Lawyer Lu Qiuyuan's ten words for parents-in-law
文/Lu Qiuyuan
1. Please do not insist on living with your son and daughter-in-law, it is best to drive them out. Even if they can only rent houses, that is their business. The beauty of the long distance guarantees a good relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
2. Don't treat your daughter-in-law as a daughter, just treat her as your son's wife, your friend, and that's fine. You can treat your son as a minor forever, but please treat your daughter-in-law as a peer. You scold her and she will remember it for a lifetime. In this world, only her mother can care about her, and her mother is not the old one of you.
3. Your daughter-in-law buys things randomly, likes watching Korean dramas, likes to slide her phone, doesn’t wash clothes and cooks, has bad hygiene, doesn’t like tidying up the house, doesn’t bring children, etc. The bad habits are none of your business. It's between your son and her, and your son's business is not your business. He has really grown up.
4. If you live together, please respect each other. Don't touch their husband and wife's things, don't help them wash clothes and cook, don't help them with their grandchildren. Unless your daughter-in-law asks you, and you are willing to help if you have enough energy, then think about it. Take care of their affairs yourself, don't bother you.
5. Their husband and wife quarrel, please pretend not to hear. You quarreled with your husband. Would you like your mother-in-law and father-in-law to intervene? If you don’t want it, wouldn’t it be weird for you to step in now? When the son complained, he would say good things to his wife and forget them immediately. As for the wife’s complaint, then scold your son a few more words.
6. The grandson’s parents are your son and daughter-in-law, not your husband and you. Inter-generational education is not ideal. Try to let them take care of the children by themselves, especially not depriving the wife of the right to raise the children. No matter how uncomfortable they are, the consequences will be theirs.
7. The daughter-in-law does not need to be filial to you. It is the son who should be filial to you. Please train your son to become a responsible man and help you get along with your daughter-in-law. Your wife's kindness to you should always be on your lips, and your wife's kindness should be forgotten immediately.
8. Please do not come when your son is discussing divorce in court. This will make him look a lot like Mabao, and you can't enter the mediation room and courtroom, so you can only be anxious outside.
9. Plan your retirement life more, don't focus on your sons and daughters, even if you are halfway through your life, there are many interesting and new things to learn. It is your task to make your old life more brilliant. Please spend all your property before you die, and don't let your property become inheritance.
10. The grandson is not yours, but his parents' treasure.
