Peninsula All-Media Reporters Sun Zhaohui Huang Yingying
In the past two days, the video of a father turning waste into treasure and making a horse-face skirt for his child has been on the hot list in the city. In the video shot by the mother, the father is wearing a vest and long johns. He uses a plastic bag to match the width of his daughter's body, cutting, pasting, origami... and finally uses plastic bags and wrapping paper to make a horse-face skirt! The video received 49,000 likes, 7,176 comments and 24,000 shares. Some netizens joked in the comment area that "love in this world is uneven" and "look at other people's dads." Some netizens shared, "When the school teacher assigns parent-child homework, my child's father and I never complain, no matter how much time we have after get off work. Tired, do all the points carefully!"
A video posted by the child's mother received 49,000 likes
On January 9, the reporter learned during an interview that the father Ding Yueping in the video was making clothes for his daughter's catwalk show the next day. I worked until the early hours of the morning.
Graduating in graphic design, three "catwalk clothes" were made until early in the morning
The reporter met Ding Yueping in a clothing store on Wenhua Road, West Coast New District, Qingdao. He was wearing a black coat and black-rimmed glasses. He spoke slowly and leisurely. Looks polite and polite. It is "far different" from the slightly casual home clothes in the video.
"I took that video casually, without paying much attention to my father's image. He was casually wearing the vest and long johns he usually wears at home. I didn't expect the video to become popular. I would have told my father to dress properly." Her mother, Wang Lina, joked that she usually runs a clothing store, and there are many Chinese-style clothes in the store. The couple both like Chinese-style designs.
"My daughter just celebrated her 4th birthday. She knows that she loves beauty, and she really wants to wear skirts. There happened to be a catwalk event in the kindergarten, and parents were asked to use environmentally friendly materials to make catwalk clothes. I thought about how much she likes skirts. My wife and I also like Chinese designs, and horse-faced skirts have become very popular recently, so why not hand-make a mini version of the horse-faced skirt for her," said Ding Yueping.
Ding Yueping and his daughter
Unexpectedly, the kindergarten activities were moved forward one day, and Ding Yueping only had one night to make it. Time was running out and he didn't even have time to eat. "I found two handbags and discarded wrapping paper, went down and bought tape, and searched the Internet for tutorials on making horse-faced skirts. I started making clothes around 7:30 in the evening. I was so anxious that I didn't even eat. Eat."
Ding Yueping used a pen to draw a wavy edge shape on the blue handbag, and used scissors to cut out a "cloud shoulder". Based on my daughter's height and width, I found a large yellow handbag to use as the lining of the skirt. At first, Ding Yueping was still sitting on the sofa, leaning down on the ground to cut handbags, and later he simply sat cross-legged on the ground.
At around 8pm, the house suddenly went dark. "There's a power outage!" the daughter yelled, and immediately found a flashlight to shine for her father. The father and daughter were enveloped in this small halo, and the daughter looked at her father with bright eyes.
"Although there was a power outage for about 20 minutes, my daughter used the flashlight to me. She felt like she was playing a game, so I continued to work with her without stopping. Thinking about it now, it was a fun and unforgettable memory, and the experience was quite good. Yes." Ding Yueping smiled so much that wrinkles formed at the corners of his eyes.
A yellow plastic bag was used to inlay the "golden belt" on the horse-faced skirt.
It took about 11 o'clock in the evening for the horse-faced skirt to take shape, and the production process was not a success. "At first, I made T-shaped pleats, but the red wrapping paper didn't turn out well, so I gave up and made parallel pleats, which is equivalent to making the skirt twice." By this time, my daughter had already fallen asleep. , my wife also wondered what the use of origami is for making a costume. "After a while, the general shape came out. When I saw it, wasn't it a horse-faced skirt? I was also surprised at the time." Wang Lina said.
"After I finished it, I felt that the effect was not as good as expected. Anyway, there were still materials left, so I made two more sets." He showed the three sets of clothes to reporters, one of which was a red jumpsuit with horse face printed with snowflakes. One set is a colorful ribbon dress, and another is a dark green half-length horse skirt with elk, socks and snowflakes printed on it, and a "golden belt" inlaid with a yellow garbage bag.
's craftsmanship is so skillful. Could it be that he is a "Lian Jiazi"? Ding Yueping told reporters that his major is graphic design, so he is quite comfortable in making it. “It took me until after 1 a.m. to finish these clothes,” he said.
She is never absent from her company, and there are more than 50,000 "baby photos" in her mobile phone album.
When she got up the next day, her daughter was so happy when she saw these beautiful dresses made by her father. "Seeing my daughter happy, I feel that my whole night's work is worth it." Ding Yueping said.
Why do you put so much effort into making these clothes? Ding Yueping said, "Because this thing is for the child to wear and display in school, we cannot let her wear it as soon as it is displayed on the stage or before it is displayed. This will also have a blow to the child's self-esteem. As a parent, I have to do Just do your best for her, rather than just deal with it." The reporter felt a father's intentions from his words. After the
catwalk, Ding Yueping and his wife went to pick up their daughter from school. The teacher repeatedly praised their craftsmanship. Ding Yueping told reporters that because both of them are doing business, they have relatively free time. As long as he has time, he and his wife will pick up their daughter from school together. "My daughter has just started kindergarten this year. We want her to feel that going to kindergarten is not leaving us. She is just changing the venue to contact more children and receive more knowledge. She will come back to us after school." It is precisely because of this kind of love and companionship that my daughter developed a strong character and did not cry on the first day of kindergarten.
