01 How should we live in this life? It seems that everyone is rushing forward, working very hard, and trying to live a life of their own. They always feel that if they live in a big mansion and drive a luxury car, they can live a life of superiority, and they will have no wo

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How should we live in this life?

It seems that everyone is rushing forward, working very hard, and trying to live a life of their own. They always feel that if they live in a big mansion and drive a luxury car, they can live a life that is superior to others, and they will have no worries and can be free. But many times, the so-called "freedom" is just a luxury wish.

What kind of life do you want to live, and what kind of price you have to pay. Who told you to be a mortal who has to rely on yourself?

Na Juan in "Mortal Song" can be said to be the winner in life. He is a "small town problem solver". He went from a rural area to a super academic in a prestigious school in Beijing. He is an undergraduate at Peking University and a graduate student at Tsinghua University. He is also a technology expert in a listed software company. Dana.

That nickname is "Juan Juan", and he rolls himself to death just to live the life of a so-called "successful person".

to what extent?

He and Li Xiaoyue have become strangers when they fall in love. They are never seen all day long. Whenever the company has projects, he has to sleep on a camp bed in the company. Toothpaste, towels, and slippers are kept in drawers all year round, just for overtime use. Na Wei was also worried that his younger brother would die suddenly? If you keep working hard like this, maybe one day it will suddenly disappear.

That Jun is not 996, he is 007. He wants to work from the moment he opens his eyes every day, staying up until early morning or even later, and this happens all week long. Of course, he also received generous rewards: had an annual salary of one million, plus year-end dividends, and 20 million options. At a young age, he bought a 160-square-meter house in Zhongguancun, Beijing, worth 20 million.

In the original work, Na Juan was even more exaggerated, not 160 square meters, but 200 square meters, and that was Beijing.

Na Juan is very arrogant, and he also has this capital. After all, he has an IQ that is beyond ordinary people. He has always had a sense of superiority in IQ since he was a child, and he is good at being a teacher. He is used to having a plan for his life. Every step he takes is within his life plan. His ultimate goal is to make more money and change his class.

The purpose of his coming to Beijing was to make money, so he had no intention of seeing the unusually red lotus flowers in the royal gardens reflecting the sun.

The so-called enjoyment of life is a kind of spiritual opium for him.

The original work said this: "He was confused. What did he come to Beijing for? Yes, he came to Beijing to live a life of a master. At the National Center for the Performing Arts, the tap dance made him dazzled, and the symphony made him dizzy. , How can you make people happy? Substituting spiritual enjoyment for material enjoyment is the sophistry of a loser. All cheap things are not worth pursuing. ” You are obsessed with money.

There are so many good things in this world, and he would risk his life to try them to see what they are like. The ideal is full and the reality is skinny. How can he have the time to enjoy it? How dare he enjoy it?

People who are used to planning their lives should not be anxious. After all, they are fully prepared. But Na Juan was very insecure and anxious. He was so tired from work that he still had to go to the gym. To put it bluntly, he wanted to have a full mental state. He wanted to be seen by his boss that he was not old, that he was in good health, and that he still followed Like a young guy in his twenties.

People are not machines. If you work hard on yourself, you will definitely collapse one day.

Na Juan’s ears were deafened and his body had a red light, but he still didn’t take it seriously.

In Na Juan’s values, human beings will never die from exhaustion. If you don’t push yourself, how will you know where your limit is? This is also the value of some companies and young people today. They pursue a wolf culture. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. What does the body count? How can your body give yourself greater pleasure if you don't have money?

Li Xiaoyue advised Na Juan to take a rest. Na Juan said: "If they knew that my body couldn't bear it anymore, do you think I would be kicked out of the company? Now, not only will I not be fired, but I will also get a job from the company. Praise. What's the problem? "

The survival game of the big manufacturers is also quite cruel, and Na Juan is very scheming.

Li Xiaoyue didn't understand Na Juan's logic. Na Juan said that he was tired now, but he would feel relaxed after he was thirty-five years old. In IT industry, the age of thirty-five is the "death line". No, in almost all industries, the age of thirty-five is the "death line".

Among young people struggling to live in big cities, who is not under great pressure? If you use your body to survive when you are young, you will probably be abandoned by the age of thirty-five. This is the naked reality.

Everyone wants to prove that "I am not a loser", and everyone is afraid of being defined as "you are a loser".

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Li Xiaoyue's values ​​​​are completely different from that of Na Juan. She pursues "carpe diem".

That Juan's annual salary of one million is not attractive to Li Xiaoyue. Whenever Juan shows off, Li Xiaoyue also says "Oh". She never takes the initiative to spend that Juan's money, let alone ask for gifts. Your money is yours, it has nothing to do with me, I won't take advantage of you, then Juan loves Li Xiaoyue not so much because she is beautiful, but because she is not vain.

Li Xiaoyue loves to play and especially loves to change jobs. She has no plan at all and everything comes according to her own wishes.

Li Xiaoyue's willfulness also made Na Juan feel very insecure for a time. He liked Li Xiaoyue, but Li Xiaoyue was not suitable to be a wife.

Li Xiaoyue's "Buddha" is related to her original family. She was an only child and was loved by all, but her parents died in a car accident when she was in high school. The death of her parents made her realize that life is impermanent. Anyone who wants to firmly control life in the palm of their hands is in vain. People should live in the present.

I personally think Li Xiaoyue is very sober.

Can we take full control of our lives?

is difficult, and accidents will come quietly.

You work so hard and sacrifice your health in order to become a so-called master. You are extremely anxious and have never enjoyed life; you want to wait until you have everything before you start enjoying it, but when does desire end? If you have a house of 100 square meters, you will still think about a large flat floor of 200 square meters, or after living in it, you will think that three or four hundred square meters is relatively large.

Desire is endless, and people cannot escape "greed, anger, and ignorance" in the end.

is like Na Juan, can he stop at the age of 35? He will only become more anxious until he is abandoned.

He is deaf and suffers from panic disorder and anxiety disorder. Na Juan cannot learn to regulate himself, and it is still difficult for him to live a good life.

I quite envy Li Xiaoyue's free and easy attitude. It is precisely because she is helpless that she can do whatever she wants. No one knows what will happen in the future, and since she has low materialistic desires, she can live a life of any kind, but it may not be miserable.

Everyone has his or her own way of living, and we are not qualified to judge other people's way of living.

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"Mortal Song" is quite realistic, and the original "I'm Not a Useless Man" is even more realistic.

In fact, how can we compare with the protagonists in the original work? We are more mortal than them, and our lives are the real songs of mortals.

Work hard and study hard. This has always been the main theme, including today's children. Studying should start from an early age. We are all afraid of being abandoned by the times, and we are even more afraid that our next generation will not live as well as ourselves. What to do with

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"Lie down", "Buddhist style", or carpe diem?

Look at what you really want.

​You still have to keep a certain degree of control, don't be too indulgent, and don't work too hard, and burn yourself to death. If your health is gone, you will really be gone. Control your desires appropriately, don't force what you can't get, or lower your desires. In fact, you can get by no matter what, and it doesn't make much difference.

We are all the most ordinary mortals in this world.

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Today’s topic: Do you want to be Na Juan or Li Xiaoyue?

Author: yibao, original emotional author, millionaire emotional blogger, marriage and family counselor, writes warm emotional things in this world through personal practice.