Ms. Zhang and several netizens still firmly believe that Xiao Pan was "abused" by her husband Xiao Wang in the last few years of her life.
On March 8 this year, because of an online post accusing "an internet celebrity of abusing his sick wife for three years until her death", Xiao Wang, an internet celebrity who had his wife take care of ALS on a live broadcast, was questioned again one year after his wife's death.
In 2012, Xiao Pan from Wuhu, Anhui Province, married into a village in Fuqing City, Fujian Province. Shortly after giving birth to her second child, Xiao Pan felt weak in her fingers and was diagnosed with ALS after seeking medical treatment. In 2019, Xiao Wang began to share the daily life of taking care of his sick wife on a short video platform. His image as a "good husband" who worked hard and never complained made him gradually become an Internet celebrity blogger.
Xiao Pan passed away on January 21, 2023. Later, some netizens came forward to accuse Xiao Wang of "abusing" his wife, because Xiao Pan mentioned that Xiao Wang beat and scolded her many times during his lifetime, and was "skinny" before his death. Is
a wife loving person or a wife abuser? Recently, Red Star News reporters visited the place where Xiao Pan lived and his hometown, and interviewed his in-laws, parents, villagers, and familiar netizens in an attempt to get closer to the truth.
Chat history: My husband will beat and scold me
In 2019, Ms. Zhang accidentally watched Xiao Wang’s live broadcast. Xiao Wang said that his wife Xiao Pan suffered from ALS and he delivered gas and water to earn money to support his family. He hoped that everyone would support them. In the
video, Xiao Wang takes meticulous care of his sick wife: helping her bring foot-washing water to the bedside, helping her take a bath and go to the toilet; whatever Xiao Pan asks Xiao Wang to do, he does it immediately.
Xiao Wang was away from home during the day and was always worried that his wife would be lonely. Enthusiastic netizens added Xiao Pan’s WeChat account, and Xiao Pan used the eye control device to type and chat. One time, Xiao Pan wanted to go to the toilet, but he couldn't contact Xiao Wang after sending a message, so he asked netizens to help him make a call. On the other end of the phone, Xiao Wang said, "Okay, I'll go back right away."
Another netizen, Ms. Chen (surname changed), recalled that in 2019, Xiao Wang would play music in the live broadcast room and tell stories about him and his wife. It was getting late, so he asked his wife to rest and live broadcast by himself. Many netizens, including Ms. Zhang, believe that during that time, Xiao Wang was very good to Xiao Pan.
However, slowly, Xiao Pan told netizens that Xiao Wang's private behavior was inconsistent with that during the live broadcast: in front of the camera, he responded to his requests; after the live broadcast, his face dropped and he ignored him, and even beat and scolded himself.
Ms. Zhang, Ms. Chen and Mr. Niu have all received complaints from Xiao Pan. In the chat record of
, Xiao Pan said to Ms. Zhang: "My eyes hurt. I asked him to wipe them off and he didn't want to, so he slapped me. He said I was rubbish and scrap. Why don't I die quickly?" "Last night I lay down. I wanted to fix the pillow, but he didn’t want to. He slapped me in the face until my head hurt, and I burst into tears. He didn’t care.”
In the chat record with Ms. Chen, Xiao Pan wrote, “This morning ( Xiao Wang) He got up at 11 o'clock and asked me if I had peeed. I yelled a little louder, and he said I yelled at him. He covered me completely with the quilt at once." "Wipe my face while scolding me, slap me again, or use force. Smash my head against the pillow."
Ms. Chen understood that although her body could not move, Xiao Pan's consciousness was awake and the sense of touch was still there, causing pain and itching. The mental torture was far greater than the physical pain, but Xiao Pan said that she wanted to live a few more years and see her children grow up.
In July 2019, Xiao Wang took his wife to see a doctor in Wuhu, Anhui Province. Netizen Mr. Niu drove to pick her up. He found that Xiao Pan’s body was like a wooden board, he was as skinny as a stick, and his clothes were old and thin.
Mr. Niu still remembers that at the hotel, he bought a bowl of wontons and fed it to Xiao Pan. Xiao Pan's tongue shrank and he drooled while eating. Xiao Wang set up his mobile phone and computer aside and started live broadcasting. In the fan group, netizens sent him red envelopes.
