Not long ago, the launch of "The Next Stop Is Happiness" attracted constant praise. At the beginning of the game, Douban scored as high as 8.1.
, especially Song Qian and Song Weilong, the pair of screen CP forcibly spreading sugar, sweetly dating, makes people want to stop.
But with the development of the plot, the storyline of Shuang Song Dynasty has undergone a big reversal. Not only did they break up, but the female one and the male two came together.
This made the fans angry, and they ran to Song Qian's Weibo comment area for various malicious attacks, calling her "scumbag" and "green tea". The
Douban score dropped to 5.9.
actually watched the drama seriously and found that Song Qian’s personality is not surprising. After all, falling in love with the 10-year-old Song Weilong is not easy to accept.
just everyone thinks that she dominates the love of two men, this is too "green tea", can not help but criticize it fiercely.
these years, "green tea" has always been the object of all mankind's scorn.
However, no matter how suppressed or eliminated, the "green tea" always thrive and multiply.
don't they have any bottom line of public order and good customs? Come and listen to the aspirations of these three women who are called "green tea".
01
said I was a false virgin "white lotus", are you sick?
Miss Luo, 21 years old, single
I am determined to study hard and I have no intention of talking about men and women.
Someone chases me, and I automatically turn them into "friends", the kind that I usually go out to play together and talk on the phone in private.
In the eyes of others, I have many friends of the opposite sex.
But I know that I am just their earpiece, and I will provide them with advice from a female perspective to avoid falling pits.
originally thought it was just like this, which not only maintains the relationship, but also can be independent.
Unexpectedly, a girlfriend of a "good buddy" ran over to warn me and told me to stay away from his man.
She thinks her boyfriend once chased me, and I still keep in touch with him, just hanging each other and giving them hope.
I explained, she didn't listen at all, and she kept calling me "White Lotus", a false Virgin.
is too lazy to pester with such a woman, I don't care about her at all.
Only a few days later, I started to receive some anonymous insulting text messages.
even the school’s Baidu Tieba has spread my information. The content of
is unsightly, saying that I have a compensated dating, been taken care of by my boss, and like to play with other people's feelings.
This information spread in my circle of friends, and someone sent a message asking me if it was true.
This makes me very uncomfortable.
finally one day, my parents told me that a stranger called them and said that I was messing with men and women, which made them very worried.
I couldn't bear it, and I reported the matter directly to the counselor.
With the help of the school, the woman who spread the rumors finally publicly apologized to me, and "good buddies" also blocked me. The
counselor reminded me that to make friends, you must understand the scale and boundaries. As a girl, you must love yourself.
To be honest, I really don’t understand. I just want to be friends with the opposite sex. Is this a problem?
said I am a green tea person, are you sick?
You feel that you are not afraid of the shadow leaning. In the eyes of others, this kind of "nobleness" can easily cause misunderstanding.
Especially, your boundary awareness is not strong. Even if the other party has pursued you, you still "naively" think that each other can continue to maintain pure friendship, which is very dangerous.
be careful that your kindness is misinterpreted and used.
is in the eyes of others, but if you get along with ambiguous things, if you accidentally cross the thunder pond, you will set fire to yourself.
Don't believe it, the relationship between men and women of the opposite sex has always made people feel sensitive. Knowing the person, knowing the face and not knowing the heart, is a person who has to be wary, let alone the opposite sex?
wants to eliminate the possibility of being scolded, in addition to standing firm and walking upright, the best way is to break and break, separate the three-eight lines, so that oneself and the gossip will be missed.
02
fish and bear paws, I want
Ms. Zheng, 28 years old, in love period
. Before me, it is still beautiful. For five days on weekdays, the clothes and bags are not the same every day, and my colleagues love to talk about it. Everything, I think the conditions in my house are definitely good.
Actually, what kind of material do I have? Only seven or eight thousand a month. If you want to buy a famous brand, you can only look for high imitation. It is estimated that those who flatter me will not take a closer look.
My parents are from rural areas, and there is an unbelievable brother at home. Seeing my salary is pretty good, he asks me for money every three days.
I am tired of their faces, thinking that we must find a rich man to marry, and make a clean break with this family.
No one knows, I already have a partner, but I think he is not rich enough. A designer, all day long, he only draws pictures on the computer.
Fortunately, he never cares about me and pays his salary, which makes me very satisfied.
colleagues think I am single, and often ask me to meet the opposite sex. Of course I will go. If I have a chance to meet my son-in-law, I have to go forward. Among the people
met, there are many who actively pursue me for courtesy, some who give me necklaces, some cosmetics and perfumes, and even some who give me keys, saying that I can go to his house anytime I want.
All those who chase me, I will not give a clear answer, but it does not prevent us from watching the snow, the stars and the moon, and talk about the philosophy of life from poems and songs. When
responded to messages from the opposite sex a few times, her boyfriend was suspicious, and always felt that I was so "busy" every day.
every time I get asked, I feel guilty. He is good to me, but I am always trying to find a better one. After all, he is nothing but a "spare tire" to me.
I also know that I am a bitch and green tea, but I am not reconciled to only find such a man.
