The girl was verbally threatened by her classmates, laughed at in public, and even had her mouth sealed with glue... The parents who learned the truth collapsed emotionally: "Why is the daughter I hold in the palm of my hand bullied like this?"
This is the hit movie " A clip about school bullying in " silently kills ". In the film, the victim's fear and helplessness are actually the carnival of a group of bullies, and the silence and connivance of the bystanders become the accomplices of the bullying.
Internet platform data shows that the box office of the movie "Silent Kill" exceeded 400 million yuan in the 6 days after its release, and the box office exceeded 100 million yuan in a single day for two consecutive days. Social phenomena such as school bullying and juvenile crimes have once again triggered discussions among netizens.
may be isolated inexplicably, or may be often "strange". Compared with direct violence, these behaviors are also more lethal. For those who have witnessed school bullying, the shadow of the incident can last for years or even a lifetime.
In the face of bullying, some people use force to defend their safety, some people resort to law in the company of their families, and some people face their inner demons after many years and confront the perpetrators in court...
How to prevent and respond correctly School bullying?
The following real cases
are worth thinking about.
When you encounter bullying, please be brave enough to say "no"!
Besieged by 15 bullies
He fought back with a knife, injuring three people
On May 17, 2019, Xiao Jiang, a second-grade student in a middle school in Hunan, experienced a "nightmare".
At noon that day, Xiao Jiang was forcibly taken to the toilet by seven classmates. Because he had been threatened many times before, before leaving, Xiao Jiang casually hid the multifunctional folding knife used by his classmates to open medicine bottles in his sleeve.
When Xiao Jiang arrived, he found that there were 8 other classmates waiting for him. 15 people surrounded him, some sat on him and beat him, and some kicked him... Xiao Jiang felt that "if he didn't resist, he might be beaten to death," so he took out a folding knife and swung it around with his eyes closed, eventually causing two people to be seriously injured. level, one person was slightly injured, and Xiao Jiang was also injured in many places.
The cause of the incident was just because Xiao Jiang said a few words to a girl in his class during the spring outing. This behavior seemed to a male classmate in the next class to be "provoking his girlfriend", so he asked a friend to "help teach" Xiao Jiang.
Xiao Jiang said that he encountered violence when he was in the first grade of junior high school. “Someone thought I was an outsider and was easy to bully, so they hit me on the head with a wooden stick.” That time, he asked the teacher for help, but he just asked for the medical expenses and the matter was settled hastily. The perpetrator did not receive corresponding punishment.
When Xiao Jiang encountered bullying again, Xiao Jiang subconsciously believed that "the teacher could not help him" and even worried that asking the teacher for help would "beat him more seriously" by the perpetrators, so he chose to go alone and eventually stabbed the three perpetrators.
Afterwards, he was imprisoned in a detention center and became a defendant in a criminal case. The tremendous pressure kept him unable to sleep, and he would "cry most of the night."
Fortunately, Xiao Jiang waited for his own justice. The court determined that when Xiao Jiang was bullied by students, he carried out defensive behavior and caused damage to the illegal offender, which was a legitimate defense. He was not criminally responsible in accordance with the law and declared him innocent.
In November 2022, Xiao Jiang’s acquittal verdict came into effect. Subsequently, he filed an application for state compensation. In 2023, his application was supported. In May this year, this case became the first guiding case on the judicial protection of minors issued by the Supreme People’s Court.
She was continued to be bullied by her roommate
She hid under the desk in the classroom all night
Compared with Xiao Jiang's "rise up to resist", Xiao Yi from Xinyu City, Jiangxi Province, chose to endure silently when she encountered school bullying.
One day in June 2022, Xiaoyi suffered retaliation from her two roommates in the dormitory because she did not buy snacks as required. They took Xiaoyi to the top floor of the dormitory building and beat her continuously, including kicking her, slapping her with slippers, and pouring liquid mixed with urine on her head.
The scarred Xiaoyi couldn't bear the violence and ran away and hid under the desk in the classroom. She was not found until the early morning of the next day.After receiving the news, the family members came over overnight and saw a scene they still don't want to recall: "She was smelly all over her body, and she didn't know what had been rained on her. The child looked like she was stupid." After the incident, the judicial appraisal of Xiaoyi It's a minor injury.
This is not the first time she has been bullied by roommates. Previously, during a video call with Xiaoyi, her mother noticed bruises on her daughter's eyes, and once found a scar on her nose, but Xiaoyi excused them with excuses such as "accidentally hit her" and "she was bitten by a mosquito". passed. During that time, my daughter asked for more and more living expenses. The main purpose was to be forced by her roommates to buy snacks and drinks.
Perhaps Xiaoyi’s distress signal was not obvious enough, so her mother didn’t think much about it at the time. Now that she knows the truth, she blames herself very much: "I hate myself for not noticing it."
In the police transcript, the two roommates confessed that the reason for their violence was that Xiaoyi soiled the toilet and failed to deal with it in time. Since then, Xiaoyi has been living in their shadow. She suffered multiple soft tissue contusions on her body and perforated eardrums in both ears.
In addition to being physically injured by violence, Xiaoyi also suffered serious mental injuries. Diagnosed with traumatic stress disorder and depression, she was unable to continue her studies and had to leave campus.
Xiaoyi and her family decided to protect their rights through legal means. On June 6, the court heard the case. Xiaoyi's appeal is: "I hope they will pay me back the money they paid for the things and apologize to me in public." The case will be heard again on a different date.
