January 3rd
#Hao Shaowen’s wife revealed that her daughter was bullied at school#
The topic became a hot search topic.
Hao Shaowen released a video saying,
"This did not happen in a day or two."
This incident attracted widespread attention.
In recent years, the phenomenon of campus bullying has become very prominent around the world, and it is also common in social news reports in our country.
The behavior of 14-year-old Fuzhou girl Wenwen (pseudonym) in the past few months has made her parents very worried.
From Pistachio to Silent
Wenwen was once an optimistic and cheerful girl with excellent grades and her own interests and hobbies. She was a "pistachio" in the eyes of teachers and parents.
After entering junior high school, she became emotionally unstable and often stayed alone in her room. Her concentration on studies declined, and she even became resistant to going to school.
Wenwen's parents tried various methods, but with little success, and even lost their temper because of it.
At the suggestion of others, they took Wenwen to the Psychiatric Department of the Children's Specialized Campus of Fuzhou First General Hospital (Fujian Fuzhou Children's Hospital) for treatment.
Psychotherapist Huang Ting learned about Wenwen's real troubles through psychological interviews and psychological grid .
It turns out that Wenwen tried to dissuade his classmates from a quarrel, but was misunderstood by everyone as being nosy. Afterwards, the classmates crowded out Wenwen.
Wenwen has lived with his grandparents since he was a child. His parents have only returned to his hometown in the past two years. Wenwen has lacked communication with his parents. After the incident, he did not know how to ask for help. He began to close himself off and had no intention of studying.
After the psychological counseling, Huang Ting provided social strategies for Wenwen, and jointly discussed the emotional catharsis plan . At the same time, she also guided Wenwen's parents how to better communicate with their children.
With Wenwen's self-change and the active cooperation of her family, she made new friends and became cheerful.
What is school bullying?
Campus bullying is called student bullying in the "Minor Protection Law" . The law stipulates that student bullying is "occurring between students, and one party intentionally or maliciously commits it through physical, verbal and network means. Bullying, insulting, and causing personal injury, property loss or mental damage to the other party."
A survey shows that about 20%-25% of teenagers become perpetrators, victims, or both in school bullying. Large-scale studies in Western countries have shown that 24%-9% of teenagers often engage in bullying behaviors, and 29%-25% of school-age children are bullied.
For these students who suffer from campus bullying, how to get out of the shadow of this incident will be a lifelong issue for them and their parents.
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What are the signs that a child is being bullied at school?
Suddenly does not want to go to school: The child finds various reasons to avoid going to school, or has low motivation to learn when going to school;
Unexpected changes in mood: The child suddenly becomes depressed, unstable, sensitive and irritable, or loses his temper or moodiness Poor control and other situations;
complains that classmates are targeting him: The child often complains about school and his dissatisfaction with classmates, and complains about relationship problems with classmates;
has scars on his body: The child comes home from school all dirty and has scars on his body. At first glance, it seems to be caused by a fight, but the child insists that he was accidentally injured and must not ignore it;
Abnormal behavior: The child secretly hurts himself;
Sleep problems: The child often reports that he cannot sleep at night, or Parents notice that their children go to bed late.
Why don’t children ask for help?
encountered threats from bullies: "If you dare to tell your parents, you will be dead";
child is relatively sensitive and introverted , and does not have a good coping strategy when encountering problems. He is afraid of finding someone to deal with it and being criticized for making a fuss;
once Asked parents for help, but did not receive their attention : "It's okay for children to have minor conflicts";
The school did not discover and deal with it in time.
In the face of school bullying, parents should take the following measures:
1. Educate children on self-esteem, self-love and self-protection
Avoid making children blindly obedient, and teach them to seek help from their parents or teachers when they encounter difficulties. Parents should communicate with teachers in a timely manner to solve problems together.
2. Keep your emotions stable and support your children unconditionally.
Parents should stay calm and give their children full care and support after discovering that they are being bullied. Tell your children that their parents will do their best to help them get through this difficult time.
3. Accept children and avoid criticism and blame.
Parents should understand and accept their children's reactions and avoid stressful behaviors, such as blaming their children. Pay attention to children's psychological needs and help them come out of the shadows.
4. Encourage children to face it bravely.
Thank children for having the courage to tell their parents about their experiences, so that they can understand that only by facing them bravely can problems be solved. At the same time, parents should actively communicate with the school to seek effective solutions.
5. Guide children to establish correct values
Tell children to resist school bullying and to be neither victims nor perpetrators. Cultivate children's empathy, learn to respect others, and live in harmony with others.
Source: Fujian Health News
