There is an old saying:
Appreciation of a person starts with appearance, respects talent, suits character, stays with kindness, and finally character.
When people get along with others, they don't care about beauty and wealth, but their character.
good character, in exchange for a good reputation, good reputation, can gain true feelings.
As the saying goes: is red when it is close to vermilion, and black when it is close to ink . What kind of people is close to and what kind of people we are with will affect us in a subtle way.
Whether it is at work or in life, being with people of good character will make people feel at ease, at ease, and at ease.
Interacting with people of poor character , will only consume us continuously. Get along with people with bad intentions, and the only one who gets hurt in the end is yourself.
Therefore, stop putting everyone in your heart, learn to subtract from life, get rid of ineffective social interactions, and get rid of the chaos in your heart. If you meet these four kinds of people again in the future, don't be close friends!
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people who gossip
no one talks behind their backs, no one talks behind their backs. Where there are crowds, there are gossips, a phenomenon that cannot be avoided in ancient and modern times.
But there is a kind of gossip that is like the "stinky seeds" in melon seeds, bitter and numb, which instantly reduces appetite and completely spoils the mood.
This kind of gossip is often aimed at belittling or slandering others, and it is dedicated to exposing others' faults, passing on others' selfishness, and what's more, they add fuel to it, confuse right and wrong, sow discord, and sow discord.
When encountering such a gossip "friend", although it is quick to listen to and satisfy the curiosity of gossip, it may suffer a lot in the long run.
"He who talks about right and wrong is right and wrong", people tend to classify the speaker and the listener as one and keep them at a distance; and maybe one day you will find that this "friend" is chewing your embarrassing stories with others.
The ancients said: "Don't do evil because it is small, and don't do good because it is small."
Such a person is friendly with you on the surface, but takes pleasure in teasing you behind the scenes.
There is no benefit in getting along with such a person. Only by staying away as soon as possible can you protect yourself.
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people who love to take advantage
some people, face to face one thing, but one thing behind another, superficially enthusiastic and calculating in their hearts, when they need you, they ask you how you are, and when they don't need you, they love you and ignore you. When
sees small profits, they flock to them, and when they have no use value, they decisively discard them.
When dealing with you, he always wants to take advantage of everything. If you pay eight cents, he will think that you keep two cents, and he will never be able to satisfy him.
When I get along with you, I never want to lose money. I gave you a pen today, but I want you to give me a book in return tomorrow.
When you get along with such people, if you don't refuse them, they will intensify and continue to communicate. Not only will you lose more money, but you will also make yourself greedy and short-sighted.
You must know that those who are willing to suffer losses will not be able to suffer after all, because if they suffer a lot, there will always be a big reward;
To be kind, you must have an IQ, and to be magnanimous, you must have principles. Don't pay for those who are not worth it. If you encounter such a "friend" again, you must withdraw as soon as possible and stop the loss in time!
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people who don't know how to be grateful
A doesn't like to eat eggs, and gives B every time he sends eggs. At first, B was very grateful, but he got used to it over time.
got used to it, so it took it for granted. So, until one day, A gave C the egg, and B was upset.
B forgot that this egg belongs to A, and A can give it to anyone he wants. For this reason, they had a big fight and broke up their friendship.
The biggest evil of human nature is not being grateful. If you are used to asking, you will not be able to accept your rejection. There is an old saying: fighting rice nourishes kindness, and bearing rice nourishes hatred. People who don't know how to be grateful never miss your kindness, but only remember your mistakes.
You will never warm the heart of a person who does not know how to be grateful. No matter how much he pays, it will be futile for him, because in his eyes, there are only benefits.
Who is sincere and who is false, time will always give the answer. All dharmas are empty, and cause and effect are not empty. Only by accumulating good deeds and virtues can one get good;
If a person doesn't know how to be grateful, takes other people's contribution as a matter of course, takes other people's help for granted, and even does ungrateful things, such a person will break up friendship as soon as possible!
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Those who advise you to be magnanimous
Some people say: no one who has cried bitterly in the middle of the night is not enough to talk about life.
In life, we all long for someone who understands us, understands our hardships, understands our sorrows, and can help us when we sink into the abyss.
The ideal is different from the reality. Everyone's life is like drinking water, knowing how warm and cold, empathy is more like a scam.
Facing the same thing, maybe your heart is already turbulent and full of sadness, but in the eyes of others, today you are just a little more silent than usual.
Don't persuade others to be kind without others suffering.
However, there are some people who, after we are injured, think that we are making a fuss out of a molehill, and persuade us to be generous and let us forgive.
They don't ask why, they don't know the situation, they just look at our pain through the eyes of outsiders, never consider our feelings, and never give our heart. People like
are like accomplices, they have no consideration for us at all, they kidnap us from the moral high ground, it will only make us more sad. People like
are not worth getting along with, and there is no need to contact them again!
As a human being in this life, no one has to accommodate others. How you treat others will not necessarily be reciprocated by others. Being kind to others is a virtue, but being too soft-hearted will only help others and wrong yourself.
No matter who you get along with, you must have an IQ. Don't give to those who are not worth it, and don't associate with those who are not sincere.
Being kind to people with bad intentions and hypocrisy is cruel to oneself; being soft-hearted to those who push forward and make things worse is even more irresponsible to oneself.
So if you meet the above four kinds of people in your life, don't get close, don't trust, don't contact, if you want to turn your face, turn your face, and if you want to reject it, reject it.
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