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Zhang Amei is a very intriguing character.
Lao Wu, the half-way couple, described her this way: "You are good at everything, but you have such a small mind, which is as small as your stature."
People who are small-minded look at everyone with colored glasses.
It is good for others to help her, but when it is profitable, she will not care about it. She will only settle accounts and blame others for not helping her.
Huang Ling and Song Ying have helped their family. Why does she hate Song Ying so much but not Huang Ling?
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When Zhang Amei got married, Huang Ling and Song Ying both went to join in the fun.
Huang Ling and Song Ying had no objection to Zhang Amei. They felt that it was hard for Lao Wu to raise two children. It would be better for the children to have a woman in the family. After all, women are attentive and will take care of children more carefully.
But the two slowly discovered that this was not the case.
Zhang Amei is too partial to her child Xiao Min. On a cold day, she makes Shanshan line up to blow the cold air.
Shanshan has grown up and developed slowly. She is shy without underwear and even walks with her breasts in her mouth. Zhang Amei doesn’t care.
The two of them couldn't stand it anymore, so they worked together to make two bras for Shanshan, and Song Ying went to deliver the clothes.
Zhang Amei saw it, but she didn’t say anything, didn’t thank her, and didn’t expose it. She just pretended that nothing happened and accepted the help from the two people by default.
The two of them also gradually began to dislike seeing Zhang Amei, especially during the Chinese New Year. Zhang Amei suggested sending red envelopes to each other, obviously relying on their children to take advantage of others.
Zhang Amei was not resentful towards Song Ying at first, and was even a little disdainful. She looked down on Song Ying's shrewdness and ostentation, and she also looked down on Song Ying's son Lin Dongzhe, who was too naughty.
But Song Ying’s husband can’t stand up to her expectations. She has a high degree of education, can make money, and loves her wife. She only has one child, so she doesn’t have to compete for resources.
When did you start to feel resentful?
Probably Song Ying and Huang Ling secretly took Xiao Ting out to a restaurant to celebrate her birthday, but they were discovered by Lin Dongzhe and made a big fuss, and were beaten by their parents.
At this time, Zhang Amei’s focus was not on Lin Dongzhe being beaten, nor on him scolding his own mother for abandoning her husband and son, but on the inner imbalance that was slowly developing.
That shot is a good close-up.
Zhang Amei stood at the door and listened to the excitement. The more she listened, the more jealous she became.
"When I took Zhuang Xiaoting out to eat, we didn't even invite our two girls. I thought Song Ying was straight-tempered and more practical than Huang Ling, but I didn't expect that she is just as stingy!"
At this time, Zhang Amei no longer remembered that Huang Ling and Song Ying grew snake melons and divided them among their families until everyone felt like vomiting.
She couldn't remember the clothes Song Ying gave the girl, nor did she remember that their children often ate the snacks given by Lin Dongzhe.
Human nature is like this. You are good to him in every possible way, but as long as you don't think about him for one thing, he can negate all your efforts.
The forest workers went out to work part-time to earn extra money. Everyone avoided talking about it and pretended not to know because Song Ying and his wife were very good to their neighbors.
Zhang Amei was the only one who was jealous and ignorant. She said in public that the forest workers were making a lot of money outside and were much better than us. It was very embarrassing.
Lin Dongzhe was admitted to the No. 1 middle school, and Song Ying filled the neighborhood to show off. Zhang Amei was stimulated again and closed the door of her house. This time she was not only jealous, but also jealous!
What brought Zhang Amei’s resentment towards Song Ying to the highest level was Xiao Min’s work.
Zhang Amei’s original plan was for Xiao Min to take Shanshan’s place and work directly in a cotton spinning factory after graduating from technical school. Unexpectedly, the policy changed and Xiao Min, a temporary worker, had no chance to become a regular worker.
When Zhang Amei went to make trouble with everyone, Song Ying's attitude irritated Zhang Amei again.
Song Ying was actually very anxious. Xiao Min had been an intern with her for a long time, and she thought she could successfully become a full-time employee.
But she was tough-talking, and it was useless to tell Zhang Amei. Zhang Amei naturally felt that her back would not hurt when she stood. After all, Song Ying had a job, and her son would go to college in the future, so he did not have to worry about work.
Originally Zhang Amei was jealous of Song Ying, even envious. Her husband made money and loved her, and her son also lived up to expectations. The family only had one child and the burden was small. There was no pressure at all. Zhang Amei resented her even more for speaking so lightly. .
