, my weight continues to soar. Because I gained weight, in addition to the normal phenomenon that appeared after entering 25 years old, the main reason was that I had not developed good exercise and eating habits for a long time. If the bad habits remain unchanged for a day, the weight problem will always be entangledI. The principle of
can also be applied to interpersonal relationships and the attitude of handling things. When you encounter people and things you don't like, if you choose to avoid them, it is impossible to solve them. Because, there will be a second person and things you don't like, which will become a nightmare to haunt you. Learning to face these people and things that make you unpleasant and finding ways to live with them in peace is the key to solving the problem.
/ 02 / The power of accumulating time
People who do not manage time are often sprint players who accumulate things to the deadline before solving it with explosive force. In doing so, it may also be able to cope with the hurdles in life, but it consumes more energy than people who gradually solve the problem. It's not only easy to miss everything, but not thoughtful enough, just to pass the test by fluke, there is always no solid accumulation in internal accumulation.
Besides, the problem is broken down into countless small problems, it is easier to solve, and it can also keep you in a good mood and think more comprehensively.
Let's talk about the role of accumulation. Wu Danru became the best-selling champion in Taiwan, and she was inseparable from the accumulation of 3000 words of writing every day when she was an editor. It is said that if I read 300 poems of Tang Dynasty well, I can chant without writing poems. If you don’t practice writing often, your brain will become dull and your memory will deteriorate. In fact, the truth is very simple: if you don't accumulate steps, you can't reach thousands of miles; if you don't accumulate small currents, how can you become a river? The subtle power of
is huge!
/ 03 / If you want to make good use of your time, don't be afraid of being alone. Go to the toilet, go shopping, eat. . . No matter what I do, especially in the crowd, I must be accompanied. In fact, this is actually a lack of self-confidence and lack of self. What Wu Danru told me is that the cost of fear of loneliness is not only that, but the most important thing about is that this approach makes you waste a lot of time waiting and miss many opportunities to complete your goals.
We often mention "no time". Is there really no time? There is no time to watch a movie because the person invited does not have time; if there is no time to travel, it is actually unwilling to leave alone. . . There are too many such examples. . .
Of course, these very pretentious manners were cured after becoming a mother. Because being a mother can cure all diseases!
Since becoming a mother, I have enjoyed eating alone, shopping alone, and watching movies alone. Maybe one day, I can also like Wu Danru, try to go to Japan to watch a cherry blossom rain in the cherry blossom season alone. .
/ 04 / Attention is focused on
In order to pursue speed, we often want to use one mind and two, or even more. But the truth is, it may be more efficient to do things single-mindedly.
For example, when you pack your bookcases on the weekend, you may suddenly think that your clothes are not washed, so you will put aside the things in your hands, go to wash the clothes, and then see that the floor is not mopping, ready to mop, and finally get yourself Exhausted, but not even one incident done. It's better to try it, and when you decide to do something, stick to it intently. Pack the bookcase, think of something that you haven't done, tell yourself forbearance, finish this thing first, and then deal with other things. Anyway, it doesn’t matter if the clothes are washed 30 minutes early or delayed 30 minutes.
Everyone has inertia. Therefore, when encountering difficulties and unwillingness to do things, we often stop midway, do other things first, divert our attention, and pursue a moment of relaxation. In the end, the business was not completed and time was wasted. If you don't want to waste time, you should grit your teeth and tell yourself, bear with it, and persevere.
/ 05 / The way of entertainment you choose determines your future
To talk about my way of decompression, the most often is to watch TV, play computer, play games, or go shopping.After playing, the relaxation brought is a moment, more of emptiness and a sense of self-blame brought by wasting time. This decompression method can be regarded as Wu Danru's method of drunken life and dream of death in the book.
is also the flash flood method-to vent the unhappiness in the heart by means of beating and scolding; the total change method-to use drastic changes in life to relieve pressure, such as resignation, breakup, etc. The common point of these decompression methods is that they treat the symptoms but not the root cause. After a short period of relief, the pressure has returned.
might as well consider learning as a way of decompression, with an idea: if you can't learn, you will gain a little knowledge. In this way, you can also meet some like-minded friends and increase your positive contacts.
Choosing the way of entertainment will unknowingly determine your future. There is a similar theory. It depends on how a person's future is, and it depends on how he spends his time from 8 to 10 in the evening.
People now feel too stressed, it's not really too much pressure, but too little fun. It is very important to find out what you are really interested in and can bring you a sense of accomplishment. Work at work and play at play, just like Harvard’s famous saying, study like a dog and play like a gentleman.
/ 06 / Act now, completion is more important than perfection
Do things without detail, without focusing on the key points, and doing things is tiring and inefficient. Rui Chenggang once said that things can't wait until everything is ready and only do it when Dongfeng owes it. Many things must be done when the conditions are not perfect, and the problems must be solved while doing so.
