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Alan Tam is a Hong Kong music legend. He has been married to Yang Jiewei for more than 30 years, and the two have been together before they became popular. After Alan Tam became popular, Yang Jiewei entered the business world and increased Alan Tam's assets several times through multiple rounds of investment.
According to reports, after their marriage, Alan Tan and Yang Jiewei agreed to be Dink’s husband and wife . In order to support her husband’s career, Yang Jiewei also agreed to abort N times at all.
However, when Alan Tam was interviewed by Radio Hong Kong in 2006, publicly admitted that he had found the "confidante" Zhu Xiaoting and gave birth to a son Tan Xiaofeng. The reason for was "for the last wish of the old father". Yang Jiewei has always been worried about this, and the two often quarreled.
escaped into the empty door this time, Yang Jiewei will lay down the management of Tan family property rights. Some people speculate that Zhu Xiaoting, the "confidante" who gave birth to Alan Tam, has the opportunity to take over his billion Hong Kong dollar assets as "Tame Tan".
Yang Jiewei's sacrifice was at the cost of not having children and having no children for life.
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From this incident, we think of a question. What happened to those couples who agreed with DINK 20 years ago?
Not long ago, I heard about a pair of relatives who insisted on DINK. Both of them were over 50 years old but suddenly announced their divorce. After the two divorced, everyone knew that the man's illegitimate child outside was almost 9 years old. When
heard the news, my mother said that when they chose DINK, I knew there would be such a day. When the woman wanted a child, , but the man insisted on DINK and convinced the woman step by step. The two kept insisting on DINK.
and other men who are in middle age, see that friends around him have children around their knees, and their home is deserted, feeling lonely, wanting children, but at this time, how can his wife still give birth? So he went outside to find a young girl to have a baby.
As for women, after being dragged on for so many years, can't end up with . Before the Hong Kong media broke an anecdote, the 61-year-old famous director Er Dongsheng divorced and married again as a father. The reason why
has aroused everyone's heated discussion is that Er Dongsheng and his ex-wife have always agreed to Dink, saying that they will never want children. Now that they remarry but have children so quickly, it is embarrassing.
Er Dongsheng has lived with his ex-wife Luo Xiaowen for 18 years and has always insisted on DINK. And Luo Xiaowen, from the 29-year-old years to be accompanied by Er Dongsheng until the age of 47, because of Er Dongsheng's persistence, he never talked about children.
As a result, they just divorced in 2017, and now, Er Dongsheng has children with others.
are all stupid women like Yang Jiewei. They were loyal to her husband when she was young. She believed in her husband’s decision. believed that her sacrifice would bring her lifelong loyalty. As everyone knows, in the face of selfish humanity, kindness, affection, care and loyalty are all It's worthless, waits for you to be old and yellow. When you need to be with you, they pat their buttocks and leave. They change their lives and enjoy the family, leaving their lonely and helpless themselves for the rest of their lives.
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In fact, when the Dink couple came to the end, they often had three results.
First, the man repents and marries him again.
Like these women, when they were young, the two parties agreed to dink and enjoy the world of the two, but they were over half a hundred years old, and the man suddenly repented, but at this time, the woman is no longer capable of fertility, so the man married her again and inherited the family.
Two is that both sides of regret it, but the woman's body is not allowed, and the emotional foundation is still there. decided to adopt the way of adoption, and alleviated the loneliness of childlessness.
third is that both parties unanimously insist on DINK.
For example, Hong Kong movie star Vivian Chow and her husband Ni Zhen, they have been married for 11 years, and they have agreed to DINK after their marriage, and the now 52-year-old Vivian Chow has never revealed her childbirth plan after marriage. In a survey conducted by
on the DINK population on a certain website, there was a question: What should I do if I regret it in the future?
It can be seen from this survey that only 19% claim that will never regret. More than 80% of netizens will leave a way for themselves. : If you regret it, give birth. If you don’t want to give birth, you can also adopt one! Another question, I was asked again, would it be because one party repented and one party insisted on DINK? The result of is that 11% of netizens choose to divorce, and 46% of netizens choose to compromise.
However, regretted it, really didn't want to stay behind!
Medically speaking, even if men reach the age of 100, they are completely likely to have children, but is just that their fertility has declined. According to the literature, the oldest man with natural childbearing age is as high as 93 years old.
But what about women? According to medical research, 49 is called the limit age for women to give birth (including the second child). Although there are some reports in the news that women in their 50s and 60s give birth, some are artificially assisted, and some are accidentally conceived naturally, but pregnancy at an advanced age can cause serious damage to women's bodies and even death.
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In the increasingly open era, choosing DINK is a personal way of life, but this way has room for remorse for men, while remorse for women is almost harsh.
So, if the husband and wife are negotiating to do DINK, what issues should a woman consider?
1, pre-rules, and full communication
Both spouses should confirm the true thoughts of the other Dink, conduct in-depth communication, and think through a series of questions, such as what to do if the woman becomes pregnant by accident? What should I do if the man’s derailment causes the other to become pregnant? Due to family pressure, both sides repented, but what should I do if the woman can't give birth? and many more.
2, agreed DINK, whether some physiological measures can be performed.
For example, whether the woman can freeze the eggs in advance to prevent the man from repenting and there is no remedy.
Xu Jinglei was interviewed by "Vista Watching the World". said that she had frozen her 9 eggs in the United States as early as the age of 39 in 2013. The purpose of 's move was not because of how much she wanted to have children, but more Too much is to ensure that she has as much choice as possible in terms of reproductive rights. She laughed and said: "This is the only regret medicine in the world." The only regret for is that she found this regret medicine a bit late, so she hoped that others Can start acting earlier.
Although for Yang Jiewei and Luo Xiaowen, freezing eggs cannot hold the heart of scumbags-no matter how good and perfect scumbags you are, you will have to cheat, , but for women who originally wanted to be mothers, this is a guarantee for themselves. Still have the right to be a mother.
Another example is whether the man can do ligation to ensure the safety of the couple’s life and the woman’s body from accidental harm, while the two sides give more trust.
3. The response of external public opinion
Dink must be prepared to respond to public opinion. After all, according to the world, marriage and childbirth are the normal life of ordinary people, and Dink will be criticized. Many people give up because they can't resist the pressure of public opinion. Therefore, Be psychologically prepared in advance.
4. Savings of financial and material resources
Women must make good financial and material reserves. Although it is no longer the age of raising children to protect the elderly, if there are no children for life, will have no husband’s protection if there is a major change in middle age or old age. The support of children will be stretched in life. Therefore, it is necessary to reserve a good amount of money to deal with life after old age.
5. Women’s independence
DINK seems to be the decision of both husband and wife, but is relatively weak in the woman’s . In a marriage relationship, a woman shouldRemain independent, autonomous, and understand the situation in case of accidents.
In fact, whether you decide to DINK or not, women must remain single in marriage to ensure that they have the capital to escape the life circle they don't like at any time in the future.
About the author: a Scorpio girl born in the 1980s, graduated from the Department of Journalism, a national third-level psychological counselor, and a contracted author of many psychological and emotional platforms; Qiu Yingying, who grew up savagely, now inspires to be a sparkling Andy. I hope to bring you together, holding fireworks in hand, making a living; being poetic and seeking love;
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