This summer, Nezha has become the biggest dark horse. With a sentence of "My fate is my fault", he ranked eighth in the total box office in the Mainland with a box office of 2.7 billion. His next thing to surpass is "I am not a medicine god". . People who haven't watched
said this Nezha is too ugly, while people who have seen it said "I'm crying", "I want a second brush", "It's too cool". How did
, a bear kid who everyone wants to fight in Chentangguan and everyone is afraid of, reversed his fate in the movie and rushed all the way to gain so many fans?
His charm probably really comes from the deeply rooted sentence "I cannot help but my fate."
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The story of Nezha who refused to admit his fate
Nezha, as we all know, spent three years in the mother’s womb and had visions during her birth. He made trouble in the East China Sea as a child, slaying dragons, cramping, and rebellious.
But the life of Nezha this summer is more than that. He was born with a "curse" that could not survive for three years, because he was born with supernatural power and was unique, and was regarded as a demon by the people around him.
When everyone saw him, they either ran away immediately or threw rotten eggs at him. Nezha knew from an early age that he was not welcomed by others.
is afraid that he will go out and make trouble, his parents will send someone to guard him, so he knows that he is not loved by his parents.
was burdened with the hatred and fear of everyone, and the carelessness of his parents, and then died when he was three years old-this is Nezha's life. Everyone told him:
admit your fate, you were born a magic boy. Accept your fate, you won't live to be three years old. Accept your fate, you little monster.
But he never admitted his fate. Father wants to help him through the catastrophe, he said: My own life will not affect other people.
Ao Bing said: "Accept your fate, you can't beat me." He said, "I can't help it. If the fate is unfair, I will fight it to the end. It's a devil or a fairy, I just say it."
This is not so much a story about family, but a story about growing up, as it is a story about finding oneself.
When everyone instills a concept with him, he only recognizes his own ideas; when everyone gives him a definition and restricts him, he only believes in his own definition.
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Don't give your destiny to others
We like Nezha, it is this attitude that we like. Who doesn't envy Nezha, and who doesn't want to live like Nezha.
Many people should have this kind of experience. At first, we will hear "xxx fate is good" and "xxx fate is not good". For the first time, we knew about fate.
Later, we were instilled with the same values and asked to be the same obedient and excellent children. For the first time, we knew what standards and models are.
Later, we found that it was really tiring to live according to the same values and standards:
I just don’t like going to work, why not going to work is not doing business properly? I just don't want to get married and don't want to have children. Is this apostasy? I didn’t have a house and marriage when I was 40 years old. I just failed?
Why should one's own life be coerced by others' standards? Obviously, there is only one life, and that's what you say.
has never the so-called established destiny, if there is, then break it! Your life is definitely not just like this!
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define ourselves, there is only one way
Why do people believe in fate, feel that there is a mysterious power driving us forward, we can not help ourselves, and powerless?
Because the vast majority of people choose to put the initiative in their destiny in the hands of others, and dance for others all their lives: before
, our destiny was determined by our parents, school, grades, and living habits were arranged one by one. . Later, we handed over our destiny to our partners, like finding new parents who can take care of ourselves. Later, we began to look at the faces of our children and start our lives with children as the focus.
We cannot change the eyes and pointers of others, and it is even more difficult for us to change our passive habit, like being manipulated by an invisible force, and we live as we are now.
has been denied so much, I can't believe myself. Too much care about other people's evaluations and suppress the true self. In order to please others, I live to be frustrated and want to cry. Having family and friends, but feeling lonely.
are these moments that make us lose control of our destiny time and time again, feel that we are useless, unloved, unable to make money, and fail to live.
psychologist Jung said: "The subconscious mind is controlling your life, but you call it destiny." Only by breaking the subconscious can you regain the dominance of your destiny.
If you have listened to a lot of lessons and read a lot of books, but still haven't completely changed, perhaps what you need most is to experience a "subconscious" change in your life.
is always the luckiest people who have the chance to meet the unknown self.
