To be honest, Na Wei was very good in the early stage, but since his family moved to Yanjiao, his performance has been extremely disappointing. Even his own mother couldn't help but complain and call him a waste, but Shen Lin blocked him every time! Every time I see this, I don't understand Shen Lin's reaction: she seems too calm, too tolerant, and too tolerant!
But it wasn’t until I saw Na Wei having a fight with his big brother Wang Ruizhi in order to get back the 800,000 he was defrauded that I got the key to it.
1 empathize with
Shen Lin stayed at home full-time for 5 years. During this period, she sent out 1,000 resumes, but in the end she didn't get a single interview opportunity. When people reach middle age, their competitiveness is greatly reduced. The five-year trough period made Shen Lin deeply empathize with Na Wei's psychology.
She knew very well the loss and powerlessness of Na Wei's failure in starting a business. In particular, Na Wei's self-exile occurred after Lao Gao's sudden death. Only when people are alive can they have hope!
No matter whether Na Wei is in bad shape or lying flat, as long as he is good, everything is possible.
Therefore, when her mother-in-law saw that Na Wei was incompetent and was very frustrated and scolded him in person, Shen Lin always stopped him and advised: Give him more time, he needs to slow down.
2 Reasonable
This advantage of Shen Lin was actually very obvious after Xie Meilan aborted the child without telling Shen Lei.
She did not help Shen Lei because she was her sister. Especially after talking to Xie Meilan and even being secretly criticized by her, Shen Lin did not get angry. Instead, she stood extremely objectively from a woman's perspective. Complaining that Shen Lei was too careless and wrong, he didn't understand women at all, let alone Xie Meilan's inner needs.
It can be seen from this that Shen Lin's character background is reasonable.
Therefore, when Na Wei failed to start a business and left his family fortune to Huo Huo, Shen Lin only mentioned it during the quarrel. At other times, she did not complain at all.
She was extremely tolerant of Na Wei's state of lying flat and not caring about his family.
Even if her brother told Na Wei that she was bullied when she bought braised meat in the market, and Na Wei was indifferent, Shen Lin just had red eyes and looked at Na Wei's back with a fierce look: "Then I will treat you as your own from now on." You are a waste, I will take care of this family!
When the middle-class life was suddenly reduced to relying on getting rid of to make a living, Shen Lin never thought about divorce. When Na Wei was coldly treated or even ignored, Shen Lin didn't resent it.
On the contrary, when Na Wei had no contribution to the family, she took up the responsibility: because in her opinion, Na Wei had raised her for 5 years, and now there was nothing wrong with her raising Na Wei.
Being so understanding is also the key to the longevity of Shen Lin and Na Wei's marriage.
3 Requesting is not love, giving is
Of course, Shen Lin’s dedication was finally seen, cherished and rewarded!
After getting drunk and getting drunk, Na Wei finally regained his morale: first he sold a BMW, and then he and Shen Lin set up a stall to sell pickled food. During this period, in order to increase his income, he used every opportunity to deliver food.
The most direct and powerful thing is that in order to get back the 800,000 that was defrauded, Na Wei directly fought with his respected big brother Wang Ruizhi.
In order to support his family and make this family better, he learned to sacrifice himself completely like Shen Lin.
Only now do I understand that both Shen Lin and Na Wei know what love is!
Taking is not love, giving is.
Therefore, it’s okay for Na Wei to be lying down or lying down, and Shen Lin can support a large family by selling groceries.
Therefore, even if the audience was angry with Na Wei's words and deeds, Shen Lin did not resent Na Wei's current inaction, did not resent Na Wei's incompetence, and did not dislike Na Wei's drunkenness all day long.
Because Shen Lin knew: Na Wei needs time to stand up! And Na Wei did not disappoint her.
It is also because of this that Shen Lin and Na Wei were able to live a prosperous life again after reaching rock bottom.
4 Only when the three views are consistent can the relationship be long-term.
Shen Lei has a monthly salary of 8,000, a stable job, and a Beijing household registration. In the eyes of others, he is very popular, but in Xie Meilan's eyes: Shen Lei has no future, and it is not easy to live with him.
Na Juan has an annual salary of 1 million and has a 200-square-meter flat. In the eyes of others, Na Juan is the best choice for a good husband, but Li Xiaoyue just doesn't want to enjoy the blessing. When Na Juan proposed, she directly said they broke up!
