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sang well, called "Ambiguous people suffer all the grievances", but if you compare the grievances of the "ambiguity period" with the "long-distance love period", I am afraid that is a little bit of a shame.
The mood in the ambiguous period is awkward and wronged, but after all, the time invested is short, the feelings invested are also less, and the time to recover from the "sentimental injury" is much shorter.
But the "long-distance love run" but can't get into marriage, the feeling I am afraid is not sour grievance, but bone cold .
watched the once fiery love gradually die out, but even if only the embers are left, I want to hold this last touch of temperature.
watched the person he loved the most and became picky and bored with him. His own shining points all turned into terrible defects in his eyes.
Watching life is gradually suffocating.
went from full of hope to a little bit of despair.
But he still did not mention the breakup, and of course he did not mention marriage.
" has been in love for ten years, but doesn't mention marriage. Does he want to marry or marry me? " This is a question for every girl in the long-distance love race.
watched the years gradually disappear, and watched the friends around me gradually entering into marriage, the grievances, doubts and anxiety in my heart overflowed my chest.
While looking at you uneasy, wronged, but continued to remain indifferent, continue to perfuse your "him", occupy your youth but refuse to talk about him first, isn't he a scumbag? Isn't you playing a hooligan?
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Anyone who has seen "Kangxi" should still have an impression of the producer " Shen Yulin " who ran the train with his mouth full. Once when he had nothing, his "ex-girlfriend" Zou Peizhen gave up marrying a rich man. The opportunity chose him, and after ten years in love, Pei Zhen never waited for Shen Yulin's "marriage proposal". Instead, she waited for Shen Yulin to criticize her for " sloppy " and " not feminine " on the show many times.
And after the two broke up, Shen Yulin immediately proposed to her 17-year-old assistant, Ya Ya, who accompanied them on the show and was so happy.
famously insulted by "Shoe Terrier" Xiong Dailin , silently supported the king Aaron Kwok in the best years. After the breakup, the king slammed Xiong Dailin's " shoes do not fit, only one knows ", and then turned around and married the little internet celebrity Fang Yuan . Both of them have children several years old now.
and netizens are deeply concerned about the old CP, the actors of "Sanyuan" and "Cheng Feng" in "Sister Tuoqiu" Teng Liming and Wei Junjie , the two people have been together for 9 years because of their love for drama. However, during filming in the Mainland, the man derailed , a female college student, and then quickly broke up and married .
Don’t boys always say that they don’t want to get married, how can they turn around and marry someone else?
Maybe they are always saying: "I don't have the strength to get married now" and "I haven't thought about getting married yet". These words are just excuses. They don't want to get married, but they don't want to marry you.
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Is Pei Zhen not virtuous enough, is Xiong Dailin not beautiful enough, or Teng Li is not independent enough?
I don't think so.
Peizhen helped Shen Yulin take care of work and life, and the house bought for the man increased several times; Xiong Dailin isShe is a model and she has a first-rate appearance. Teng Liming is a model of independent women. She has been in TVB for many years and has a stable quality guarantee for her drama series.
but when they were separated, their other half still uttered bad words and belittled the feelings of these years, as if only in this way can rationalize their betrayal. This is a "scumbag", but it is also very human.
After all, no one wants to admit that he is a downright bad person.
Therefore, if you experience such a betrayal, girls must believe that it is not that they are bad, and do not fall into self-doubt.
When Shen Yulin got married, Pei Zhen went to the scene, dropped her present and left. She slapped the unfeeling Shen Yulin with her generosity.
Xiong Dailin finally met her lover after leaving Aaron Kwok. The two were happy and happy and gave birth to twins.
After Teng Liming left Wei Junjie, life has been very good, but Wei Junjie's career declined and his wife betrayed.
He is ruthless and unrighteous. Do you want to continue to be trapped in the quagmire, or admit that your youth has fed the dog, pat your body, stand up, and continue to live your best life. This is probably the first thing that a girl who has been in love and betrayed is the first thing to do thinking.
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once said with a joke on the Internet: " love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooliganism. "
girls’ youth is short-lived. In this most beautiful youth, staying with a boy for so many years does not get what it deserves. Don’t boys feel guilty for the promise?
is still more afraid to break up because of guilt?
If the boys feel that their relationship has changed and they don't like it, please be more resolute, admit that you have changed your heart and beg for forgiveness . Don't drag the girl's youth year after year because you are afraid of being a bad person.
As for the girl herself, her feelings have not changed, and she can also feel it, must always maintain the courage to leave at any time, and also maintain the ability to live without this man.
It is not clear who is right and who is wrong.
In the long-distance love race, neither breaking up nor marriage is mentioned, which really hurts girls.
Perhaps these injuries will one day make this girl more determined, wiser and more open-minded.
But if possible, I still hope that every girl does not have to experience this kind of "harm".
Author introduction: Han Jiangxue, middle-aged girl, 6-year-old boy and mother. As I grow older, I still have enthusiasm. Served as a planning copywriter in an advertising company and a lecturer in an insurance company. Willing to communicate with the world with warm words!
