"He doesn't actually love you so much" Son Yehe (December Song) was so sensible when she was in a relationship with Sam (Zhang Haowei), so distressed, even if she was sick, she didn't want to trouble her boyfriend. Take care.
Chen Nan (played by Yang Youning) gave Sun Yihe the most reasonable explanation for this behavior, and Sun Yihe belongs to the pleasing personality.
in order to take care of the feelings of others, and even said to please others and ignore their own feelings, even if they are greatly wronged, they still endure it silently.
fell in love with Sam, Sun Yehe didn't feel discomfort or even grievance, but she left all grievances in the dark night, like a wounded cub always licking her wound silently in the dark.
Even though Son Yehe was exhausted by the torture of work, when Sam called, she immediately got up to 120,000 points, not because of how refreshing Sam is, she just didn’t want to be in Sam. There were too many negative emotions in front of her, and she didn't want Sam to feel the small gap in her emotions.
In fact, Son Yehe is not only overly sensible to Sam, but also to ordinary people. After eating western food with Chen Nan, the steak in Sun Yihe’s bowl was obviously too old to eat, but she just didn’t want to change this steak. Chen Nan always kindly told her to ask for another one, but Sun Yihe I don't want to delay Chen Nan's time too much because of his own meals.
For, Sun Yihe had no way to lay the fork on this over-fried steak, but she still smiled and said to Chen Nan that there was no need to replace it, and some would be good. Sun Yihe couldn't even eat a meal because of excessively pleasing others.
Sometimes a person really can't put their thoughts and feelings in their hearts too much. Everyone should have empathy, but excessively flattering and obeying others will only hurt themselves. It may not be a problem to lick the wound silently by myself, but if even normal daily activities such as eating are affected, you can imagine how much trouble you will worry about walking in this world.
In the end, when Chen Nan insisted on changing Son Yehe for a three-mature steak, Son Yehe knew how comfortable it was to consider and follow his heart. At least for the delicious steak, Son Yehe can enjoy it.
is just that when a person with a pleasing personality is pointed out by others, the rebellious mentality in his heart will take advantage of the trend. Chen Nan pointed out Sun Yihe’s problem. Sun Yihe felt that Chen Nan’s words were more like arsenic. Not only did she disregard her heart, but in the end, she didn’t even enjoy the freshly cooked 3-minute steak. She was even more than Chen Nan. Want to leave the restaurant early.
The rebellion likeseems to have saved Chen Nan’s time from another aspect more beneficially. Even the rebellious personality of the pleasing personality seems to be considering others, which is really very ironic.
But a person will definitely not let himself live so tired forever. Everyone must finally reconcile with himself, and finally understand that loving oneself is a lifelong romance. Only when we have the ability to love ourselves can we love more people.
Even if Chen Nan's words can't shake Sun Yihe at present, it will affect her subtly, making her change a little bit, and love herself a little bit more.
We have come to this world for a while, of course, it is impossible to live alone, so taking into account their feelings is a skill we learn little by little, and it is also the best way for us to pretend to be part of the crowd. But if we let ourselves get lost a little bit in order to grasp some illusory feelings, we will turn the cart before the horse.
This world is very beautiful. Only when we keep a hot and happy heart, can we see thoroughly and comfortably, love with a cool and warm heart, and never lose ourselves for them.
