movie "Parasite" may make people think it is a horror film at first glance, but in fact it tells the story of the poor who survived by "parasitic". This film is the first film in Korean film history to win the Palme d’Or Best Picture Award, and its significance to the Korean film industry is no less than that of "Farewell My Concubine" to Chinese films. After the film was released to the public, it received a lot of praise at home and abroad, with a Douban score of 8.7.
writer Gao Xiaosong is also full of praise for this movie-there are two kinds of good movies, one fills up people, the other hollows out people. My clear feeling is that this movie fills me up first, then hollows me out, then fills up and hollows out again and again, leaving me hovering in calm and explosion.
actor Li Xian also directly used a "respect" to express his respect for the movie "Parasite".
When I watched this movie, I couldn’t calm down for a long time. This movie did not have the heartbreaking cry of the poor, nor the oppression of the rich for the rich. After the movie, I felt light and flirty—though the movie It is a tragic ending, but it is impossible to tell whether it is the fault of the rich or the problem of the poor. Human nature is more complicated than this. The beginning of the parasitic road of
was a tragic ending.
father Kim Ki-zek, mother Chung-sook, son Kim Ki-woo and daughter Kim Ki-ting, the family of four are unemployed people. Before losing his job, his father worked as a driver and opened a cake shop. His mother was a national athlete who won a silver medal. His son Jiyu took the college entrance examination four times and failed to enter his favorite university. Because the family had no money, his daughter Ji who studied fine arts Ting also has no money to go to the cram school.
They live in a semi-basement in a slum area. Drunks are often peeing outside the window. The highest point in the room is the toilet. Those who don't have money to pay for the phone can only find WiFi signals in nearby coffee shops near the toilet.
The turning point was when Ji Woo’s friend Min Hyuk sent a strange stone, claiming that it could be transported, and at the same time, asked Ji Woo to take his place as a tutor for the daughter of a wealthy family. Soon, Ji Woo made up a fake identity for his sister, Ji Ting, and recommended her to be the tutor of President Park’s younger son. Under the design of the family, the original driver and servant were "successfully" driven away. Instead, his father Ji Ze and mother Zhong Suk began to live a life of "parasitic upper class", but who knows, this is a nightmare The beginning of...
Is there money to be kind?
After President Park's family of four went out to celebrate the birthday of the youngest son, the family "doves in the magpie's nest". During the chat, they said something that made my memory fresh. When commenting on Mrs. Park, Zhongshu said:
"is not rich but kind, but because of the money is kind. If all the money is mine, I will definitely be kinder",
"the rich people The child has no wrinkles either, money is an iron, and all wrinkles are ironed."
Does money really become kinder? In daily experience, money is not necessarily kind, but according to the research of psychologist Abigail Marsh, the increase in wealth and the improvement of quality of life at can indeed greatly increase the kindness towards strangers.
Kim Ki-zek’s family, when they get rid of the predicament in their lives due to work and their quality of life improves, Kim Ki-zek will think about how the previous driver is and whether he has found a job; the current servant Wen Guang will knock When the door was opened, Zhongshu also opened the door at her plea. She also said "Sister Zhongshu was really a good person"; all these can be seen that when the quality of life improves, she will become "kind".
Why do poor people lose their kindness? Some people who are financially insecure, or have experienced great changes in their lives and whose quality of life have deteriorated, on the one hand are overwhelmed and unable to take care of others, so they will lose their kindness; on the other hand, some people will lose trust in human nature because of their distorted worldview Unwilling to help others. Some people who live in poverty are more harsh on others because they think that others are not worthy of trust, and that others only care about themselves.
When it was discovered that Wen Guang, the former maid, was in the air-raid shelter of this big house and let her husband stay here for four years, the eavesdropping Kim Ki-taek's family was too shocked and exposed their identity. When the heavy rain was unable to camp and was changing back home, Zhongsuk was afraid of losing thisEverything that looks beautiful, kicked Wen Guang down the basement stairs. When the interests are involved, they who are afraid of returning to poverty again have lost their bottom line of kindness, and they choose unscrupulously.
Being rich makes people feel safe and willing to give away excess "kindness"; while struggling on the poverty line, it is psychological poverty that makes them lose their bottom line of kindness . The most terrifying thing about
is psychological poverty.
Although some people are poor, they are still kind; some people are rich, but they are not benevolent. Material poverty is not the most terrifying, but psychological poverty is the most terrifying.
The so-called psychological poverty refers to a psychological state independent of external material conditions. The psychological needs of individuals are more inclined to focus on resource possession or property possession. In terms of emotion, individuals are more sensitive to money or its equivalents. Feel dissatisfaction, insecurity, anxiety or panic; in cognition, they tend to be more materialistic; in behavior, when encountering avoidance conflict, individuals are more inclined to possess material. Ji Woo in the
play is full of expectations and fantasies about entering the upper class in the future, but what he does is not to fight for admission to a well-known university with his own efforts, but to think about how to benefit from his students. Together, become the son-in-law of a big house and high society. When he was afraid that his dream would be wiped out, and Wenguang and his wife would inform them, he seemed to want to kill them while holding the stone. If
is materially poor, it can be changed through hard work. Even if you have not become a member of the upper class, you can become a middle class. Including four failed college entrance examinations, the reason may not only be the high competitive pressure of a good university, but also the psychological poverty that prevented him from succeeding.
