text / Luo Moli
Mai Chenghuan and Yao Zhiming are together, so sweet!
Later on, no one seemed to mention Mai Chenghuan’s ex-boyfriend Xin Jialiang, including Chenghuan’s family members, and the constant barrage of comments. Of course, Chenghuan himself never mentioned this rich second generation who could not afford to support him. The ending seems to be fixed on the father's decadence after his stroke.
But amid the waves of sweetness, I wanted to talk about Xin Jialiang and the two loves of Mai Chenghuan.
The story between these three people can actually be explained in three sentences.
The first sentence is that people have different needs at different times and in different situations, and naturally the suitable people are also different.
Frankly speaking, although Mak Chenghuan and Xin Jialiang did not get married, the three years they were together must be more beautiful than painful in retrospect.
Just like what grandma said, Xin Jialiang has a good character, a nice family, a sweet mouth, obedient and quick to apologize, and his occasional romantic and horse-catching ideas are very suitable for a little girl to talk about love.
is a good love partner for Mai Chenghuan, a little girl who has just graduated and whose romantic complex has not faded.
Xin Jialiang has been pampered by his family since he was a child. He has never experienced setbacks and has a sense of emotional security and relaxation. It is very easy to fall in love with such a person if there are no twists and turns.
On the contrary, Yao Zhiming is a child who has lacked love since childhood. He is extremely distrustful of people. He only talks about interests and does not value human relationships. Although he is very capable, he is jealous and has a bad temper. As for Cheng Huan, he would definitely be intimidated, thinking that he is a difficult and dragging person.
However, as Mai Chenghuan entered the society and gained more experience, he gradually had a higher need for pragmatism. At this time, Xin Jialiang's irresponsible side became prominent, and Yao Zhiming's practical side also emerged.
Xin Jialiang only evaded and apologized one after another in front of Mai Chenghuan. He apologized for concealing his identity. He ran away when Chenghuan was misunderstood at the bidding meeting. He was snail-stricken when the parents met, and he was fooled by Chenghuan's prenuptial agreement. All he could say afterwards was "I'm sorry, baby." I love you".
Although Yao Zhiming used Mai Chenghuan and calculated, he actually taught her career and life lessons.
From the perspective of problem-solving, Xin Jialiang, who has been protected and well-arranged since childhood, naturally lost to Yao Zhiming, who could only rely on himself since childhood.
Even Yao Zhiming himself later admitted that the suffering he once had became a wealth at a certain moment.
When he was a child, he longed to grab the life-saving straw of his grandma and live a carefree life, but grandma only helped him and his mother solve their immediate needs and encouraged him to study hard. He had to overcome obstacles on his own the rest of the way. He blamed his grandma for not helping her even though she was capable. It wasn't until he grew up that he realized that all this had other meanings and gave him wealth in life in places he never expected.
Perhaps life is also a law of conservation of energy. There will be no gains for no reason, and no efforts will be made in vain.
Cheng Huan between Xin Jialiang or Yao Zhiming is just adapting to the changes in life and himself.
It is very difficult for two people to keep going and share the same frequency all the way. This difficulty lies not only in whether they can move forward together, but also in whether they can retreat together or stop in place.
The second sentence is that in the end, people are just dealing with their relationship with themselves.
Xin Jialiang and Mai Chenghuan have been together for three years and concealed their family background for three years. It seems that Mai Chenghuan has been harmed more, but judging from the subsequent plot, as long as Mai Chenghuan escapes in time, they will be together again in just one turn. It has nothing to do with it. The person who once cried for him and laughed for him has been crushed in the speeding life, leaving nothing behind.
But what about Xin Jialiang himself? His concealment of Chenghuan, whether it was due to his or his mother's (most likely mother's desire to protect) concerns about the Mai family at the beginning, is also in line with human nature and understandable, but as Xin Jialiang and Mai Chenghuan get along, they should be able to own judgment.
For adults with mature minds, they will make decisions based on judgment. If the result of your judgment is "no", then you should at least tell the truth; if the result of your judgment is "yes", then you should weigh whether to exchange money for love.
The most unforgivable thing about Xin Jialiang is not that he lied and made a mistake at the beginning, but that he failed to correct the mistake in three years. He failed to face the problem and correct it, and just avoided it.
On the surface, Xin Jialiang concealed his true family background because of his mother's advice, but he was sure that Mai Chenghuan was not doing it for money at all! But he could argue about his mother's objection to him being with Mai Chenghuan, but he never argued about hiding the truth.