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Back to Huang Ling, why doesn’t Zhang Amei resent Huang Ling?
First of all, Huang Ling herself has a relatively gentle personality. She is very good to all the children in the neighborhood and takes care of them as much as she can. In addition, Teacher Zhuang is low-key and is willing to help children in the community with tutoring for free.
Zhang Amei naturally takes advantage of this. This can save a lot of money and energy, and you can also ask for practical advice on going to school.
For Zhang Amei, all Song Ying can give is some small favors. Huang Ling's family is different. They are all people who can be used in the future, and they will really help without asking for anything in return.
More importantly, they will not expose the matter of taking advantage in person like Song Ying.
Besides, because Huang Ling and Song Ying have a good relationship, Song Ying will definitely get a lot more light than her, and Zhang Amei hates Song Ying even more.
Secondly, Huang Ling’s situation is closer to Zhang Amei’s situation.
She is married for the second time. She has to compete for resources with Lao Wu's children for her children, and she also has to bear more.
Although Huang Ling is not married for the second time, Teacher Zhuang takes care of the banker and has been sacrificing the interests of Huang Ling and the children. She also has to fight hard, so Huang Ling's situation is not much better than her own.
With such a comparison, Zhang Amei will be more likely to accept Huang Ling's scheming. Although she feels that she is unrealistic, her life is as hard as hers, and Zhang Amei does not have too much unbalanced psychology.
People are always more empathetic to people who are in a similar situation to themselves, or even worse, because only in this way will they appear to be living a better life and feel more comfortable.
Song Ying didn’t have to fight for anything, the old princess would give in. In her childhood, Zhang Amei was jealous, envious and hateful, so the dark psychology of resentment would also be brought out by Song Ying’s words and deeds.
I have to say that there are actually many people like Zhang Amei around us. They seem to be friendly with you, but in fact they are very dark inside.
If your life is worse than her, she won’t say it on the surface, but she is very happy in her heart, and she will show off unconsciously; if you are better off than her, she will suffer more than anyone else, and she will definitely step on you if she has the chance, and she will think about it even if she doesn’t have the chance. Fazi stabs you in the back. 01 Zhang Amei is a very intriguing character. Lao Wu, the half-way couple, described her this way: "You are good at everything, but you have such a small mind, which is as small as your stature." People who are small-minded look at everyone with colored glasses. It is good for others to help her, but when it is profitable, she will not care about it. She will only settle accounts and blame others for not helping her. Huang Ling and Song Ying have helped their family. Why does she hate Song Ying so much but not Huang Ling? 02 When Zhang Amei got married, Huang Ling and Song Ying both went to join in the fun. Huang Ling and Song Ying had no objection to Zhang Amei. They felt that it was hard for Lao Wu to raise two children. It would be better for the children to have a woman in the family. After all, women are attentive and will take care of children more carefully. But the two slowly discovered that this was not the case. Zhang Amei is too partial to her child Xiao Min. On a cold day, she makes Shanshan line up to blow the cold air. Shanshan has grown up and developed slowly. She is shy without underwear and even walks with her breasts in her mouth. Zhang Amei doesn’t care. The two of them couldn't stand it anymore, so they worked together to make two bras for Shanshan, and Song Ying went to deliver the clothes. Zhang Amei saw it, but she didn’t say anything, didn’t thank her, and didn’t expose it. She just pretended that nothing happened and accepted the help from the two people by default. The two of them also gradually began to dislike seeing Zhang Amei, especially during the Chinese New Year. Zhang Amei suggested sending red envelopes to each other, obviously relying on their children to take advantage of others. Zhang Amei was not resentful towards Song Ying at first, and was even a little disdainful. She looked down on Song Ying's shrewdness and ostentation, and she also looked down on Song Ying's son Lin Dongzhe, who was too naughty. But Song Ying’s husband can’t stand up to her expectations. She has a high degree of education, can make money, and loves her wife. She only has one child, so she doesn’t have to compete for resources. When did you start to feel resentful? Probably Song Ying and Huang Ling secretly took Xiao Ting out to a restaurant to celebrate her birthday, but they were discovered by Lin Dongzhe and made a big fuss, and were beaten by their parents. At this time, Zhang Amei’s focus was not on Lin Dongzhe being beaten, nor on him scolding his own mother for abandoning her husband and son, but on the inner imbalance that was slowly developing. That shot is a good close-up. Zhang Amei