With my conditions, I think I can meet better, which is related to lifelong happiness, and I don't want to accept my fate. What if
is "cheap" now, I don't care if I meet one or two "scumbags" occasionally.
Anyway, I look at a man in the mood of winning the jackpot. If I really meet a rich man, I will definitely end the current situation.
who knows, where is the next one!
You take it for granted. In fact, this misreads the essence of love.
feelings are by no means a market transaction, and it is impossible to shop around.
You always want to pick the best in your heart. It is nothing more than vanity.
Henry Bergson once said: "Vanity is hard to sayThis kind of evil deeds, but all evil deeds revolve around vanity, they are nothing but a means to satisfy vanity. "
, you are very contradictory. You are always comparing and comparing in your heart. There is no way to truly enjoy a happy intimacy.
People with abundant hearts are far more important than external wealth.
The behavior of gaining a sense of security and identity from others will only fail in the end.
is better to make yourself stronger and become an independent new-age youth
Don’t take it for granted that making “green tea” is an inevitable fact, in fact What kind of person you end up with is between your thoughts.
03
I would rather I lose the world, than the world would lose me
Ms. Chen, 37 years old, divorced
After a failed marriage, I am very Broken.
thinks that the external conditions are pretty good. I lost to the little vixen in my husband’s unit after giving birth.
, you know, at that time, in order to be with my ex-husband, I offended all my family. He even took out his savings for many years to start a business.
started from scratch. It’s easier said than done. If it weren’t for my management, how could his company squeeze into the top 500 in the province in just three years.
People say that men can only share hardships, but cannot share happiness.
The broken shoes worn by others, the old lady does not want, even the children.
Why divorced women have to be willing to raise children, I am not , I have to go the other way.
To be honest, although I am nearly 40 years old and have more than one year after giving birth, my body is recovering well, and I usually pay attention to facial maintenance, so it looks like I am in my early 30s. .
I am used to dealing with people in shopping malls on weekdays. I know what men want, nothing more than a warm and gentle town, as long as they are willing to share with me, I can definitely meet all their needs.
physically Everyone needs the joy of me. Only my heart, they can’t.
Every time those "smelly" men propose to marry me, I break up immediately.
marriage is something I no longer trust. Since they want to take possession of both body and mind, I'm sorry, the old lady is a "fairy", play is OK, love is free.
I met a small boss, the other party and his girlfriend show affection all day long, and it is annoying to watch .
is such a harmless man, the more I can’t wait to tear off his mask, let others see, the world’s men are as "colorful".
really, I asked him to discuss cooperation , Dressed up, the big V collar shows the career line. After a few glasses of spirits, the little boss can't control himself just like the "beast".
Afterwards, he said that he wanted to go underground with me. I smiled and agreed. The relationship between
lasted less than a month. I thought he had no skills and no novelty, so I abandoned him.
He was furious and called me "green tea". It doesn't matter, who makes them not enough.
keeps changing boyfriends, just to prove that my treasure is not old and my charm is dependent.
I feel very happy now, as if I have found my direction in life.
game world, I go further and further on this road.
04
A truly powerful woman has nothing to do with "green tea".
In the relationship between the sexes, women sometimes inevitably fall into the game of "you are strong and I am weak" and "I am strong and you are weak".
passively or actively become "green tea". On the surface, it is self-inflicted and cannot live, but in fact it is a deviation in self-understanding.
thinks that those who are clear are self-clear, but they fail to see their behavior revealing misleading signals;
thinks that they are spreading snares, but they are looking forward to the appearance of others to help their barrenness;
thinks that the game world is just the heart His scars haven't healed yet, and he is trying to paralyze himself.
A truly powerful woman has nothing to do with "green tea".
The ultimate goal of a woman is to constantly practice self-improvement.
1. Rather than being sexy in the flesh, it is better to have a plump emotional intelligence
Some people say that getting along well is a person's top emotional intelligence. It is a way to grasp the right degree, which makes people feel natural.
No matter speaking or doing things, there must always be moderation and measure.
has a ruler in his heart, knowing where the boundary is, and telling myself not to touch it, so I feel safe.
You can earn the respect of others and get the kindness of others.
2. Choose a circle of positive friends
Women are naturally "emotional" and have more needs for interpersonal communication.
The so-called "things" gather people into groups. If you want to improve yourself, who you are with is particularly important. The people around
are optimistic, cheerful, lively and outgoing. Even if you are easy to worry about yourself, you can still be infected with joy.
Stay with people who have three views and have enough energy to readjust your perception of being off track.
Your life can truly be on the right path.
3. Living in the present, accepting everything from
in the past, or sadness or regret, is of no avail.
It is better to smile at all frustrations, accept the wounded self in your heart, and enjoy the sunshine every day.
A woman's life is a life of tenacity. When facing a fatal problem, keeping her pure heart can make herself more independent.
Only by constantly pursuing self-growth can you have the opportunity to get rid of the "definition" of others and add the most correct footnote to yourself.
No matter when the wind rises or looks invincible, you live out your true self, and you will eventually live into an admirable light.
look forward to one day when "green teas" can tear off their labels and become the most fragrant "red roses" in others' hearts.
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About the author: Oh my mother, a psychological counselor, loves gossip between men and women, writing is the ultimate joy of life.
