Recently
CCTV host Nigmaiti
recalled his experience of being "campus bullied" when he was a child
In the program, Nigmaiti said
He has almost forgotten the incident of being bullied in school when he was a child
Nigmaiti said
that he was always bullied when he was a child.
In the end,
he even thought that being bullied was normal.
He was once attacked with his knee by a male classmate who could not understand him, and fell to the ground. Nigmat recalled what happened at that time and felt that he could stand up and fight back if he gritted his teeth, but he did not dare.
Because he was used to not resisting, he thought this was normal. It wasn’t until I grew up that I realized this was called “school bullying.”
At the end, Nigmat appealed to everyone: I hope that each of us, whether adults or children, will say no to campus bullying!
After hearing Nigmaiti talk about his experience, netizens also began to share their own experiences.
A netizen said that he was bullied when he was a child, but he did not dare to resist at that time. As a result, he now always has a compensatory mentality and always wants to fight to solve the problem.
Some netizens revealed their scars and told everyone about their brave resistance experiences, hoping that people who are being bullied can fight back and no longer be afraid.
What should we do if bullying occurs on campus?
What should we do if our children encounter bullying on campus?
1. Stay calm.
2. Ask for help, call for help from passers-by, and use abnormal actions to attract the attention of people around you.
3. Personal safety always comes first. Try to fight off the other person with cautionary language, or talk your way out of the situation through strategic conversation and the use of circumstances. But don't provoke the other person.
4. Don’t take the initiative to have conflicts with classmates at school. If they happen, go to the teacher to resolve them promptly.
5. No matter what kind of threats you encounter, you must tell your parents not to bear physical and psychological trauma yourself.
What should parents do when their children are bullied?
1. Teach children self-respect, self-love and self-protection
Some parents usually require their children to obey blindly and suppress their children's self-esteem. This can easily lead to children being bullied at school. If the situation exceeds the child's ability to cope, parents should take action and contact the school. Communicate with the teacher.
2. Encourage children to establish beneficial interpersonal relationships
Children who are withdrawn, unsociable, and have poor interpersonal skills are more likely to be bullied on campus. Parents should cultivate their children's ability to establish kind and supportive interpersonal relationships with their peers from an early age, which can have a buffering effect on the impact of school bullying.
3. Calm down, the most important thing is the child
When your child tells you about a situation where bullying occurred, stay calm, listen well and respond to let your child know that the situation is completely controllable. No matter what happens, his parents will stand by him and support him.
4. Empathize, don’t ask for too many details first.
Don’t just comfort your child and don’t argue with your classmates. This may make the child mistakenly think that the bullying is due to his own problems, causing him to fall into deeper pain and self-blame. Express empathy for your child and send a signal to your child that what he describes is not the "normal" of growing up and that you are deeply distressed by the way he has been treated.
5. Accept, parents will never abandon you.
Children are prone to extreme emotions after being bullied, such as being extremely resistant to interpersonal relationships, unwilling to go to school, etc. At this time, parents should be tolerant, because the child may be in a state of stress, and do not be aggressive towards him. Second degree injury.
6. Comfort, calm down the child's emotions first
Children value the care of others more when they are extremely insecure. The sooner the emotions are dealt with, the less harm and future impact will be on the child. This is more important than solving the problem itself. .
7. Thank you, you are willing to tell the matter, you are very brave.
Tell your child that you are very grateful that he has the courage to tell you this matter. At the same time, explain to him that only if he is willing to talk about this matter, his parents will have the opportunity to help him. A more effective way to express it is: I know it takes a lot of courage for you to tell me this. Even though it is so difficult, you are still willing to tell me. Thank you for your trust.
Source: Chengdu Commercial Daily Comprehensive Central Video, People’s Education, Netizen Comments
