text | Wu Qingqian
variety show "My Girl 2024" Liu Yan and Fan Tantan, two singles of the same age who are a few months apart, talked about the inevitable life and death topics in life when they took an enzyme bath together. This kind of topic is very taboo among some elders, who always think it is unlucky. For example, Liu Yan’s mother is such a person, so when she listens to her daughter and friends talking about this topic, she will make comments about it being unlucky and unlucky from time to time. But life and death are natural laws and no one can escape them. For older modern people who are used to seeing life, separation and death, many modern people with some experience will not intentionally avoid them, especially those who are single and have no worries, so Liu, Only Fan can talk about this topic without fear.
When Fan Tantan and Liu Yan were taking an enzyme bath, they were buried by a pile of soil-like things, with only their heads exposed, as if they were buried underground. The two naturally talked about life and death. Liu Yan expressed that he wanted to be buried with his father, and also said that if Fan Tantan was willing to go to their cemetery, that would be cheaper. Fan Tiantian said that she would indeed think about the issue of burial after death, and she wanted to ask who could help me handle this matter? How will you deal with being buried with your parents in the future? Yes, she is single, but she has no descendants to take care of her funeral affairs, so who can she invite?
Liu Yan thinks that you can ask a lawyer to handle it, or you can find a friend. But Fan Tiantan said that your friends will be quite young by then, and they may not have enough time to take care of themselves. This is also a very real problem. After all, many people have friends who are about the same age as themselves, but not everyone can make friends who they have never forgotten. But Liu Yan reassured her that she would help her deal with it. Fan Tiantian said that Liu Yan had to work hard to outlive her, and said that she sincerely hoped that she would go in front of her friends, so that everyone would miss her and she would not be sad.
Liu Yan said that now he has a very calm mind and has no desires and desires. He feels that he lacks nothing and has no regrets. So if I die suddenly one day, I won’t struggle and say I want to live and I want to come back, then I think it’s okay. Some time ago, someone discussed with her that you need to have a child, and you need to have something to care about in this world, otherwise you really have no regrets, and you don’t know what the pillars of your life are. Fan Tantan, who is in a similar situation to Liu Yan, can also accept the sudden departure. As Liu Yan said, he has no regrets and no one he cares about in particular. Apart from his parents, it may just be casual.
From their conversations, we can see the loneliness from singles to the elderly. This group has two sides. On the one hand, they have enough food for one person and the whole family is not hungry. They have no worries and can take life and death very lightly. But on the other hand, you also have to endure the loneliness of being alone. There will always be times when you need company while you are alive, but no one can accompany you. When you are old, you need someone to take care of your funeral affairs, but because you have no descendants, your friends are also old. I am old and dead, and I don’t know if there is any reliable person who can send me on my last journey.
For example, Liu Yan mentioned this contradiction of his when he visited his friend Wang's house. She said that the traditional concept of marrying a wife and having children must have its reasons, but she may not be able to find a partner at her age. She is too mature, she is not married and has no children, she has a good job and is financially independent. Such days are simply magical days. But the only shortcoming may be that I need that companion at certain moments, but only a small proportion of the time. But sometimes she will magnify it. The magnification is actually a disease in her heart, that is, the more you lack something, the more it will be magnified.
Later Liu Yan talked about this kind of loneliness again, saying that it would be particularly scary to say that what he likes most is work. It is not work anxiety, but autism. You are not working, and you are too embarrassed to disturb others when you can rest. Others may be busy or working, and more likely they have to take care of their own families and children, so you can only stay alone. At this time, You will feel that it is great to have a partner.
When Liu Yan and Fan Tantan were chatting about life and death, this loneliness was further extended to the end of life.If you get married and have children, you often don’t need to worry too much about the aftermath. The children will handle everything. When they finish their last journey, if financial conditions permit, they can let the children bury themselves in the cemetery. If financial conditions do not allow, or If you say you believe in green and environmental protection, then you can choose water burial or ecological burial. But the problem is that they have no children, so Fan Tantan's worries are not unnecessary.
Of course, although getting married and having children has its advantages, it also has its disadvantages. For example, life will be more stressful, there will be more worries, and sometimes you will not dare to let go and do some things. What kind of life you choose depends entirely on yourself, or in other words, what kind of life you have passively depends on your own mentality to balance it.
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