In the early morning of April 24, 2020, Xiao Pan said "I want a divorce" in the love group. Xiao Pan also said that Xiao Wang tried to pull out her eye control device. Xiao Wang said in the group, "I've had enough, I'm tired. I don't want to continue taking care of him."
Ms. Chen felt that Xiao Wang's live broadcast gradually "changed." Around 2022, Xiao Wang called on everyone in the fan group to give him gifts and help him win the "Lianmai PK". He would take Xiao Pan to live broadcast until late at night. Xiao Pan sat with his head hanging, unable to move.
Late at night on January 20, 2023, the night before Xiao Pan died, Xiao Wang took Xiao Pan for a live broadcast.
After Xiao Pan passed away, Xiao Wang said in the group that he would need to prepare 100,000 yuan for Xiao Pan’s funeral arrangements. Ms. Zhang and other netizens thought that Xiao Wang was implying that everyone would donate money, so they published the chat records of Xiao Pan accusing Xiao Wang during his lifetime, and questioned that Xiao Wang wanted to use the deceased Xiao Pan to "make money."
Parents-in-law: The daughter-in-law relies entirely on her son to take care of her.
After Xiao Pan passed away, the conflict between Xiao Wang and Ms. Zhang and other netizens intensified.
These netizens questioned that the reason why Xiao Pan was so skinny was because Xiao Wang did not give her food to eat. Xiao Pan once confided to netizens that sometimes he could not have a liquid meal until after 4 p.m. "Healthy people can't stand even one meal a day!" Ms. Zhang said. Xiao Wang posted a video of Xiao Pan’s ear being injured, and netizens also thought it was Xiao Wang who hit him.
In July 2023, Xiao Wang sued Ms. Zhang for infringement of reputation rights, but finally withdrew the lawsuit. Xiao Wang stated in the civil complaint that his wife Xiao Pan suffered from ALS in 2015. She complained to netizens because of her long-term illness and emotional instability.
Xiao Wang’s father, Mr. Wang, is in his 60s this year. He has three sons in the family, and Xiao Wang is the second oldest. Mr. Wang and his wife said that because their daughter-in-law was 6 years older than Xiao Wang and had a scar on her face, the old couple were a little helpless about the marriage at first. However, after getting along with each other, they found that "Xiao Pan is a good daughter-in-law" who does laundry and cooking. Keep the house clean and think of ways to save money at home.
Xiao Wang’s mother, Ms. Li, also mentioned that Xiao Pan’s ear was injured and bleeding. It was the couple’s 7-year-old son who was pushing her wheelchair and wanted to take his mother out to play. The wheel hit the threshold, causing her daughter-in-law to fall and get injured.
Mr. Wang said that during the years when his daughter-in-law was ill, Xiao Wang was very busy delivering water and gas. However, operations such as using a gastric tube to give liquid food are too complicated and the two elderly people do not know how to do it. They can only wait for Xiao Wang to come back to feed him. Because the old couple has bad eyesight and is used to using the "old man phone", Xiao Pan is speechless. They don't know what she needs. Xiao Wang has to worry about taking care of his daughter-in-law.
Mr. Wang said frankly that the old couple lived downstairs and had never heard any quarrels or fights from upstairs. However, his son was tired from work and had taken care of patients for many years, so it was inevitable that he would lose control of his emotions. In his opinion, the statement that "Xiao Wang abused Xiao Pan" is "unconscionable bad words". "If Xiao Wang had not treated Xiao Pan well, he would not have been able to take care of her for so many years."
html On March 13, the town where Xiao Wang's village belongs is Government staff told Red Star News reporters that after verification, Xiao Pan, who suffered from ALS, had passed away. The village committee believed that Xiao Wang had taken good care of Xiao Pan for many years and did not abuse her. Xiao Pan spent a lot of money on medical treatment, and there was no waste of charity money.Xiao Wang has always refused to meet reporters' requests for interviews.
Biological father: Conflicts between husband and wife are inevitable, “don’t blame him”
In 1982, Xiao Pan was born in Wuhu, Anhui, a village where tea is the main crop. Now, the village has been demolished and some villagers, including Xiao Pan’s parents, have moved into the resettlement community. Xiao Pan is the second eldest child in the family and has an older brother who is doing business outside.
