In the finale of " Little Couple ", Zhou Quan and Che Li remarried, Zhou Zhicheng regained Shen Xiulan, Meng Fei and Yuan Yi, two non-marriageists, not only entered the marriage hall, but are also about to have a happy marriage. Their baby...everything is perfect.
However, it was not until I watched the finale of "Little Couple" that I discovered that the happiest person in the whole show was Yu Qiaoqiao.
Yu Qiaoqiao was originally a stay-at-home mother. Her husband Li Jian was always busy at home. When Zhou Quan chose to be a stay-at-home dad in order to support Che Li's career, Li Jian sarcastically criticized their family's behavior. Division of labor model.
I thought that in such a marriage, with such a husband, Yu Qiaoqiao would definitely have a very hard and aggrieved life. I didn't expect it, but the result was very surprising.
Full-time mothers can also live out their "self".
In most cases, we all think that it is difficult for a woman to be a full-time mother at home, ask her husband for all expenses, and spend all day around the kitchen and children. It is difficult for this woman to have self-esteem.
Yu Qiaoqiao in "Little Couple" allows us to see a different full-time mother.
When Yu Qiaoqiao was a full-time mother, she seemed to be really diligent and devoted all her energy to her family, husband and children. She seemed to be no different from other full-time mothers.
But in fact, we have ignored one point, which is the original intention of being a full-time mother.
Many women become full-time mothers not because they want to, but because they are forced by their husband’s family and reality. When a child is born and no one helps to take care of it, the man feels that he should work hard on his career. Since the child was born by a woman, it is up to the woman to find a way to take care of it.
As for women who have become mothers, few of them have the heart to ignore their children. There is no one else at home to take care of their children, so they can only give up their career and take care of them at home. So while being a full-time mother, they are full of grievances.
Yu Qiaoqiao is a full-time mother because she is willing to be a full-time mother. She knows that this choice is the best solution for the family and the children, although she has indeed made a lot of sacrifices.
Her husband makes more money than she does, and her character and ability also provide the basis for raising children well. Both husband and wife can draw on their own strengths and maximize the value of the family. This is a kind of wisdom and wisdom.
Yu Qiaoqiao’s hard work in taking care of the family at home is because she fulfills her duties in her assigned role, not because she neglects to fulfill her husband. Therefore, what we outsiders see as grievances is just a responsibility and responsibility to her. Take responsibility.
People who can do a good job in every role they play are worthy of admiration. This is where Yu Qiaoqiao has not lost herself. She is not doing this while feeling aggrieved, and she feels that this is what she should do at this stage, and she will do it well.
Everyone’s life will actually have many different roles. These roles are not only filled with enjoyment and prosperity, but also with hardships and sufferings. The important thing is that you must remember who you are and not regard this role as everything. Own.
She has the ability and awareness to "come out" at any time.
Being a full-time mother is just one of Yu Qiaoqiao’s roles in life. When her children are young, she needs to play this role and assume the tasks and responsibilities of this role.
But this does not mean that she will only be Nuomi’s mother and Li Jian’s wife from now on. She is still Yu Qiaoqiao first. She has never forgotten this, nor has it been changed by anyone's will.
In fact, for a woman with a complete self, she has a very important principle when she chooses to pay for her family, and that is "worth it".
Yu Qiaoqiao became a stay-at-home mother because she felt that it was worth sacrificing several years of her career in order to maximize the interests of the family. She felt that it was worth doing this for her children and husband. In other words, she trusted her husband and felt he was reliable.
So once she feels that it is no longer worth it, or her husband shows signs of being unreliable, she can step out of the role of a full-time mother at any time.
Many people will forget their original intention if they stay in one state for a long time. Li Jian is such a man. When he had no worries at work because Yu Qiaoqiao was a stay-at-home mother and enjoyed the care of his family, he felt that this was what life should be like for granted.
Yu Qiaoqiao is also a very perceptive woman. She captured this change from Li Jian's attitude towards Zhou Quan being a full-time father. In addition, Li Jian became more and more instructive about her education of her children. A decision was made immediately: go out to work.
And her decision is really her own decision, and she will not give up or change because her husband disagrees or does not support it. When Li Jian asked her to focus on taking care of the family at home, she would reply to him: The child is also yours, and you should take care of her, not help me.
When Li Jian proposed to let her have a second child in order to tie her down, and even moved out his own mother to suppress her, she said with neither humility nor arrogance: It's not that I won't give birth, but I will give birth two years later, because I have to go out and look for her first. Work.
You see, this is what a self-owned woman looks like. She understands which rights are hers, instead of saying that because I am a stay-at-home mother and all the money I spend is earned by my husband, I have to listen to him. He If you don't let me go out to work, I will have to give up.
Having the ability to go out at any time is one thing. The key is that you have to have the courage to go out. You have to understand that being a full-time mother was just your choice in the past, and you still have the right to choose to go out. This She is the woman who truly holds happiness in her own hands.
Happiness never depends on luck.
Why do I think Yu Qiaoqiao is the happiest person in the whole show? You see, she went from being a stay-at-home mother to becoming a professional woman. It’s not that she didn’t encounter difficulties and obstacles in the process, but she overcame them with determination.
Her husband disagreed at first, but with her firm attitude, he had no choice but to take on the responsibility of taking care of the children, and he became more and more able to do so.
And after she left the workplace for many years, she returned to the workplace again. She did not give in because of the slightest difficulty. Instead, she was willing to start from trivial things and had a very correct mentality.
Why can Yu Qiaoqiao do this? Because she was well planned and mentally prepared from the beginning. She never felt that she could just be the mother of her children and her husband's wife all her life. What she did was always herself. She knew that sooner or later she would face this.
This is actually a kind of happy ability.
Many people think that Yu Qiaoqiao was so lucky to return to the workplace from a stay-at-home mother and also received the support and care of her husband because she was lucky and met a good man.
In fact, there is a kind of woman who will be happy no matter who she marries, because her happiness depends on her own abilities, concepts and mentality, rather than the luck that is pinned on a man.
You would say, if Li Jian is unwilling to share the responsibility of taking care of the children and ignores the children, can Yu Qiaoqiao still go out and find a job?
Indeed, if a man does not care about the children, it is difficult for his wife to go out and work. But that's not Yu Qiaoqiao's man. A woman like Yu Qiaoqiao who has her own self will take this into consideration when she chooses a man. She is a stay-at-home mother because the man is reliable.
If Li Jian was unreliable, it would be impossible for Yu Qiaoqiao to sacrifice her career to become a full-time mother, and their marriage would only end early. This is the biggest difference between a woman who has herself and a woman who has lost herself.
Only by living out of themselves can women grasp happiness. Remember, whether you are a stay-at-home mother or a career woman, your happiness is not given by men, but created by yourself.
About the author: is a woman who loves reading and writing. She focuses on the creation of emotional articles in film and television and the analysis and answers to issues in the emotional field. I hope that my words can accompany you warmly.
