"We are always worried that we can never get rid of the past, we are always afraid to face the unknown, we are always afraid of not getting love, not being liked, and not waiting for the day of success."
──"Lady Bird "Lady Bird"
thinks of Richard Linklater's "Young Times" ending with "the moment of time has caught us". People are often hung up on the present, but in fact, we should think the other way around.
Greta Gerwig's "Lady Bird" is even more so, there is no clear plot line, because real life does not have a main story, it captures every important moment of our growth process like a profile, and the scattered and trivial memories are fluently stringed. Recording the passage of time, plainly realistic and subtle and profound, taking the steps that our generation has taken together, the future we are looking forward to, the visions we have together, the regret we have tasted together, the mistakes we made together, and the inexplicable rebellion, They are all concentrated in Lady Bird's unsatisfactory school life and incomparable family life.
Lady Bird is not the Lu snake in the language nowadays, she is just an adolescent girl who is as ordinary as us and can no longer be ordinary, looking forward to seeing herself different, hoping to be born in a luxurious apartment that everyone admires, around the campus Those cool friends socialize with the boys under the fantasy model, yearning for the romance of love, curious about the beauty of the first night, can't hear a mother's rants in the ear, and don't want to be disciplined, rejected, restrained, and resist parents to make things for themselves Good way, I only hope that one day I will prove myself to everyone's admiration.
We have all imagined such a picture. The eyes of the man in the school's attention will fall on ourselves. The works or articles written by ourselves will be appreciated by an amazing teacher, and the people around are all vulgar and underestimated. I can only blindly measure each child by his grades, because those movies and novels are not the same, and we are no longer young and ignorant primary and secondary school students in adulthood. I really hope to become adults as soon as possible. You can smoke and buy. Pornographic magazines can be separated from home, can find a new life, and don’t have to endure the endless demands of parents, right?
is just in the transitional period. In this process of exploring self-positioning, you will always lose yourself accidentally, arm yourself with a little disagreement, yearn for all kinds of material life outside the body, and feel "difference" for no reason. Low self-esteem, can’t tell who is a true friend, can’t distinguish between curiosity, desire and what you really want, all kinds of immature behaviors often inadvertently directly or indirectly hurt all those who truly love us.
Thinking back to my uncontrolled puberty, I often can’t believe how I did this kind of unbearable behavior in the first place, and often a sentence of people who are not frivolous or embarrassed to laugh at themselves. This is the rhythm of "Lady Bird", fresh and thorough. , Humorous, humorous, freehand, simple, warm and exciting, like the gurgling process of time, recording the growth memory of young girls in every corner of the world.
The restless, rebellious and unfinished Lady Bird didn't like the Christine her parents gave herself, so she chose a name herself. She concealed her indecent family situation, but she could not choose her parents. She yearned for the good figure of the model in the magazine. The self in the mirror is just like an ugly duckling. He wants to go to the bustling New York, full of humanity, but his academic performance is always flying low. What is hanging around his mouth is many dissatisfaction with Sacramento, afraid of revealing his commonality and vulgarity. These dissatisfaction and disapproval make her life full of negative emotions.
However, when we can’t be sure of ourselves, others are even less likely to be sure of us. It’s just that we can only understand the warmth of the family after we really bump into the nose and face, and we can only understand the warmth of the family after suffering all the grievances outside. Years take away thorns, rebelliousness, innocence, impulsiveness, ignorance, and longing. We saw too little and thought that the world was full of beauty, and we asked too much and thought that parents were stingy in giving. We are too anxious to grow up, and only when we look back suddenly do we realize how many moments that will not come again have passed.
Lady Bird One Heart OneI don’t want to become the same person as my mother. I can’t take care of my mouth, my stubbornness, and the warm care that radiates between his gestures. Sometimes two people who are too similar are often incompatible. Situation. But Tom Ford's "Nocturnal Animals" tells that the daughter will eventually live like a mother. From the beginning of the two people in the car listening to the "Grapes of Wrath" recitation together, they burst into tears, and they go together to be their favorite Sunday. Activities, etc., all revealed this close connection of the same-sex mother and daughter, and blood is thicker than water.
" I just... I hope you like me. "
" Of course I love you. "
" But do you like me? "
" I want you to be the best version of yourself. "
" In case this is the best What about me?"
We all understand that love is not the same as liking. "True Love Picks the Day" Ann Hathaway once said to Dex: I love you, I just don't like you anymore. The word liking is lighter, it seems that you may lose this favor at any time because of some unpleasantness. Some likes come from not understanding enough, but this is not family.