Even though two years have passed, Xiaoyi still cannot get over the nightmare. She is unwilling to go out and resist contact with outsiders. She will pick her hands and tremble uncontrollably when mentioning her past experiences. She is still struggling with the painful memory.
Been attacked by rumors for years
She collected evidence to fight for herself
Some bullying behaviors can even last for years. Wang Jingjing from Wenling, Zhejiang Province, suffered constant bullying from the time she was a freshman in high school until she got married and had children as an adult.
In 2008, 15-year-old Wang Jingjing was admitted to a key high school. One day in the first semester of high school, her water glass was accidentally broken by a classmate, and she was involved in an online violence that lasted for many years.
Wang Jingjing recalled that after the water cup was broken, a classmate next to him joked: "This cup is worth three million yuan!" Wang Jingjing didn't take it to heart at the time, but starting from the "three million water cup", various All kinds of rumors came to her. On the
Internet, someone posted a post to "expose" her family background, "Obviously her family is very poor, but she still says she uses a three-million-dollar water bottle." Others speculated without reason that she was "kept" and had "constant boyfriends"... Things spread more and more. Outrageous, Wang Jingjing's defense is not only useless, but sometimes it becomes the source of another rumor. "Some people said that I had buck teeth, but I explained that I had corrected my teeth, but they just bounced back. After that, some people said that I had plastic surgery."
△Wang Jingjing's previously collected posts
She was labeled as a "goddess", and her life could no longer be the best. calm. One day, under the call of the post, everyone came to "watch the goddess" one after another. Her classroom was packed with people, and even students from other schools came to participate.
She began to interact with people in a "pleasant" manner, but it was still difficult to make friends. Occasionally, if a classmate tried to excuse her, she would be labeled as a "god". The atmosphere in the class also became subtle. Many people would not directly express their malice, but would always start whispering after Wang Jingjing passed by.
Once, she was stopped and slapped several times for no reason. My father went to the school to find someone, but the other person refused to admit that he had done anything, so the matter just fell into place, and he failed to stop the overwhelming "attacks" on the Internet.
Under long-term mental pressure, Wang Jingjing tried to commit suicide twice, but failed in the end. She started taking antidepressants and felt groggy all day long - and her classmates began to spread rumors that she was "ill". Unable to stay in school, she chose to drop out. Although he later resumed school, he finally managed to get into a junior college.
Until she got married and had children, the rumors about her on the Internet did not disappear, bringing a "tsunami" to her life from time to time. She opened an online store, but her business failed to continue due to frequent negative reviews.
For a long time, Wang Jingjing really felt that "there was something wrong with herself." It was not until 2016 that she realized that what she was experiencing was "bullying." At that time, she discovered that someone else had reprocessed previous posts and published them. She contacted a lawyer and decided to fight back.
In 2017, after fixing the evidence, she took Jiang, a schoolmate who had repeatedly posted articles attacking her, to court. The two had no intersection during school. In the court, Wang Jingjing met Jiang for the first time. She saw that his hair was very long and his head was always lowered, looking a little decadent. "I thought the people who attacked me were very powerful, but they were not."
In the end, Wang Jingjing got the verdict in favor of the case, and Jiang was sentenced to three months' detention. This is a victory she fought for herself. Although it cannot make up for the harm she suffered in the past, it also helped her get out of the haze: "I used to find other people's malice unbearable, but now I feel it is no longer scary."
encountered bullying Ling, don't be silent
Schools and parents must take action
"Bullying" refers to aggressive, repeated, and disparate behavior. It is not a "joke", "prank" or "naughty" among children. UNICEF defines it as "peer violence", which includes physical, verbal, interpersonal and other harm to the bullied person.
In May this year, the General Office of the Ministry of Education issued a notice proposing specific work requirements for the special actions to prevent and control school violence and student bullying carried out in various places, clarifying that each school must establish a student bullying management committee to identify bullying behaviors and proceed in accordance with laws and regulations. Handling; it is necessary to publish the bullying prevention phone number, email address and the phone number of the vice principal for law and order and the school leader in charge of safety work, and implement a first-inquiry responsibility system for reports of incoming calls.
Indifference is an accomplice to bullying; connivance is a refuge for abusers. When students encounter bullying, if the people around them can provide timely assistance, the ending of the story may be changed.
Resisting legitimately
First of all, children must be taught to resist, shout for help and resist physically. At the same time, children should be asked to promptly tell their teachers and parents about the bullying they are experiencing, and request police intervention if it is serious.
Soothing emotions
When children encounter bullying on campus, parents and teachers must calm their children's emotions as soon as possible. If a child is found to have emotional or behavioral abnormalities, it is likely to be a post-traumatic stress reaction. Professional psychological counseling and psychological crisis intervention should be sought as soon as possible.
Focus on personality development
The adverse consequences of campus bullying are that not only the bullied will suffer physical and mental trauma, but also have a negative impact on the bully's personality development. The personality development of young people who are growing and developing is not perfect. Parents and teachers must provide them with correct guidance and education, otherwise they will go further and further down the wrong path.
Reasonable resolution of conflicts
Campus bullying and violence are often nuanced. Conflicts and conflicts among students do not occur in a day, but are gradually accumulated. Teachers and parents cannot ignore minor conflicts between children. They should guide children to correctly handle the relationship between classmates and resolve conflicts reasonably.
Resist school bullying
Tell children
Neither be perpetrators nor victims
Say "no" to school bullying!
I hope all youth can be treated with warmth
Some sources of materials丨cctv12 "First Line", Southern Metropolis Daily, Qianjiang Evening News