stood at the door and listened to the excitement. The more she listened, the more jealous she became. "I took Zhuang Xiaoting out to eat, but I didn't see the two girls from our family calling me. I thought Song Ying was straight-tempered and more practical than Huang Ling, but I didn't expect that she is just as stingy!" At this time, Zhang Amei no longer remembers Huang Ling. Ling and Song Ying grew snake melons and divided them among their families until everyone felt like vomiting. She couldn't remember the clothes Song Ying gave the girl, nor did she remember that their children often ate the snacks given by Lin Dongzhe. Human nature is like this. You are good to him in every possible way, but as long as you don't think about him for one thing, he can negate all your efforts. The forest workers went out to work part-time to earn extra money. Everyone avoided talking about it and pretended not to know because Song Ying and his wife were very good to their neighbors. Zhang Amei was the only one who was jealous and ignorant. She said in public that the forest workers were making a lot of money outside and were much better than us. It was very embarrassing. Lin Dongzhe was admitted to the No. 1 middle school, and Song Ying filled the neighborhood to show off. Zhang Amei was stimulated again and closed the door of her house. This time she was not only jealous, but also jealous! What brought Zhang Amei’s resentment towards Song Ying to the highest level was Xiao Min’s work. Zhang Amei’s original plan was for Xiao Min to take Shanshan’s place and work directly in a cotton spinning factory after graduating from technical school. Unexpectedly, the policy changed and Xiao Min, a temporary worker, had no chance to become a regular worker. When Zhang Amei went to make trouble with everyone, Song Ying's attitude irritated Zhang Amei again. Song Ying was actually very anxious. Xiao Min had been an intern with her for a long time, and she thought she could successfully become a full-time employee. But she was tough-talking, and it was useless to tell Zhang Amei. Zhang Amei naturally felt that her back would not hurt when she stood. After all, Song Ying had a job, and her son would go to college in the future, so he did not have to worry about work. Originally Zhang Amei was jealous of Song Ying, even envious. Her husband made money and loved her, and her son also lived up to expectations. The family only had one child and the burden was small. There was no pressure at all. Zhang Amei resented her even more for speaking so lightly. . 03 Back to Huang Ling, why doesn’t Zhang Amei resent Huang Ling? First of all, Huang Ling herself has a relatively gentle personality. She is very good to all the children in the neighborhood and takes care of them as much as she can. In addition, Teacher Zhuang is low-key and is willing to help children in the community with tutoring for free. Zhang Amei naturally takes advantage of this. This can save a lot of money and energy, and you can also ask for practical advice on going to school. For Zhang Amei, all Song Ying can give is some small favors. Huang Ling's family is different. They are all people who can be used in the future, and they will really help without asking for anything in return. More importantly, they will not expose the matter of taking advantage in person like Song Ying. Besides, because Huang Ling and Song Ying have a good relationship, Song Ying will definitely get a lot more light than her, and Zhang Amei hates Song Ying even more. Secondly, Huang Ling’s situation is closer to Zhang Amei’s situation. She is married for the second time. She has to compete for resources with Lao Wu's children for her children, and she also has to bear more. Although Huang Ling is not married for the second time, Teacher Zhuang takes care of the banker and has been sacrificing the interests of Huang Ling and the children. She also has to fight hard, so Huang Ling's situation is not much better than her own. With such a comparison, Zhang Amei will be more likely to accept Huang Ling's scheming. Although she feels that she is unrealistic, her life is as hard as hers, and Zhang Amei does not have too much unbalanced psychology. People are always more empathetic to people who are in a similar situation to themselves, or even worse, because only in this way will they appear to be living a better life and feel more comfortable. Song Ying didn’t have to fight for anything, the old princess would give in. In her childhood, Zhang Amei was jealous, envious and hateful, so the dark psychology of resentment would also be brought out by Song Ying’s words and deeds. I have to say that there are actually many people like Zhang Amei around us. They seem to be friendly with you, but in fact they are very dark inside. If your life is worse than her, she won’t say it on the surface, but she is very happy in her heart, and she will show off unconsciously; if you are better off than her, she will suffer more than anyone else, and she will definitely step on you if she has the chance, and she will think about it even if she doesn’t have the chance. Fazi stabs you in the back. I wonder if there is such a person around you? —end— Picture source: screenshots of stills from " Alley People ", infringement and deletion