This means that he is hesitant and doubtful in his heart. Deep down in his heart, it is actually what he wants to conceal and test.
This is not only to see whether Cheng Huan is a vain woman, but also represents his own lack of confidence. In his heart, he is afraid that his own attractiveness is not enough to gain bonus points in this relationship, but can only rely on his family background to gain points.
Everyone is self-aware, but some people are sober most of the time and confused occasionally; some people choose to be confused most of the time and sober occasionally.
When he was awake, Xin Jialiang knew very well that he could only stay in the shelter of his family and be a flower. Therefore, he did not dare to face the excessive warmth or instant coldness that Mai Chenghuan encountered because of his identity.
What he wants to prove is that even if he does not have a family behind him, he still deserves love.
Because essentially, he has no confidence in himself and can rely on his own strength to overwhelm the influence of his family on him.
This problem is not only in love, but also in work and life. If you can't surpass your father at work, then you can just lie down at home and play games. If you can't surpass your mother in life, then you can just be a willful puppet. "You" can do whatever you want.
What he doesn’t understand is that life is not a process of external comparison, but a process of internal search. There is no need to defeat anyone, let alone imitate anyone, or become someone, but you must know who you are. What you can do, what you want.
When getting along with others, you need to know who they are, what they can do for them, and what they want.
Xin Jialiang didn't say anything at the beginning and was not honest. As long as he can make a decisive conclusion for himself and Mai Chenghuan at the right time, he will know what to do next.
Just like what I said at the beginning, if you think Mai Chenghuan is not doing it for money, you can take the initiative to confess, apologize and admit your mistakes, work hard to make amends, and minimize the loss. In fact, Mai Chenghuan will be able to forgive him later. If you think Mai Chenghuan is really in it for money, then if you can't accept it, then break up and the next one will be better-behaved. If you can accept it, then turn money into a positive factor in reconciling the relationship between the two people. Not only will it not be a drag, but it will be better. Solve problems and bond tighter.
But he missed all of these.
In fact, in the past three years, what he did not dare to face was Mai Chenghuan or a love that could end at any time, but himself, always himself.
In the past three years, he has not been able to get rid of the shackles of lack of confidence and lack of assertiveness, and he has been unable to break out of the prison he created for himself.
Perhaps, the ultimate reward or punishment for lying is only yourself.
The third sentence is to congratulate Mai Chenghuan. People will be brought to different people by their own magnetic field.
In her life, there were always too many parts that she had to bear passively. For family love, it was for her mother's preferences and arrangements, and she lost too much self-choice and self-proof; for love, it was to maintain the relationship with Jialiang. Constantly surrender your bottom line and principles.
For example, after graduating from college, you can obviously find a job on your own, but your mother insists on using connections to find a job through the back door, making it impossible for her to be free at work.
For example, she obviously has her own rhythm in life, but her mother urges her to get married, forcing her to let her feelings fester and encourage her to talk about marriage.
For example, in the face of Jialiang's deception, in the face of Jialiang's trouble in his work, in the face of Jialiang's family's disrespect for himself and his parents, he still has to smile and accept the grievances and concessions.
When Mai Chenghuan took the initiative to kiss Yao Zhiming, I knew she did it.
She is finally no longer the good daughter who only knows how to "take pleasure in everything", but also knows how to be the person who "must have all the joy in life" at the right time.
People are repeatedly entangled in various relationships throughout their lives. Strong people always hope to receive positive evaluation and feedback in various relationships, and they should be good children, good partners, good parents, good friends, good colleagues, and even Good passers-by, good melon-eating people...
Loving yourself does not mean that everyone should only love themselves regardless of it and ignore the selfishness of those around them.
is just that in many games that are too difficult to solve, occasionally lower the difficulty of your copy, find a vent, and choose an easy mode. After all, it is easier to laugh when you pass the level.
Others are always a mirror of ourselves. If you see her/him crying, it is actually your own tears flowing in your heart. If you see her/him not being good enough, maybe we can try to find the better child inside.
The author of this article: Luo Moli.
Wild writers born in the 1980s work in the workplace during the day and write for self-entertainment at night. They feel with their heart, express sincerely, live freely, and grow old calmly. Reviews of popular and classic dramas are updated one after another. Welcome to follow and watch dramas with you to talk about life.
