A few days ago, a piece of news came out on the Internet. In a school in Yuzhou City, Henan Province, three male students forcibly stuffed the eyes of a 7-year-old female student with paper. Later, the doctor took out dozens of pieces of paper from the girl's eyes.
We usually say: "You can't rub a grain of sand in your eyes." When a grain of sand enters your eyes, we will feel pain and discomfort. You can imagine how it feels to put dozens of pieces of paper into your eyes. Fortunately, the girl's eyesight has not been seriously affected, but the shadow left in her heart may not be erased for a while. The behavior of the three boys can be said to be very bad, but their parents were indifferent and did not come forward to apologize. The principal even downplayed, saying that the children are just playing together and there is nothing malicious.
If we all feel that this is not malicious, how can children regulate their behavior, and can they do anything "without malicious intent"?
We have to reflect on whether this behavior of children is due to the "abnormality" of our adult world?
In contrast, this American movie-"Miracle Boy", let us see the correct attitude and method of dealing with such incidents.
stuffing a piece of paper into the girl's eyes called "innocent"? In this film, the P
photo is a manifestation of "campus bullying" and must be taken seriously.
"Miracle Boy" tells the story of a ten-year-old boy with facial deformity, Ogi, who walked out of the family for the first time and entered school. Faced with a strange vision, facing isolation and discrimination, the little boy actively integrated into campus life with the help of his family and teachers. As a mother,
really can't watch such a movie. The tear point is too low and she shed tears several times.
However, compared to the warmth and inspiration of this movie, I think more attention should be paid to the impact of family education on children and the school's attitude towards "school bullying" incidents.
1. The child’s extraordinary behavior reflects the parents’ "anomie"
At the beginning of the movie, the principal Mr. Tu Shiman received Augie. He joked with Augie humorously to relieve the boy’s tension. Then, please three people Students with good character and learning take Augie to visit the school.
One of the male classmates named Julian walked in the front, chattering and introducing. Speaking of their teacher Brown, Julian added: "My mother said he was a little weird." What's wrong with Teacher Brown? Maybe it's because he was once an elite on Wall Street, but he likes to be a poor teacher and often teaches people some motto in the classroom. For example:
When right and kindness are in conflict, please choose kindness.
In the eyes of Julian's mother, Mr. Brown's choices and behavior may make her obsessed with money difficult to understand. But in front of the child, the teacher who criticizes the child behind his back is obviously not the behavior that a well-trained person should do.
And Julian has the true story of his mother. He treats Augie as a fool and asks if he knows what a "blackboard eraser" is and whether his face has been burned. The two classmates next to him stopped him in time. Everyone knew that such a question would make Augie very embarrassed and uncomfortable, but he still asked it regardless of dissuasion.
Julian called Augie "monster" behind his back, and then told his classmates that whoever touched Augie would infect the monster germs.
However, what will be contagious is malice, and of course kindness!
Compared with Julian, Will is the real "excellent character and academic." Although his family is very poor, the shoes on his feet are worn by others. But his mother taught him what "kindness" is.
led Augie to visit the school before the start of school. Will had been in the summer vacation and didn't want to go, but his mother told him: "Your brother was so sensible and scared to cry by him. What do you think of him at school?"
There is no need for mom to say a word, and Will agreed. When Augie was isolated, he bravely made friends with Augie, and even fought with Julian who was hurting in order to defend Augie.
Although Julian's family is rich, being rich does not mean noble, but kindness is a kind of noble.
2. For “campus bullying,” the school’s eyes cannot tolerate a grain of sand
Although Augie has a deformed face, he is a very smart boy. He won first place in the science competition.
Julian saw Augie not pleasing to his eyes, coupled with jealousy, so he painted a lot of paintings, stuffed into Augie’s locker, insulting AugieIt's a monster. I also took the group photos of the whole class for PS, deliberately removing Augie from the photos. He posted the repaired photo on the class locker, with a line on the back: For the sake of everyone, go to hell!
Teacher Brown learned the truth for the first time, and then informed Mr. Tu Shiman. Mr.
Tu Shiman asked Julian to invite his parents, and then punished Julian not to go to school for two days, not to go out to play, but to stay at home.
This punishment is not that big of a deal, but Julian's mother is very dissatisfied. She said that she repaired the photo because Auggie was so scary that the guests who didn't want to come home felt uncomfortable when they saw the photo. He also said that Augie made Julian have nightmares at night.
When I heard this mother's remarks, I couldn't help but think of Wei Lai's mother in "Young You". They are all the same rich, they are the same unprincipled guarding their children, they are all the same with a full sense of superiority, and they are condescending to other people's children. Mr.
Tu Shiman insisted on punishing Julian. The mother also said that they had donated a lot of money to the school, but the principal did not buy it. His father threatened: "The school board has many friends of mine." The principal
responded domineeringly: " I have more friends.” The principal of
wanted Julian to reflect on himself at home, but his parents were angry and insisted on transferring Julian to another school.
has such a pair of parents, it is also Julian's misfortune, maybe one day he will become "Weila". In the end, if his parents didn't teach him, the society will teach him severely.
Compared with "Youth in Youth", the teacher in this movie discovered the phenomenon of bullying, not just talking about it, but taking the most direct action. The principal's response was even more impressive.
3. Looking forward to one day, when we see this movie again and no longer think it is a fairy tale
After watching the movie "Miracle Boy", we will feel that Augie is very lucky because he is full of kindness and warmth around him. He has a pair of wise parents who never give up on him, a sister who has always supported him, a principal and a teacher who are willing to accept and help him to integrate into the campus, and two particularly good friends...
Ogi is like a bunch of colors The light reflects the kindness of the people around, and of course the malice of a few people.
Although there are people like Julian and his parents, Auggie's world is a fairy tale kingdom in my opinion. Compared with the warm and healing colors of movies, the reality is always unsatisfactory.
As mentioned at the beginning, the three boys stuffed paper into the eyes of the 7-year-old girl, and the principal's understatement made people full of doubt and anger. The boy involved was reportedly expelled from the school. The school may worry that the child will make trouble again, which will have a negative impact on the school.
But the real education is not to rush to distinguish the relationship, but to help children recognize their own mistakes and reflect on themselves from the heart. To achieve this, school education is very important, and parental education is even more important.
But the parents of the children who caused the accident did not come forward to apologize. Only the grandfather of a boy gave the girl 1,000 yuan. From the attitude of the parents, we can also imagine how these three children became lawless bear children.
really hope that every pair of parents can be responsible for their children. Whether
was reckless or impulsive, when you decide to give birth to him, please make your own efforts for the healthy growth of that life!
Looking forward to one day, when we see the movie "Miracle Boy" again, we no longer feel that it is an unreachable fairy tale.