A friend of mine, Xiaoqi, used to be a student of a certain famous university. She came from a small mountain village. Her parents were farmers. There were several younger brothers and sisters in the family. Life was especially difficult. In order to provide Xiaoqi to go to university, All the relatives borrowed it to collect the tuition. Huahua, who lives in the same dormitory at the school, is very rich at home, and wears different styles of clothes every day, and they are all famous brands that Xiaoqi does not recognize. Xiaoqi's inferiority complex became more and more, she also chose to refuse the dormitory dinner because of the lack of living expenses. Huahua also took the classmates in the dormitory to point her.
But Xiaoqi did not give up on herself, think that she would just forget it, nor did she borrow money to satisfy her vanity like many college students did. She chose to work hard to make money by herself. She started tutoring at the beginning of her freshman year, and sometimes did some Volunteers help the children in the orphanage, and she is kind to people, she studies very hard, gets scholarships every year, and was rated as an excellent graduate student in her senior year. She was recruited by a Fortune 500 company because she was good enough. Elected and became a white-collar worker with an annual salary of over 10,000 just after graduation. As for Huahua in one dormitory, due to too many subjects, he didn't get his graduation certificate, so his parents were worried about how to solve it.
Although Xiaoqi's family is not rich, she is mentally rich, not comparable to others, and works hard. Finally, through her own efforts, she got rid of material poverty.
President Park's death-lack of empathy
President Park finally died under the sword of Kim Ki-taek. It seems that there is no deep hatred between the two. Why did Kim Ki-taek act so impulsively? President Park always belittles Kim Ki-zek. In fact, what he squeezed by is human self-esteem. He has no empathy to understand the feelings and experiences of others.
Empathy refers to an objective way of understanding the inner feelings of the parties from the perspective and position of the parties, and conveying this understanding to the parties.
He emphasized more than once that the driver Kim Ki-zek should not cross the line, "this is work", and arrange affairs almost without considering the needs of subordinates. At the same time, he also disliked the smell of Kim driver, and his wife also said that his wife covered it when riding in the car. She lost her nose and opened the window, but it is ridiculous that her feet are directly on the back seat of the front row of the car. At the climax of the
movie, Wenguang died of excessive blood loss in the brain. Because Ji Woo opened the basement, the angry husband stoned Ji Woo’s head and stabbed his sister, Ji Ting, who was President Park’s with a knife. The younger son Duo Song fainted, and Wen Guang's husband was killed by Zhong Shu in the fierce fighting. At this time, President Park didn’t seem to have seen these murderous fights.During the process, he asked Driver Jin to give him the car key to take his youngest son, Duo Song, to the hospital. At the moment he picked up the car key from the ground with his nose under his nose, Driver Jin’s self-esteem was completely destroyed by President Park, so he picked it up. Knife, assassinated President Park.
President Park did not think about the feelings of Driver Kim for a moment. He just kept giving orders for people to do and follow. His lack of empathy caused him to lose his life.
There is an interesting statement circulating on the Korean Internet:
"Parasite" is a novel comedy that some places do not understand for the upper class in Korea;
is a tragicomedy with mixed feelings for the Korean middle class;
is for income South Korean civilians who are not tall are miserable and scary horror films.
Some upper-level figures were horrified and angry at President Park's death. A judge of the Seoul High Court publicly stated on Twitter: "What exactly did President Park do? Need to pay the price of death?" Netizens later retorted. I had to make corrections to the content of Twitter. When the whole people felt that the film was written in real time, the judge as a high-class person said that he could not understand what was wrong with President Park. He used the same kind of indifference and the same lack of empathy to explain the reality shown in the movie.
Actually, not just President Park, including the judge, many people in our lives have no empathy. They seldom think about problems from the perspective of others, and rarely take into account the feelings of others when doing things. Kind words cannot resonate with the other party, and the other party is unwilling to say what he really thinks; unwilling to listen...
psychology research shows that without empathy, it is difficult to establish deep feelings with others. So how do we deal with such people?
1. Don’t try to make them understand your feelings.
When you say, "Will you consider my feelings", they seem to be more angry and angry. Don’t try to make them understand you, because It is difficult to change your long-term unsympathetic perception and behavior through your own behavior.
2. Telling the facts with them
When discussing their emotions and feelings with them, they may not understand your feelings and may even criticize you, so try to talk to them about the facts and your thoughts. This makes it easier to communicate. Unnecessary disputes will occur.
3. You can stay away and reduce contact with them
. When facing such people, you can stay away from them and reduce your contact with them. By maintaining superficial communication to avoid deep-seated communication and controversy.
by Yu Xizhi Yanyuan psychological team
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