Children do their best to carve their own future
Parents just want to carve their children according to their own ideas
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The new drama "In the name of the family", the screen is full of warm family care. Although Li Jianjian lost her mother when she was a child, her father gave him endless love. He is really a father and a mother. The most happy thing is that her father has completely respected her growth. , Let her do what she likes, it doesn't matter if she doesn't study well, just grow up happily.
This is the dream of many children, and it is also something that many parents have never done despite talking about it.
"In the name of the family" TV series screenshot
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and Li Jianjian's growth atmosphere is completely different, it is her good girlfriend Qi Mingyue. Qi Mingyue's mother is the epitome of many Chinese mothers today. She puts Qi Mingyue's academic performance in the first place and has never asked if Qi Mingyue is having a bad time. The more terrifying point is that not only in study, but also in life, Qi Mingyue does not have any power to speak.
Qi Mingyue is already third in the class, but her mother did not see her hard work and dedication at all, but felt that she must be the first to be outstanding. The first time I met with Li Jianjian, it was at a parent meeting. The first question I asked Li Jianjian was, what is your academic performance. Knowing that Li Jianjian was the second to last in the class, he took Qi Mingyue to find an excuse to leave, and walked towards the first classmate in the exam.
Is the same with your mother? It is said that the most anxious person in society today is not the successful person, but the mother with a child. Some wish that children are smarter than others during prenatal education.
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I am also a mother. In fact, I also understand this anxiety a bit. After all, the competitiveness of society is getting stronger and stronger, but sometimes I will tell myself that there are days outside the world, and there are people outside the world, such as our small county towns, even if we work harder, it may just be the tail of the big city.
This is why many parents work hard to make money, and they have to go to big cities to buy houses with the burden of stressful mortgages. After all, it's for the children.
Look at today's children, there are four interest classes on weekends, there are tuition classes in the evening, and there is no time for ventilation. Maybe parents ask themselves whether their children’s piano, dance, Olympiad, etc. are just for the children to make up for their regrets?
because I wanted to learn when I was young, but I didn't have any money at home or there was no chance to learn. Because I didn’t study well when I was a child, I didn’t work hard, and I realized that when I was out of society, different diplomas and diplomas are different paths.
is good though. But when we were young, there were very few dances or pianos, and it was money-burning, but now, any child has special skills. Therefore, good study and good grades are the never-changing road to success.
can learn but also requires talent and hard work. Some children have worked very hard. If the parents really encourage them, the children will be better. Instead, only see the points she lost forever.
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Of course, when Li Jianjian grew up, she still went to university, learned her favorite major, participated in competitions, won awards, and opened a studio. What a good life. Doing what you like can still feed yourself.
Even when the younger brother had a car accident, she still had her own savings, which could be given to the younger brother. She rented the house with Qi Mingyue and Tang Can. She also gave the rent for six months.
Therefore, when Qi Mingyue’s mother and Li Jianjian were in the video, I did not forget to praise Li Jianjian, saying that you are a talented person, unlike my Mingyue, you are not looking for a bad job, you can help me Persuading Mingyue to let her take a civil service exam, how nice it would be to stabilize!
more familiarWords. Many parents of children have said it. Qi Mingyue is a reporter now, a job she likes. After so many years, she can finally do what she likes, but her mother still wants to obstruct her.
Even when Qi Mingyue was able to go to Beijing for two years to study, it should be a chance to come back. Her mother didn't want to refuse it.
Beijing is so far away, the air is bad, and the traffic is bad. Can't you find a job well?
What is good? Is it really good? Everything is good according to mother's ideas!
The best thing I have ever heard is that our parents only gave her life, and life is her own.
Maybe we can guide her when she was young, but we can't control her.
We try our best to have our own life. Why do we interfere with the life of our children? Life has been in a hurry for decades. If you don't live well for yourself, is it worth your life?
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If Qi Mingyue’s mother is Li Jianjian’s mother, when Li Jianjian did wood carving for the first time, she must have thrown everything away. There is no right for Li Jianjian to speak. Because my mother puts her academic performance first. I must think that this is ignorance.
Are there few parents around us?
Some people may say that not all children can become Li Jianjian, some children are only three minutes of popularity, she does not have a real love, it is better to study hard.
But who knows what the future of the child must be? Didn't Tang Can not become an actress in the end, even her mother hated her?
Tang Can didn't she work hard? Yes, she worked very hard, but in the end, her dream was just a dream.
But what Tang Can and Qi Mingyue have in common is that their mothers make plans for them and intervene too hard in their children's lives, but later they have no ability to be responsible for their children's life.
Maybe the child never thought about holding you responsible, let alone, why you want to disturb my life.
