Author | Zizai Guoguo [Yuanchuang Writing Realization Camp] The student
fire drama "Thirty Only" finally ushered in the finale. Many people have shared their experience of chasing drama, with anger, regret, unwillingness, and applause.
Gu Jia has a high degree of education, high emotional intelligence, and high ability. As a housewife, she went to the hall and played her junior year; Zhong Xiaoqin has a stable family and a stable job, and her life is stable; Wang Manni has a dream and dare to work hard. Brave and confused. While the three people are enjoying the sweet happiness on their respective roads of thirty, they also have to slap the life reward.
This play has contributed the greatest sincerity to portray the truest appearance of life, because it is close to the truth, it will touch people's hearts.
1. No need to envy others' glamour, everyone has to experience the darkest moments.
"Life" is a very philosophical word. Everyone survives all the hardships in the world, and this is life.
Some people spend their entire lives in a dull life, learn to adapt, learn to accept, and learn to stop confronting the world.
Some people carefully hide their wounds after the sea of swords and fires, and wait until the scabs become scars, and continue to face the wind and waves, reluctant to admit defeat, have the courage, and become steel from hardships, becoming the "winner of life" in the mouth of others, and they are full of holes behind them. Only in the dead of night alone comforted.
Whether you have a dull life or a turbulent life, you will experience the darkest moments. This is a compulsory course that everyone has to take. No one will help you. Some people survived, some stayed in the dark forever. Therefore, the lives of others you admire are not as dazzling as they seem. Everyone has the pain and darkness that they are experiencing or have just experienced. This is the practice of life.
As the perfect wife of others, Gu Jia can manage the family, integrate into the circle of wives, be able to compete wisely as a junior, and keep improving herself. However, he still has to experience the dilemma of her husband’s derailment and the instant collapse of a happy family. In many cases, the perfect life we build is just imagination, but in fact it can't stand up to storms and is fragile.
Rather than envy others' lives, it is better to live your own life and feel all the little joys you are experiencing now. Even if it is suffering, please focus on solving the problem, continue to act, and move towards the warm sun after a short period of loss.
2. In addition to blood relatives, the nature of interpersonal interaction is value exchange.
In a market economy, the balance between supply and demand must be emphasized, and only by maintaining the balance between supply and demand can the healthy development of the economy be promoted. The same is true for interpersonal relationships.
Two people always seek balance when getting along, which requires the values and abilities of both parties to converge or complement each other, and to be able to maximize the spiritual or material support each other needs. When the values of the two parties are not equal, the relationship is prone to cracks. One party cannot keep up with the progress of the other party, and the gap gradually widens, and the relationship will eventually face the danger of collapse.
is like Wang Manni in the play. From the beginning, her love has been in a state of unequal. The economic strength, cultivation and charm of the other party have kept Wang Manni's love mentality in a humble state. This relationship has been in a humble state since the beginning. Foreshadowing was laid, and the gap between the executive cabin and the ordinary cabin was difficult to bridge after all.
Someone once said: “A person can only make the other person feel threatened if he increases his value. The higher the value of insecurity, the more the other person cares about you.”
allows one to appreciate, so that he can have equal life!
3. Your partner is not a safe haven. Only the harbor you build is reliable enough.
A sense of security is never something anyone can give, except for oneself, others can do nothing. In the
play, Zhong Xiaoqin’s sentence became a classic: "Marriage wants to find a safe haven, and everyone wants to avoid the wind, then who will be the port?" The reality is also worrying. Contemporary marriages weigh the pros and cons of marriage decisions. Can't give us the so-called stability.
data show that China’s divorce rate has risen for 16 consecutive years, reaching 44.1% in 2019. SomeThere are even appointments for divorce and are full. If the family is really a safe haven in marriage, why do so many people choose to divorce?
Before marriage, we imagined marriage as perfect and sacred. After we got married, the trivialities of life grind away the passion, the contradictions are magnified, the conflicts continue, the relationship gradually disintegrates, and the so-called safe haven instantly collapses.
The confidence to live life must be earned by yourself. The harbor built by yourself is reliable enough to carry us through our lives! We are not saying that we must not rely on our partner at all and maintain absolute independence. We want to have: it is sunny with you, but I also have the confidence to leave you at any time and the ability to create my own world!
Fourth, born as a human, you deserve all the good things in the world.
Being alive is not easy. Don’t care about other people’s perspectives. Just be yourself. EQ is so low that it makes people unable to complain. It doesn’t matter if you can’t do things and be scolded, or you don’t handle the relationship with others well. Behind the scenes in embarrassment, people pretend to be strong.
do not deliberately, do not blame yourself, you are you, just be yourself, love yourself is enough. You have to live reasonably and confidently enough. As the only one in the world, you deserve all good things!
