□ Zhang Junhao (Changzhou University)
html On May 2, a "Wangma Matchmaking" blind date event held at Wanda Plaza in Bozhou, Anhui attracted widespread attention. The core controversy of the event was that a woman who claimed to be three months pregnant came on stage for a blind date. The host also asked the young man, "It is acceptable to divorce without children, but why can't it be accepted to be three months pregnant?" "Wang Po" even said: "Men must be responsible first, don't mind this issue." The host’s questioning of the young man and Mrs. Wang’s response highlighted the vague understanding of the ethics and moral bottom line of marriage and love. This also made netizens doubt the activity. While pursuing freedom of marriage and love, have they ignored the boundaries of morality and law? During the live event, the host faced a pregnant girl on stage for a blind date. Not only did she not ask about the situation, she even asked the guy why he couldn't accept a girl who was three months pregnant. If a pregnant woman is married, it is obviously against morality and law to help a married woman go on a blind date. The "Wang Po" doesn't care why the pregnant woman came to the blind date, nor does she care whether the pregnant woman's partner is responsible. Instead, she questions the strange guy's lack of responsibility. Such an unethical matchmaking program is inevitably too vulgar.
In the marriage and love market, everyone has the right to choose their own partner, but this does not mean that moral and legal constraints can be ignored. The woman revealed that she was three months pregnant, which is obviously not a simple blind date topic. This is about respect for unborn life and a serious attitude toward marriage. The rhetoric of "Wang Po" not only fails to convey the correct view of marriage and love, but may also mislead young people's understanding of marriage and family. On such occasions, the organizers actively "lead the red line" to pregnant women, which also reflects the organizers' disregard for marriage ethics.
Afterwards, the response from the Ideal Love Marriage staff was even more vague, trying to blame the problem on a misunderstanding. However, behind the misunderstanding, it reflects the entire society's vague understanding of the ethics and moral bottom line of marriage and love. In such a social environment, personal freedom of choice is often magnified, while moral and legal constraints are diluted. If there is no active guidance, it will provide the ground for similar incidents to occur.
We call on society to pay more attention to moral and legal constraints while pursuing freedom of marriage and love. For the marriage and love market, a healthier and standardized operating mechanism should be established. At the same time, as a part of social culture, marriage and love activities should be organized and operated more prudently and responsibly. Event organizers should not only pay attention to the personal conditions of the participants, but also focus on spreading healthy concepts of marriage and love, and guide people to establish a correct outlook on marriage and family.
This time, Bozhou Wanda’s “Wangma Matchmaking” is more like a mirror, reflecting the complexity and diversity of society’s views on marriage and love. We need to maintain an open and tolerant attitude toward marriage, and at the same time we should not forget our respect for morality and law, and we should not treat marriage as a trivial matter. Only with the joint efforts of the whole society can a healthy and harmonious marriage and love environment be established, so that everyone can find their own happiness on the basis of respect and understanding.