The rainbow skirt Ding Yueping made for his daughter
Since childhood, Ding Yueping has assumed the role of a "mother" in the family. Regarding this, Ding Yueping said shyly, "Just let nature take its course."
His wife Wang Lina said eloquently Said, "You can't say let nature take its course." Only then did she tell reporters Ding Yueping's efforts over the years. "I am relatively thin. When I first gave birth to the baby, I was afraid to sit up, let alone hold the baby, so my father has been holding the baby since he was born. When he was just two or three months old, he needed to burp the baby. , crying when I wasn't hugged. One time I woke up in the middle of the night, opened my eyes, and saw him sitting next to me, holding the baby in his arms, nodding his head sleepily. At that time, I felt quite touched. He wanted to let me have a good time Rest, you have sacrificed so much." Not only that, Ding Yueping also took care of the diaper changing at that time. "When it comes to taking care of a child, basically whoever is comfortable with it will keep it. Slowly, as I get better, it gradually 'infiltrates' in."
My daughter has been accompanied by the husband and wife since she was a child. grow up. "We didn't leave her to our parents to take care of her. We kept her with us all the time. On our days off, we would spend all day with the child." They opened up a small open space on the second floor of the clothing store where their daughter paints. Reading area. "As long as we have time, we will spend time with our daughter. Sometimes we make plasticine together indoors, read together, and sometimes we take her outdoors to catch the sea and catch cicadas."
The couple shows off their handmade skirts
Mom Wang Lina's mobile phone has been in use for four years Recording every moment of her child's growth, she opened the photo album and the reporter found that there were more than 50,000 photos in total. "We selected some photos and printed them out. From birth to now, we have accumulated 5 photo albums with thousands of photos. Sometimes we accompany my daughter to look through it and recall what happened at that time. We find that our daughter remembers some things more clearly than we do. "She told reporters that it is said that children's memories before the age of three are blurry, but they wanted to preserve her beautiful childhood forever through photo recording.
The image of the "tiger father" is gradually being subverted, and fathers are becoming more and more involved in their children's education.
In recent years, the role of fathers has also gradually changed. The image of the "tiger father" in the past is gradually being overturned, and the image of "widowed parenting" is also gradually getting rid of. The relationship between fathers and children is becoming more equal.
reporters interviewed several primary and secondary school teachers, and they felt the same way.
Ding Yueping and his daughter
Chen Zekai, deputy head teacher of the second grade of Zhixian Middle School in Qingdao West Coast New District, believes, “Originally, more families have men taking charge of the outside and women taking charge of the house. However, due to the different times and different educational concepts, the role in the family has changed. Both parents began to pay attention to the education of students, and the father was not limited to the role of making money outside. When dealing with conflicts between students, I found that the father came forward more often."
is experimenting in Qingdao West Coast New District According to Chen Tianxue, the head teacher of the second grade of junior middle school, “From elementary school to high school, the older the children are, the more involved their fathers will be in their studies. Sometimes we communicate more with our mothers on WeChat, but later on It is the father who holds the parent-teacher meeting. When it comes to a more formal occasion like the parent-teacher meeting, or deciding which path the child will choose in the future or guiding the general direction, the father may still be the leader in many families."
Pingdu City Victory Dong Xuan, the first-grade class teacher at Lu Primary School, told reporters that in contact with parents, it is obvious that fathers are more involved and concerned about their children's education. Zhang Qingbin, the father of an outstanding student in the class, is such a representative.
Ding Yueping made a horse-faced skirt using handbags and wrapping paper
Zhang Qingbin’s eldest daughter is in the second grade of junior high school, and her younger daughter has just entered the first grade. As the director of the parent committee, he often speaks at parent-teacher meetings as a representative of student parents, imparting his experience in educating his daughters. As a practitioner and participant in family education, he believes that the roles of both parents in family life are very important and both are indispensable. "If a working mother is allowed to manage her children's study, life, and housework alone, it will not only cause excessive stress on the mother, but also cause a lack of education for the father. As members of this family, we should They share the responsibility for education with their mother. The division of labor between husband and wife is clear, and they cannot 'widow-style parenting.'"
In his contacts with peers around him, Zhang Qingbin found that more and more male parents are involved in their children's education. Although he is a father, Zhang Qingbin bluntly said that he is his daughter's "best friend". "I attach great importance to communication with my daughter. My eldest daughter is a day student. Every day after school, I will take the initiative to ask if anything interesting happened at school. Because my eldest daughter is now in adolescence, I will also discuss with her whether she likes Boy." Zhang Qingbin said, "Slowly, my daughter and I formed a kind of friendship, just like best friends between girls, we talk about everything."
According to a survey by iResearch, fathers in the parenting process participation is increasing day by day. In addition to sleeping time, 43.8% of fathers spend more than 5 hours with their babies every day.
According to a survey conducted by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center United Questionnaire Network in 2023, in what aspects does a father have a great influence on a person's growth? Character development (49.1%) ranks first, followed by responsibility (45.4%), and third is dealing with others (44.4%). Others include: value establishment (38.3%), emotional support (27.7%), rule awareness (26.1%), self-confidence building (23.9%), life skills (23.8%), etc.