This is one of my dead spots again. In my bones, I am still a perfect person. Many things, I always want to prepare and perfect before starting to act. As a result, too much time was wasted in the early stage, and the later stage was hurriedly completed, the effect was not necessarily good, and things were often anticlimactic.
is currently in self-healing. For example, if you want to open an official account, just open it, regardless of whether you have already collected articles. So every morning, I got up at around five o'clock, scratched my head and started writing.
all say that sometimes people don’t force themselves, and don’t know how good they are! I believe it for the time being!
/ 07 / A good director will call out a card and regularly give himself stock dividends
do things, not overnight, just enough is the most important thing. For some things, if you push yourself too tightly, it is easy to get bored and cause counter-effects.
When you manage your time well, give yourself some rewards to help climb the next peak! !
For example, I haven't made any achievements yet, but I can make a long list of ways to reward myself. Don't underestimate the potential of our middle-aged people. After all, Jay Chou's popularity can beat Cai Xukun now!
Wu Danru told me is that the cost of fear of loneliness is not only that, but the most important thing about is that this approach makes you waste a lot of time waiting and miss many opportunities to complete your goals.
We often mention "no time". Is there really no time? There is no time to watch a movie because the person invited does not have time; if there is no time to travel, it is actually unwilling to leave alone. . . There are too many such examples. . .
Of course, these very pretentious manners were cured after becoming a mother. Because being a mother can cure all diseases!
Since becoming a mother, I have enjoyed eating alone, shopping alone, and watching movies alone. Maybe one day, I can also like Wu Danru, try to go to Japan to watch a cherry blossom rain in the cherry blossom season alone. .
/ 04 / Attention is focused on
In order to pursue speed, we often want to use one mind and two, or even more. But the truth is, it may be more efficient to do things single-mindedly.
For example, when you pack your bookcases on the weekend, you may suddenly think that your clothes are not washed, so you will put aside the things in your hands, go to wash the clothes, and then see that the floor is not mopping, ready to mop, and finally get yourself Exhausted, but not even one incident done. It's better to try it, and when you decide to do something, stick to it intently. Pack the bookcase, think of something that you haven't done, tell yourself forbearance, finish this thing first, and then deal with other things. Anyway, it doesn’t matter if the clothes are washed 30 minutes early or delayed 30 minutes.
Everyone has inertia. Therefore, when encountering difficulties and unwillingness to do things, we often stop midway, do other things first, divert our attention, and pursue a moment of relaxation. In the end, the business was not completed and time was wasted. If you don't want to waste time, you should grit your teeth and tell yourself, bear with it, and persevere.
/ 05 / The way of entertainment you choose determines your future
To talk about my way of decompression, the most often is to watch TV, play computer, play games, or go shopping.After playing, the relaxation brought is a moment, more of emptiness and a sense of self-blame brought by wasting time. This decompression method can be regarded as Wu Danru's method of drunken life and dream of death in the book.
is also the flash flood method-to vent the unhappiness in the heart by means of beating and scolding; the total change method-to use drastic changes in life to relieve pressure, such as resignation, breakup, etc. The common point of these decompression methods is that they treat the symptoms but not the root cause. After a short period of relief, the pressure has returned.
might as well consider learning as a way of decompression, with an idea: if you can't learn, you will gain a little knowledge. In this way, you can also meet some like-minded friends and increase your positive contacts.
Choosing the way of entertainment will unknowingly determine your future. There is a similar theory. It depends on how a person's future is, and it depends on how he spends his time from 8 to 10 in the evening.
People now feel too stressed, it's not really too much pressure, but too little fun. It is very important to find out what you are really interested in and can bring you a sense of accomplishment. Work at work and play at play, just like Harvard’s famous saying, study like a dog and play like a gentleman.
/ 06 / Act now, completion is more important than perfection
Do things without detail, without focusing on the key points, and doing things is tiring and inefficient. Rui Chenggang once said that things can't wait until everything is ready and only do it when Dongfeng owes it. Many things must be done when the conditions are not perfect, and the problems must be solved while doing so.
This is one of my dead spots again. In my bones, I am still a perfect person. Many things, I always want to prepare and perfect before starting to act. As a result, too much time was wasted in the early stage, and the later stage was hurriedly completed, the effect was not necessarily good, and things were often anticlimactic.
is currently in self-healing. For example, if you want to open an official account, just open it, regardless of whether you have already collected articles. So every morning, I got up at around five o'clock, scratched my head and started writing.
all say that sometimes people don’t force themselves, and don’t know how good they are! I believe it for the time being!
/ 07 / A good director will call out a card and regularly give himself stock dividends
do things, not overnight, just enough is the most important thing. For some things, if you push yourself too tightly, it is easy to get bored and cause counter-effects.
When you manage your time well, give yourself some rewards to help climb the next peak! !
For example, I haven't made any achievements yet, but I can make a long list of ways to reward myself. Don't underestimate the potential of our middle-aged people. After all, Jay Chou's popularity can beat Cai Xukun now!