On the other hand, Na Wei and Shen Lin can share joys and sorrows. To be honest, Na Wei was very good in the early stage, but since his family moved to Yanjiao, his performance has been extremely disappointing. Even his own mother couldn't help but complain and call him a waste, but Shen Lin blocked him every time! Every time I see this, I don't understand Shen Lin's reaction: she seems too calm, too tolerant, and too tolerant! But it wasn’t until I saw Na Wei having a fight with his big brother Wang Ruizhi in order to get back the 800,000 he was defrauded that I got the key to it. 1 empathize with Shen Lin stayed at home full-time for 5 years. During this period, she sent out 1,000 resumes, but in the end she didn't get a single interview opportunity. When people reach middle age, their competitiveness is greatly reduced. The five-year trough period made Shen Lin deeply empathize with Na Wei's psychology. She knew very well the loss and powerlessness of Na Wei's failure in starting a business. In particular, Na Wei's self-exile occurred after Lao Gao's sudden death. Only when people are alive can they have hope! No matter whether Na Wei is in bad shape or lying flat, as long as he is good, everything is possible. Therefore, when her mother-in-law saw that Na Wei was incompetent and was very frustrated and scolded him in person, Shen Lin always stopped him and advised: Give him more time, he needs to slow down. 2 Reasonable This advantage of Shen Lin was actually very obvious after Xie Meilan aborted the child without telling Shen Lei. She did not help Shen Lei because she was her sister. Especially after talking to Xie Meilan and even being secretly criticized by her, Shen Lin did not get angry. Instead, she stood extremely objectively from a woman's perspective. Complaining that Shen Lei was too careless and wrong, he didn't understand women at all, let alone Xie Meilan's inner needs. It can be seen from this that Shen Lin's character background is reasonable. Therefore, when Na Wei failed to start a business and left his family fortune to Huo Huo, Shen Lin only mentioned it during the quarrel. At other times, she did not complain at all. She was extremely tolerant of Na Wei's state of lying flat and not caring about his family. Even if her brother told Na Wei that she was bullied when she bought braised meat in the market, and Na Wei was indifferent, Shen Lin just had red eyes and looked at Na Wei's back with a fierce look: "Then I will treat you as your own from now on." You are a waste, I will take care of this family! When the middle-class life was suddenly reduced to relying on getting rid of to make a living, Shen Lin never thought about divorce. When Na Wei was coldly treated or even ignored, Shen Lin didn't resent it. On the contrary, when Na Wei had no contribution to the family, she took up the responsibility: because in her opinion, Na Wei had raised her for 5 years, and now there was nothing wrong with her raising Na Wei. Being so understanding is also the key to the longevity of Shen Lin and Na Wei's marriage. 3 Requesting is not love, giving is Of course, Shen Lin’s dedication was finally seen, cherished and rewarded! After getting drunk and getting drunk, Na Wei finally regained his morale: first he sold a BMW, and then he and Shen Lin set up a stall to sell pickled food. During this period, in order to increase his income, he used every opportunity to deliver food. The most direct and powerful thing is that in order to get back the 800,000 that was defrauded, Na Wei directly fought with his respected big brother Wang Ruizhi. In order to support his family and make this family better, he learned to sacrifice himself completely like Shen Lin. Only now do I understand that both Shen Lin and Na Wei know what love is! Taking is not love, giving is. Therefore, it’s okay for Na Wei to be lying down or lying down, and Shen Lin can support a large family by selling groceries. Therefore, even if the audience was angry with Na Wei's words and deeds, Shen Lin did not resent Na Wei's current inaction, did not resent Na Wei's incompetence, and did not dislike Na Wei's drunkenness all day long. Because Shen Lin knew: Na Wei needs time to stand up! And Na Wei did not disappoint her. It is also because of this that Shen Lin and Na Wei were able to live a prosperous life again after reaching rock bottom. 4 Only when the three views are consistent can the relationship be long-term. Shen Lei has a monthly salary of 8,000, a stable job, and a Beijing household registration. In the eyes of others, he is very popular, but in Xie Meilan's eyes: Shen Lei has no future, and it is not easy to live with him. Na Juan has an annual salary of 1 million and has a 200-square-meter flat. In the eyes of others, Na Juan is the best choice for a good husband, but Li Xiaoyue just doesn't want to enjoy the blessing. When Na Juan proposed, she directly said they broke up! On the other hand, Na Wei and Shen Lin can share joys and sorrows. So! Only when the three views are consistent can the relationship be long-term!