Xiao Pan’s father, Mr. Pan, said that when his daughter was 4 years old, some children in the village burned fertilizer bags to play. The ignited bags flew into Xiao Pan’s face, leaving a scar.
After finishing junior high school, her daughter stopped going to school and went to a factory run by a relative in Shandong to make tea packaging. After being introduced, she married a man from the same village and had a daughter. Later, the marriage changed and her daughter left home and went to work alone in Yinchuan, Ningxia. One year after her daughter's divorce, she and Xiao Wang obtained a marriage certificate and married in a village in Fuqing.
Xiao Pan’s friend from the same village, Mr. Li, remembers that Xiao Pan could still walk when he came back in 2016, but because he had no strength in his hands, he could not eat by himself and needed to be fed. By 2017, it was even more difficult for Xiao Pan to walk and he had to use a wheelchair.
Mr. Pan said that as the disease progressed, his daughter was unable to swallow food and had a gastrostomy. Xiao Wang used a syringe and a hose to directly put liquid food into his daughter's stomach. If the operation is improper and the tube is blocked or falls off, it must be repaired and reinserted into the daughter's belly. The gastric tube is broken and needs to be repaired. The repair cost is 500 yuan per time. The gastric tube broke several times, and Xiao Wang later learned to repair it by himself.
After being diagnosed with ALS, Xiao Pan told her father that she felt that she would not live long and that she would be unable to walk in 6 months and eat in 10 months. Xiao Pan said to his father, "I would rather die right away. I can still take care of myself now, but it will be more painful in the future."
Mr. Pan himself suffers from Parkinson's disease and was involved in a car accident. His health is deteriorating. Therefore, after Xiao Pan was diagnosed, Mr. Pan only went to Fuzhou to visit his daughter in 2018, 2019 and 2022.
Mr. Pan recalled that Xiao Wang fed his daughter, sometimes two or three times a day, and sometimes only once a day. He explained that to make liquid food, you must first boil the vegetables in water, crush them with a machine, filter out the residue inside to avoid clogging the needle, boil out some water, and finally let it cool. It takes several hours to prepare a meal.
Because liquid food is rich in water, if you take liquid food multiple times a day, Xiao Pan will urinate more often. Xiao Pan's small bowel movement takes one hour, and his big bowel movement takes two or three hours.
Later, Xiao Wang would give his daughter liquid food once before going out in the morning and once around 4 p.m. Sometimes he is too busy, or in order to prevent Xiao Pan from urinating frequently, he only takes liquid food once in the afternoon. "What if Xiao Pan wants to urinate and Xiao Wang Gas is delivered to someone else's doorstep? He still has to make money to support his two children." Mr. Pan said, "(Feeding once a day) We don't blame him. "
Xiao Pan also mentioned to her father that Xiao Wang beat her. Mr. Pan received calls from his son-in-law many times, "Dad, Xiao Pan said bad things about me again."
In Mr. Pan's view, the son-in-law hit Xiao Pan because Xiao Pan was "too close" to some netizens and told outsiders. Xiao Wang "bad words". He believes that the so-called "hit" is not too severe, it is just a "push" in the face, and it is a normal conflict between husband and wife. Mr. Pan advised Xiao Pan, and Xiao Wang also suffered a lot, not to always speak ill of Xiao Wang to others online, otherwise Xiao Wang would get angry again if he knew about it.
Around the end of 2022, Mr. Pan heard that Xiao Wang’s family was all “positive”. One night, Mr. Pan received a message from his daughter, "Dad, I may not live long. My throat is always blocked by phlegm. Xiao Wang pumps me several times every night." Xiao Pan sent a long line of "crying" " expression. Mr. Pan said to his daughter, "Far water cannot save a nearby fire. Dad is also sick and his hands are trembling. He needs your mother to feed him when he eats." The father and daughter gave each other a "crying" expression.
Mr. Pan still has a video on his cell phone. At that time, Xiao Pan was not sick yet. Together with Xiao Wang and Mr. Pan, he took his children to play in the park and playground. Xiao Pan sat on the swing, swinging by himself, looking at Xiao Wang, the child, and his father, with a bright smile on his face.
Red Star News reporter Wang Yucheng
editor Pan Li editor-in-chief Li Binbin