Because the word love is very heavy. When we love someone, we believe that the other person can become better, and we choose to tolerate after we understand all the advantages and disadvantages of the other person. Although we may stabbed each other several times because of being too unobstructed, but After the quarrels and quarrels, Yu still regrets so much and can hardly turn around and leave easily, just like in the eyes of our parents, we are already the most special existence in the world. The
movie truly captures the conflict and reconciliation that every family has staged. All the trivial life trajectories are the bond of love to each other. People say that mature parents will teach their children two things, one is the root and the other is the wings. So that we can learn to fly to find the sky without any worries, and at the same time understand that every fallen leaf has its own roots, and there is a safe haven waiting for us forever if we are injured.
Parents need to learn to let go, and children need to learn to be considerate. Just like us, Lady Bird loves her family and her hometown deeply. She just needs an opportunity to discover. Love and concentration are always the same thing, and freedom and loneliness have never been They are also dependent on each other.
often cares too much about the other party's feelings, and they don't know how to speak up about some major decisions, but they hurt even more when they learn about it from a third party. A stubborn mother gave birth to a stubborn daughter, a stubborn reluctance to soften, and a stubborn reluctance to compromise. Faced with the upcoming day of leaving home, she could not express her deepest worries and concerns. The mother wrote and rubbed, lost and wrote the autographed letter and finally failed to hand it to her daughter. It was the father who secretly carried it in the suitcase, hoping that she could understand her mother's clumsy expression. When the car was paused in the departure hall, the mother had a strong and indifferent face, but she did not dare to watch the child step by step. She was afraid that she would lose control after finishing her emotions. She was afraid that the tears in her eye sockets would not listen and cry bitterly. In the long shot, between the tears of reluctance and regret, we see the love and struggle that parents can never rest assured. This scene of
is as if his own life is being staged again in front of him. Before pulling the suitcase to the security gate, he didn’t even have the courage to look at his mother’s sight. After his strong face laughed, he hurriedly lowered his head. Dare to let the tearful expression be seen by my family members. What I hold tightly in my hand is a letter written by my dad who couldn’t say it. That letter that a person has turned over countless times when he was in a quiet country abroad, not once was not choked and read it. , Not once did not cry.
There are always several times in life when a person walks on a strange street, a lonely person waking up after being drunk, a person looking for familiar homesickness, a human body knows the weight of life that cannot be parted, and it lasts for a moment. Big.
It seems like this is the friendship when you are young. It is noisy for some reason and reconciliation without knowing why. Many people advise us to cherish these friends who have known for many years. At that time, we felt that as long as we were open-minded, we could know all kinds of styles at a few years old. People of all kinds don't know that when they grow up, few people have a sincere heart just to make new friends.
is always like this. It took a long circle to discover the gap between reality and imagination. It took a lot of time to realize that a friend is still old. After an embarrassing breakup, it is not always impossible to hug sincerely again. Only after tasting the ups and downs can I understand the value of plainness. Leave homeAfter that, I realized that the familiarity and cordiality of my hometown were irreplaceable. After all kinds of warm and cold, I realized that there is no such unrequited love from my parents. Family, friendship, and love can withstand the test even though they are fragile. If you really love someone, let them go. If they come back in the future, their body and mind will never leave. If they are like a kite with a broken line, then they never belong. Here.
starts with a mother driving her daughter, and ends with a symbol of self-driving alone. The interspersed past and future symbolize the growth of the present and the past, and the most beautiful scenery around the hometown of Sacramento, which was once anxious to get rid of, is about to spread its wings and prepare. The mood of the birds leaving the nest is different. She understands the life so far. She is fortunate to have a complete family, dedicated parents, close friends, and herself who is not cool at all and has ordinary musical tastes. The focus of attention is also to find the ordinary and simple beautiful youth, even if they live on the wrong end of the railway, they are full of unique memories of growth.
The rebellious Lady Bird in the past can disappear at any time, but without Christine from her parents and without Sacramento, she is no one.
This is a love letter dedicated to the hometown. Greta Gerwig hid the growth trajectory of an ordinary girl in pursuit of an extraordinary self into a life experience worthy of careful consideration. We were all the Lady Birds who lived in the blessing and did not know the blessing. It is also the immature child who believes that love should have an established pattern, selfishly throws negative emotions to the closest person, takes pains to envy life that is not his own, cares too much about the eyes of others, desperately pursues the approval of others, Even refused to accept the real me.
But after all, no one is born to know how to be a parent. Just like no one grows up without practice, the director humorously and lightly covers the awkwardness of adolescence, hiding us in my heart those embarrassed, humorous and warm. From the camera, the memories are slowly overlapping with the picture at this moment, allowing the audience to be in the airport where they dare not turn around, in the unspeakable handwriting, on the uneasy strange street, in the natural interaction of laughter and tears. In the middle, I saw my familiar figure that seemed to be deja vu.
"Lady Bird" meticulously captures the love and growth in life, and records all the moments that should be cherished during self-exploration and hard transformation. The life process is not like a movie that can be replayed at any time, and grasping the moment can only be discovered later. These moments that may not have existed in a single thought have already grasped us firmly, stacking up our own unique character and life experience.
