Author|Qiao Tangtang
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Time is too much to be photographed. I dare not think about it. Before this Spring Festival, it was two years since I met my parents last time.
may not be able to stay with their parents, this is the fate of a married girl.
Although getting married does not mean that you will be fully married into your in-law’s family and become a family of in-laws, you have to admit the fact that even in such a developed society today, a married girl spends much longer time with her family Time spent with one's biological parents.
and my sister and brother who grew up with me. We have been apart for too many years. When we grow up, we will go to different things and start our own families. The beautiful childhood and youth of playing and fighting for toys when we were young are never gone. Back again.
This is the cruelest aspect of time. It rolls forward without any stop. We can't catch it. All we have left is the nostalgia for the past.
So a long time before the Spring Festival, I had already made arrangements early and bought a ticket to visit my parents. The ticket
bought was on January 23, one day before the new year. At that time, news of Wuhan pneumonia had begun to appear on the Internet. Several colleagues joked that they should not go anywhere this Spring Festival.
However, I have been looking forward to this trip to visit my parents for a long, long time. Although I was uneasy, I decided to start the trip as originally planned.
, wearing masks with her husband and children, boarded the plane to parents' house.
02
My mom
is so happy with my parents. My parents' dishes are still as good as they were when they were children. Every dish is so delicious.
After eating, you can still take advantage of my mother's free time, sit with her arm around her and swipe her mobile phone, watch and chat while laughing. Children with mothers are happy.
mother is a person with a very new era thinking. She loves to learn and learn things fast. She has learned to use smartphones, WeChat to send messages, video, voice, withdrawal, voice conversion text, red envelopes, etc. This kind of function is familiar quickly, and she told me how to use many WeChat functions.
and my mother writes good handwriting, she is the best one in our family.
Mother's mind is also very flexible, and she turns quickly. The mother is planning and arranging all the big and small things at home, and everything is done well. A mother like
is actually quite tiring to do, after all, there are so many miscellaneous things at home, which is too exhausting. Although very tired, my mother has gained our lasting love, trust and respect.
Even when we have disagreements, we have quarreled, but the position of our mother in our hearts will never change.
mother naturally became the most important person in the family. I remember that when the three of our siblings came home from school, the first thing was to find mother, and father would habitually ask when coming home from the outside: "Your mother What?".
Actually, this is fair. Mom gives too much, so she can’t get too much love and respect.
I often think that if my mother was not born in that era, she must be a very promising person. Her wisdom, her thirst for knowledge, and her management ability, none of them lost to young people today.
My sister and I have also become such people under the influence of my mother. We love to worry about our own small homes. We know everything about all kinds of things in the home.
My sister and I both work and take care of the children, and take care of all kinds of things at home.
Sometimes it’s tiring to think about it, but because of this, we have confidence. We are not the kind of people who have to depend on other people’s lives. I think every girl should have this ability and confidence to be able to Not so trembling in married life.
after all, no matter how reliable you meet oneHusband, and life is a real piece of cake, no one can give you a lifetime of support and guarantee, only you can.
A female colleague of mine said: "Marriage can turn a normal person into a mad woman."
I hope that I and all girls will not become like this. After all, apart from marriage, we are still parents' daughters, or ourselves!
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my dad
my dad is a very handsome dad.
's father was a soldier when he was young, and he participated in China's aid to Vietnam's war.
has several photos of his father when he was a soldier in the family. The father in the photo is dressed in military uniform, brave and handsome, even if it is an old photo from decades ago, it looks very eye-catching. Of course, even now, my father is still the most temperamental and handsome among his peers.
I remember one day when I was in high school, my dad suddenly received a call. It turned out to be a call from one of his comrades. The comrade said that he had searched many places and finally found his dad’s contact information, just to say something. Thank you.
Why do you want to say thank you?
should have sent that comrade to the front line, but that comrade was very scared, so Dad replaced him on the front line. He said his life was saved by his father, so even after many years, he must find his father and say thank you.
But before that phone call, my father had never told us about these passionate and glorious deeds. He was like the heroes in the book, and he did it so easily that it seemed to us incredible and great things. No name yet.
He returned to the life of ordinary people, and together with his mother, he raised our three siblings with difficulty.
all say that father's love is deep and silent, and my father is like that.
In my memory, Dad seldom praises us in person, and he rarely talks to us. He is serious, stern, and silent in our minds.
But we always remember that when my father was young, he would bring us gifts every time he went on business trips, usually a new set of clothes for everyone. Sometimes I received skirts and sometimes cotton jackets.
Later I grew up. One day I said I was going to get married. My father opposed it at first. My father had his concerns, and he was afraid that I would not be able to adapt to each other's family.
But then I naively thought that getting married was a matter of two people.
But then at my insistence, my father compromised. He said that he would not look at anything else. He chose to believe that my husband would treat me well. In those times when he compromised, I can still feel his disappointed and unwilling look.
So if my marriage is not happy, apart from being sorry for myself, I am also sorry for my father’s compromise.
Chinese marriage, no matter how young people insist that marriage is a matter of two people, they will inevitably have intersections, frictions, and quarrels with each other's families. All these are very sad.
But many things are unsolvable and helpless, and can only do their best.
I spend too little time with my parents after getting married, but every time I meet, my dad must cook the braised fish for us personally. My dad’s braised fish is the most special in history, and my mother also has to make this dish. .
For so many years, the braised fish dish is full of dad's love, heavy and delicious.
Dad has always used his way to express his simple fatherly love to us.
I can’t think of a better word to describe him. He is low-key, sincere, responsible, responsible, selfless...
How I hope that time will go slower and slower, I don’t want to grow up, nor do I want to They get old.
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The more people grow up, the more they miss the home they used to be when they were young. That home is not necessarily wealthy, and may not always have money to buy everything.It's delicious and fun, but it looks like a real home in my mind.
Maybe when I had my own child, I realized it was not easy for my parents to raise us.
maybe because after so many years of social stumbling, I finally grew up a little bit.
I dare not say that I am sensible, I just want to say that I love my parents more truly.
Mom and Dad are here, and their hearts belong.
has always wanted to write about my parents, but because of my poor writing, I have never dared to write. Today I finally got my wish.
Even if I didn’t write well today, it’s okay. My parents will be enough for me to write for a lifetime.
May every parent in the world be healthy, happy and happy!
