by Jin Xiaozha
The greatest value of a serious and uncomparable post-85s
marriage is that someone will support you when you encounter difficulties, but such marriages are rare, and many couples are " The catastrophe is imminent and fly separately." It seems that "sharing the joys and sorrows and tribulations" is not what a husband and wife should have. In fact,
encountered such an embarrassing situation, because when you got married, you chose the wrong person and did not meet the partner who treated you sincerely. Of course, you can't bear the hardships in life together.
For women, getting married is even more hopeful of such reliance, so that their lives can go smoothly. However, if you do not choose the right person, or do not have the right business ideas in marriage, then marriage is a pit for you and it is not easy to jump out.
So today I need to tell you a few principles for married life, it is more useful for you to understand before marriage.
1. The problem of money cannot be ignored. It cannot be short of money, nor can it be ignored.
For women, the problem of money must be recognized. The amount of money does not seem to be proportional to happiness, but lack of money will definitely affect the happiness of marriage. The first is that if you want to marry a man, make sure that your income can support your future life and deal with some sudden crises. After all,
will take decades to live together, and it is possible to encounter any problems. If there is no money at this time, it is easy to argue over this issue. I have seen a lot of couples get awkward because of vanity, because of giving money to their parents, and because of spending money.
In order to avoid the conflicts caused by this, it is best for women to have a stable income. Whether you are working or part-time, you are not so easy to argue with your husband because of money issues.
Furthermore, wealthy women also have status in the family and will not be bullied by their husbands, nor will their in-laws look down on you. At least when they are unfair to you, you can resist, and you can choose to refuse such a life.
Therefore, the issue of money is very important to marriage and we must pay attention to it.
2, the primary criterion for selecting a target is that the other person's character must be good, and the others are all things to follow.
Finding a good partner of personal character has a higher priority than others. Because only such a man will treat you sincerely, even if he doesn't love you so deeply, because of the issue of responsibility, he will do his best to you.
Anyone who has experienced marriage will know this issue. There is no safe indicator for how long love in marriage can last, but good character will not change.
As long as you choose the right person, you don't have to worry about any problems you encounter after marriage. At least he will not bully you or betray you. This is the most basic criterion for maintaining your marriage. At the same time, it is also the cornerstone for you to find happiness.
Couples who can survive the break-in period will definitely have no problem with their character. Based on this standard of mutual recognition and appreciation, it is easier for two people to cultivate the feelings behind the husband and wife.
For other issues, whether it is money, house or car, it will not be too late to consider after you have confirmed his character.
3, no matter how close the couple is, keep some secrets
The relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate, but this intimacy is also measured. Never say anything to the other party. Some secrets that shouldn't be told are better than you tell them.
For example, if you feel that your partner is not good enough, if it doesn't affect your husband and wife relationship, then just hide it in your heart. If you feel that it affects your relationship, then you can express it in a tactful way.
and some of your previous love experiences, some unglamorous things in your natal family, don't say it casually. After all, you can't confirm whether these questions will make him mind.
Be cautious about marriage, it will definitely be more beneficial to your marriage. If you are too careless, it is easy to cause some trouble to your marriage.
4, you must keep a good balance with your mother-in-law, she and your mother-in-law are always different.
The mother-in-law is not a mother, but it is still bad.There is a relationship. If you can't actively communicate with each other, then you encounter problems and conflicts will become your marital crisis. Your mother-in-law can tolerate you in everything you encounter, but your mother-in-law certainly can't do this.
You and your mother can act cute, but it depends on the situation to do so in front of your mother-in-law. It's fine if you meet a mother-in-law who spoils you. If you don't meet the right person, then you are really making trouble for yourself. What the mother-in-law of
hopes is that you can make your husband's life better. With you, you can help your husband and make his life easier, happier and happier.
Apart from this thing, you really don't have so much intersection with your mother-in-law. Maybe it's just a lot of mistakes.
Marriage management is difficult or not, but every family has hard-to-read scriptures, and in many cases the right method is useless. I met an unsuitable husband, even if you have a high EQ, you can't handle it.
Therefore, you must understand the above principles, choose the right person, and know how to get along. These are the most basic parts to help you make your marriage happy. The details are really up to you to figure it out.
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